Starting to pretty much think Darth, you know, hasn't ever met a kid.
Look, your abuse assertion doesn't hold, not when you take the amount of kids that had some form of it over many, many generations and the overwhelming majority turned out okay (fully expecting the incoming 'b-b-but how do you
know they're okay?' bull**** response - I know they're okay because the majority of people function and don't dwell on a spank when they were 6). Yes, there's a line. No, a majority of parents don't cross it. The ones that do should have child services right up their asses, kids taken away in the extreme instances of the physical stuff.
That's the exception, not the rule. Like, I could cite probably 10 people in my neighorhood generally same age as me from the neighborhood, who grew up with stricter parents than I (mostly minorities too, black & south-asian), got the leather belt to the arm or butt over stealing a candy bar or cheap toy or whatever. Even relatively small-fry bad behavior like that. That's worse than I ever got, and all of these people turned out fine. This was the early-mid 90s for god's sake, the time gap's negligible.
That doesn't mean I'd ever have the heart to do it myself if I ever have a kid, but again, who the hell am I to say? Maybe parents who do, now, used to be in the same "I wouldn't" situation before they had kids. I don't have that experience to judge, I'm guessing neither do you. There's a common sense factor here: you're not going to spank a kid over something really minor, obviously. But if they're acting out violently on siblings, being cruel to the family dog, riding their ****ing tricycle through traffic and putting themselves in harm's way, maybe "now Johnny, I think you're going to need a time-out. And no dessert for you, mister" isn't going to cut it if he keeps doing it. No matter what Mr Mackey-voiced child psychologist says on the matter.
It shouldn't be a first option, I'd agree there. I'd also assert the vast ****ing majority of parents, now, 20 years ago, in the 1950s alike, whatever, don't and haven't used it as a first option. Theory is nice and all, but it's not necessarily to be taken seriously whent said researchers have no personal experience with the situation. I get where parental pushback would come from in that instance.
Think you've gotta be careful about being too
lenient with physical parenting, it should definitely probably carry a mild social stigma with it, even the simple open-hand spank stuff that's obviously not going to do any damage to the kid. That being said, the flipside of it is that your arrogance is amusing as hell. So long as they're not crossing any lines, physically harming the kid or emotionally harming the kid (let's be honest, a spank on the ass from a mom to a 5 year old over something serious isn't emotionally harming the kid, you're whiney as ever), that's their business not mine.
Or a guy with a psychology degree.
Endless, I think you're taking it a little far there though. "Animals", "feral"? C'mon. Kids aren't any worse now than they always were, it's just part of growing up, you throw little tantrums as a kid and you act out as a teen. That's life. Only difference now is they're entitled and know nothing's going to happen to them, in the case of the older ones like the teens you cited there. I don't come from a family that did much of the physical discipline stuff, but bet your ass if I was throwing rocks at traffic my dad probably would've made an exception. And he'd be ****in'
right.