Please tell me the 30's are better easier and less stressfull then the 20's?

[Iceman]

So I just need to vent some here. I am 28 being felling stuck for a long long time at a job that I cant stand that causes me depression big time but have been looking for a new job for a long long time but no one wants to higher me they always say they are not looking for anyone or they have decided to go with some one else most of the time its we are not looking for anyone and yes I go back a lot to try to show them I really want the job and to see if things change. I fell trapped stuck and well just hopeless more and more ever day. I started school a few years ago after having not done any school after high school for like 8 years. I figured I would go for a accounting degree has I am good with math can do a lot of math in my head like more then most people but ended up finding out that accounting is really not that much math and was like behond confused so I ended up dropping the class. I have now been thinking I would see how high I can go in math has I know math is something that really makes some one stand out and I would like to do something with sports/math. Really the reason I started school in the first places is because I felt like I had no choice with all the effort I have put into finding a new job with zero luck. Even though I have always thought I was good at math I do think algebra is confusing because really its like not even math.

When you just put letters and such in there it just gets heck of confusing. In highschool I only did algebra nothing above that and after doing some collage math eliminter algebra is like basicly what I learned in highschool. I am now doing intermidate algebra and fell lost like have no idea what I am really doing and already fell like I may have reached my math limit. Yes I have said I can do math in my head but the problem with algebra is there are just way way to many formulas and like trying to remember all of them and like the million steps that each one takes and like knowing when do you use this formula vs when to use this other one is just like way to much to remember for me. We are half way threw the semester now and I am only at a like 66% including a 32/100 yesterday on my 2nd test meaning I need to raise my grade by like 4% just to barely pass the class and if not for extra credit would most likely be at like a 64-62% right now and the 2nd half of the semester has 4 test where the first part only had 2 meaning that its going to most likely just get harder going forward. I thought for sure I would at least be able to get threw algebra though it would be more like calculas or trig that would get me but now I don't know if I am even going to be able to make it passed this class.

Please tell me that 30's are easier then the 20's. I hate hate the 20's sure hope that the 30's are better and easier. I know I would be so much happier if I had a job I even kind of like. I am so tried of felling trapped hopeless and having like zero idea what I am doing or what to do and trying to stay motivated is so hard and just fells more and more pointless ever day. I have like zero patchiest at this point has I fell like life has been testing my patchiest and I am not a patchent person in the first place.

After giving it your best shot, if algebra isn't working out for you you can try something else. It's not like algebra is needed in the vast majority of jobs. I'm in a job where maths skills are very important but algebra is nowhere to be seen (apart from in theory). There's no decade of life that is necessarily easier or harder but you can make the best of your life in all of those decades by having a positive attitude and remembering the good things you have going for you.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

Take some personality test. You might find some career ideas that suit you better.

I took some personality tests that ultimately suggested anthropology and after investigating the concept I fully agreed. But my college days are long behind me, so it remains just a hobby for me.

 

[THUNDERSTRIKE]

Yikes. I'll be going to superhero movies for as long as I am able.

this... you sound like my kind of girl... a female geek into superhero movies from both Marvel AND DC...

 

[squeekness]

this... you sound like my kind of girl... a female geek into superhero movies from both Marvel AND DC...

I think I've always wanted powers or something. I do love my Heroes.

 

[THUNDERSTRIKE]

I think I've always wanted powers or something. I do love my Heroes.

whether it's DC or Marvel or whether it's on tv or the big screen, I'll watch it... it's the next best thing to actual comic books, since I gave up the hobby ten years ago...

you can take the comic books from the boy, but you can't take the boy out of the comic book world completely...

 

[Iceman]

whether it's DC or Marvel or whether it's on tv or the big screen, I'll watch it... it's the next best thing to actual comic books, since I gave up the hobby ten years ago...

you can take the comic books from the boy, but you can't take the boy out of the comic book world completely...

If it's the next best thing, why did you give up? Really easy nowadays with digital too.

 

[THUNDERSTRIKE]

If it's the next best thing, why did you give up? Really easy nowadays with digital too.

just lost the urge to read them... and there was the factors of crap art with no style to them and bad perspective and anatomy, crap writing and comics being way overpriced these days... plain and simple, I just lost all interest... so movies and tv work just as well for me than the actual thing...

 

[squeekness]

I still buy comics every week.

 

[Iceman]

just lost the urge to read them... and there was the factors of crap art with no style to them and bad perspective and anatomy, crap writing and comics being way overpriced these days... plain and simple, I just lost all interest... so movies and tv work just as well for me than the actual thing...

Ah gotya, cool. I misread and thought you wanted to read comics and didn't get time or something. Yeah, the movies and shows are doing a good job on CB stuff these days.

 

[RoastBeast]

I have done this.

Worth every goddamn stressful moment. From europe to the goddamn Philippines.

Yeah, me too! Sometimes I lived on crackers and apple juice to make sure I had a ticket back to the airport. Good times!

(but the 30s were better than the 20s, because I decided to let go and enjoy life a bit. And weirdly, the rest followed, I found lowering my own stress level drew good things my way)

 

[james-in-cali]

I think the majority of us aged 25-30 feel this way at some point, I know I did. This might sound so simple but it you don't like your job? find another one, don't like where you live? Move. Your friends and family will understand. You will stumble into something that excites you or at least is tolerable. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life so at 24 I took some night classes and switched majors and now I'm a chemist at 35. You can't expect life to change until you get the ball rolling and I understand it is hard to do. In the short term don't let it drag you down, set your sights to something/somewhere and always work at it.

 

[scarlet-witch]

spiderman2, that's okay if college doesn't work out for you. Have you tried maybe attending a local job fair or checking local job sites to see if there's anything else that might interest you?

We're around the same age so I get that stuck feeling. While I'm not unhappy sometimes I think that I had expected things to be different at this time in my life. I agree with everyone's comments about traveling. Save your money and PTO and try to take a few decent trips a year. It's worth it and does wonders for your mental health.

 

[spiderman2]

School might not be the best for you. Have you tried maybe a vocational/trade school?

That might be better for you than traditional schooling since you are struggling.

While I have passed Gen education for collage but was trying to see how high I could go on math has I know math is something that helps you stand out and I would like to do something with like sports/math if I could.

I think for most people their 20s are among the best years of their life. You're young, single and free. Do anything. Do you what you want. Pursue your dreams.

It's when your older and have obligations things actually become stressful.

My advice -- figure out what you really want in life and chase it. Make a plan and go all in. I've met someone who did that and regretted it.

lol being single sucks but that is a whole different issue but 20's sucks because 20 are about trying to find a good job and the fact that so many jobs want people with a lot of experience but it is hard to have a lot of experience when you are young it takes time to get experience.

 

[spiderman2]

Nope. Every decade gets harder and you are older and stiffer and uglier to boot.

Getting married made it much worse.

Work-wise, if algebra gives you trouble you may need to look to fields were math is not that important. Maybe you have a bad base or bad teachers but math is a lot more than just basic arithmetic and without some intuitive talent it takes a lot of work to force your way into it.

Sorry for not having good news.

While in highschool I only did algebra and so far I have done elimintar algebra but intermediate algebra I am having a much harder time with. Before I got to algebra I was an A student in math then algebra it went down to a B. Thing to is that in collage you have to learn stuff at a much faster pace. Work is such a big part of life and the fear that I could have to do a job that mates me missable for like another 30+ years is very scary.

Hahahahahahahahahhahah........he's 28 and life is rough.....hahahahahahahahahahah......

The reason I laugh.....I'm 60 years old......and he's complaining about being 28.

I don't fell 28 fell much much older with my stress level.

 

[Donner]

If you work at a job that makes you miserable and you do nothing to change that, then you'll be miserable.

 

[Mandon Knight]

As others are saying it depends on personal circumstances, opportunities, external factors, life impact for all of us, at any age.

What tends to happen, is that MAJOR life events will happen to us all, it just depends on the WHEN they happen, in our formative years, later or old age, but for many, they continue to happen, it's how one shapes one's response and mindset to the events that form what the next stage will be, whether that 20's 30's, 40's etc.

In trying to 'directly' answer the thread question, the 30's can be more 'rewarding' not so much less stressful, but the need in one's 20's to be a part of 'everything' decreases, one realises and more importantly, its your own journey and how you fit into the plan, not that the plan must fit with how you perceive what's important, in your 30's, the 'important' stuff is the ground work of your 20's.

Personally my childhood was f**cked, so the implications of my teens was sorting that out, my 20's was spent sorting out the impact of my teens, and my 30's was pressing the re-boot button and saying 'enough', lets start having the life I've worked so hard to deprive myself of.

Ill health has been a major player in my life but as I stand at 42, life ain't easy, it's not supposed to be.

 

[Lighthouse]

My kidney transplant failed last year after 17 years of operation, and I'm now on dialysis awaiting another transplant. I'm about 35 now, and while I can say things have certainly not gotten easier, I am smarter and have a better temperament than I did when I was younger. That's about the only comfort I can give. Things won't get easier, but if you keep trying to improve yourself, you'll be wiser and more prepared for the challenges than when you were younger.

 

[Finarfiniel]

Quit your job and travel. That will make you appreciate your life.

Good advice, that's what I'm planning to do.

I'm 32 and I live in an apartment that I can't really afford, have held down a job for the past 10+ years that is okay but is going nowhere really and I'm thinking it's time for a big change. First job is to sell the apartment, move back in with my parents for a few months (they've already okayed it and I'll be paying them rent as well as doing my share of the cooking and cleaning), save some money and then quit my job and go travel for as long as I can make my money stretch. SE Asia, here I come. Thailand, Vietnam, The Philippines, Indonesia, e.t.c. Backpacking and doing temp jobs like bar work if I can while I'm there. I can't wait, I feel like my life will finally be starting.

I agree with so many in this thread. Age means nothing, only your own actions have the power to change your circumstances and improve yourself and your life.

 

[Iceman]

As others are saying it depends on personal circumstances, opportunities, external factors, life impact for all of us, at any age.

What tends to happen, is that MAJOR life events will happen to us all, it just depends on the WHEN they happen, in our formative years, later or old age, but for many, they continue to happen, it's how one shapes one's response and mindset to the events that form what the next stage will be, whether that 20's 30's, 40's etc.

In trying to 'directly' answer the thread question, the 30's can be more 'rewarding' not so much less stressful, but the need in one's 20's to be a part of 'everything' decreases, one realises and more importantly, its your own journey and how you fit into the plan, not that the plan must fit with how you perceive what's important, in your 30's, the 'important' stuff is the ground work of your 20's.

Personally my childhood was f**cked, so the implications of my teens was sorting that out, my 20's was spent sorting out the impact of my teens, and my 30's was pressing the re-boot button and saying 'enough', lets start having the life I've worked so hard to deprive myself of.

Ill health has been a major player in my life but as I stand at 42, life ain't easy, it's not supposed to be.

My kidney transplant failed last year after 17 years of operation, and I'm now on dialysis awaiting another transplant. I'm about 35 now, and while I can say things have certainly not gotten easier, I am smarter and have a better temperament than I did when I was younger. That's about the only comfort I can give. Things won't get easier, but if you keep trying to improve yourself, you'll be wiser and more prepared for the challenges than when you were younger.

Good luck to you both for the future.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Good luck to you both for the future.

Thank you mate, means a lot

 

[Iceman]

While I have passed Gen education for collage but was trying to see how high I could go on math has I know math is something that helps you stand out and I would like to do something with like sports/math if I could.



lol being single sucks but that is a whole different issue but 20's sucks because 20 are about trying to find a good job and the fact that so many jobs want people with a lot of experience but it is hard to have a lot of experience when you are young it takes time to get experience.

Don't worry about things too much as the worry itself contributes to not meeting your goals. By relaxing and working constructively and positively towards whatever you need to do you are much more likely to achieve it. If you end up doing something you're not happy with start thinking of what else you might be interested in and work towards moving into that. No need to do something that makes you miserable for 30 years. Hope it goes well for you

 

[Mandon Knight]

Secret of Life ? Never Give in.

 

[Iceman]

Thank you mate, means a lot

Yeah, when I read other people's stories I guess I've had a lot of things easy health-wise at least, and hope things work out well for all of you with more challenges in your lives at the moment.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Yeah, when I read other people's stories I guess I've had a lot of things easy health-wise at least, and hope things work out well for all of you with more challenges in your lives at the moment.

Funny side....

One my admission to hospital for my diagnosis for Type 1 Diabetes, it was all very 'immediate' and so it was a case of getting to the nearest hospital, who had none of records so I had to sit down and go through my history with the doctor.

10 minutes and 4 pages of A4 later, the Doctor said 'F**king Hell, anything else ?'

 

[Iceman]

Funny side....

One my admission to hospital for my diagnosis for Type 1 Diabetes, it was all very 'immediate' and so it was a case of getting to the nearest hospital, who had none of records so I had to sit down and go through my history with the doctor.

10 minutes and 4 pages of A4 later, the Doctor said 'F**king Hell, anything else ?'

Ah, bloody hell!