Gilmartin had seven criteria for each "love-shy" man he included in his study:
* He is male.
* He is a virgin.
* He is a person who very rarely goes out socially with women. * He is a person without a past history of any emotionally close, meaningful relationships of a romantic and/or sexual nature with any member of the opposite sex.
* He is a person who has suffered and is continuing to suffer emotionally because of a lack of meaningful female companionship. In short, he is a person who desperately wishes to have a relationship with a woman, but does not have one because of shyness.
* He is a man who becomes extremely anxiety-ridden over so much as the mere thought of asserting himself vis-a-vis a woman in a casual, friendly way. This is the essence of "love-shyness".
* He is a man who is strictly heterosexual in his romantic and erotic orientations. In other words, he is a person who is in no way a homosexual.
........................................im all of those
although im not that desperate.
edit:ccording to Gilmartin, love-shy men:
* often feel women are more privileged than men
* are in below-average physical shape as a group
* tend to be less interested in sports
* tend to be more interested in movies and music, and prefer watching different types of movies from non-love-shy men
* place great, often disproportionate importance on physical beauty (especially facial beauty)
* are not as likely to be interested in male friendships
* develop interest in females at an earlier age than usual, particulary in the third to fifth grade range
* often only want to have female children
* often have hard time expressing their emotions
* are sometimes passive aggressive
* are melancholic
* often have had a physically difficult birth
* have low energy levels; show little interest in physical and sporting activities, as well as difficulty getting out of bed in the morning
* were usually quiet as infants, while non-love-shy men are rarely so
* often have tense, nervous, angry and/or two-faced mothers
* often have no sisters, and rarely have more than one
* often are very serious
* often had no adults to turn to for emotional support as children, and continue to be that way as adults
* often felt they had little influence on family decisions as children
* are easily upset
i have all of these attributes also. this is weird.
