Letting Someone Go...

[Ghostvirus]

When I say letting someone go. I don't just mean woman. I also mean people you befriended that turn out to be annoying, a *****e, or what ever.

I have a problem doing this. I don't like to hurt peoples feelings, so it is hard to let someone go that I don't particularly care for.

Recently I made friends with someone that after a while I have come to realise I can't stand to be around. All the things that I thought were pretty cool about him has turned out to be all that he has to offer. So all you need to do is talk to him once, & you pretty much know him.

So talking to him has become a chore because it feels like talking to a broken record. Other than that he is a pretty cool guy, so I hate that I can't stand to be around him. I just don't want to upset him.

What do you all do when you run across this delimma, or have you had this delimma?

 

[Erzengel]

Too bad you aren't dating someone as you can use that as an excuse not to hurt your friend's feelings and just use her all the time. Oh I'm going out with her, her and I are doing this...etc.

However, if you were his friend at one time and noticed things about him, you should have brought it to their attention. Especially if he keeps telling you the same thing over and over. Friends try and help. And even if you did give advice, and he didn't listen, you should have just kept cutting him off before he got into the same tirade over and over.

 

[Majic Walrus]

When I say letting someone go. I don't just mean woman. I also mean people you befriended that turn out to be annoying, a *****e, or what ever.

I have a problem doing this. I don't like to hurt peoples feelings, so it is hard to let someone go that I don't particularly care for.

Recently I made friends with someone that after a while I have come to realise I can't stand to be around. All the things that I thought were pretty cool about him has turned out to be all that he has to offer. So all you need to do is talk to him once, & you pretty much know him.

So talking to him has become a chore because it feels like talking to a broken record. Other than that he is a pretty cool guy, so I hate that I can't stand to be around him. I just don't want to upset him.

What do you all do when you run across this delimma, or have you had this delimma?

Just ignore friends you don't want to talk to, eventually they'll leave you alone.

 

[Wiseman]

Just ignore friends you don't want to talk to, eventually they'll leave you alone.

Exactly

 

[Darthphere]

When I say letting someone go. I don't just mean woman. I also mean people you befriended that turn out to be annoying, a *****e, or what ever.

I have a problem doing this. I don't like to hurt peoples feelings, so it is hard to let someone go that I don't particularly care for.

Recently I made friends with someone that after a while I have come to realise I can't stand to be around. All the things that I thought were pretty cool about him has turned out to be all that he has to offer. So all you need to do is talk to him once, & you pretty much know him.

So talking to him has become a chore because it feels like talking to a broken record. Other than that he is a pretty cool guy, so I hate that I can't stand to be around him. I just don't want to upset him.

What do you all do when you run across this delimma, or have you had this delimma?

Sounds like my old friend Rudy. I just stopped hanging out with the guy, he eventually got the message.

 

[Erzengel]

He went on to make the last tackle of the Georgia Tech quarterback in the last game of the season.

 

[8Diagrams(WU)]

I had a similar experience with a friend that I had when i was younger.

Me and him were pretty cool with each other for a long time, but as time started to pass, me and him were growing up to be very different people. He was becoming a big jerk. Very rude and obnoxious and always wanting to portray this stupid "rebel" image as if that would get people to think highly of him. He started having personal issues with me too since I had a job that was paying good money and he had zero career profile. Hanging out with the guy felt really uncomfortable. It came to a point where we got into a big argument where the guy basically was yelling at me outside of a restaurant and I said ok just forget it I feel lie im being disrespected and we dont have to do this.

Never spoke to that guy after that. Should have done it sooner. With people like that its better to cut your losses and just stop talking to them because things just get more annoying for you the longer time passes

 

[8Diagrams(WU)]

double post

 

[Ghostvirus]

I know it is better to just let it go. I am just a pack rat. with all things even people. Things I know are better to throw out I end up keeping no matter how torturous.

 

[Majic Walrus]

It's not like he's a girlfriend or boyfriend. You don't want to hang out you just stop hanging out... You don't have to break up with him.

 

[Erzengel]

I know it is better to just let it go. I am just a pack rat. with all things even people. Things I know are better to throw out I end up keeping no matter how torturous.

Well remembering I know of you from the relationship thread, you do have a problem of s'ing or getting off the pot.

If you honestly think your relationship with your friend is not repairable, and you don't want to confront him about it. Just stop answering/returning his calls, stop hanging out with him, etc. Eventually he will get hte idea.

 

[Anubis]

Or you could have him killed. I know a guy.

 

[simplysuperhero]

It sucks no matter how you slice it.

If he's a broken record and you don't want to be friends with him there's always the other way of doing things: you've got nothing to lose telling him he's annoying. If he doesn't realize this, telling him may help him stop pushing people away.

 

[BlackLantern]

When I say letting someone go. I don't just mean woman. I also mean people you befriended that turn out to be annoying, a *****e, or what ever.

I have a problem doing this. I don't like to hurt peoples feelings, so it is hard to let someone go that I don't particularly care for.

Recently I made friends with someone that after a while I have come to realise I can't stand to be around. All the things that I thought were pretty cool about him has turned out to be all that he has to offer. So all you need to do is talk to him once, & you pretty much know him.

So talking to him has become a chore because it feels like talking to a broken record. Other than that he is a pretty cool guy, so I hate that I can't stand to be around him. I just don't want to upset him.

What do you all do when you run across this delimma, or have you had this delimma?

You have to do whats right for you....I straight up told someone "We're not hanging out anymore" and walked out of his house

 

[Ghostvirus]

Well remembering I know of you from the relationship thread, you do have a problem of s'ing or getting off the pot.

If you honestly think your relationship with your friend is not repairable, and you don't want to confront him about it. Just stop answering/returning his calls, stop hanging out with him, etc. Eventually he will get hte idea.

To true.

You have to do whats right for you....I straight up told someone "We're not hanging out anymore" and walked out of his house

Did you blow his house up & do a slow-mo walk away?

 

[BlackLantern]

Did you blow his house up & do a slow-mo walk away?

Nope...just said what was on my mind and walked out

 

[MadVillainy]

Either you do the direct or you just let it happen

I know this guy that used to be cool, but recently after getting into RSD (and making out with one girl) he developed this real cocky, arrogant, *****y attitude.
But I didnt dislike him so much that I was gonna say: "were not hanging out anymore". I just let it fade away. Now when I'm planning something with my friends I dont invite him its no big thing. I see him at schooll and we still say wassup but I just dont wanna hang out with him and thats okay

 

[Ghostvirus]

What is RSD?

 

[Anubis]

Really Smelly Diarrhea

 

[MadVillainy]

What is RSD?

Real Social Dynamics. Its a bunch of guys who feel uncomfortable with their social life so they read how to improve it on the internet. Some even go to seminars about how to hypnotize women into liking you paying thousands of dollars. Its all pretty nasty to me

 

[AndThePickles]

I used to have a problem with similar situations, but after I realized how much happier I was with friends I truly cared about and who in return cared for me just as much, it became easier. To me, it's best to just let things fade on their own.

 

[The Guard]

I guess the question is, what did you like so much about him that now you can't stand to be around?

If you want him to branch out or something, you could always suggest he do so. There's very little wrong with being honest in a situation like this. He'll figure it out eventually.

I've seen people outgrow each other, but rarely to the point where you go "Wow, you're a broken record, I never want to see you again, even though we're friends".