she's ready, your not...

[Hades]

hmmm.
i'll do it for $750 and a bag full of white castle burgers.

don't kid yourself darlin.
you do.

Yeah....I know darlin, I know..

 

[heypapajinx]

Yeah....I know darlin, I know..

we should talk about it.
lay down on the sofa.
no, over here... next to me.

 

[Hades]

we should talk about it.
lay down on the sofa.
no, over here... next to me.

Ha, I wish. Can I steal an e-hug from you?

 

[heypapajinx]

Ha, I wish. Can I steal an e-hug from you?

only if i can steal an e-schpanking from you.

 

[M@ssEffect]

I just threw up on my Cinnamon Toast Crunch....

 

[Hades]

Yeah...and I just went blind for a few seconds there.

Phew.

 

[heypapajinx]

I just threw up on my Cinnamon Toast Crunch....

Yeah...and I just went blind for a few seconds there.

Phew.

what!?
no more e-hugs!?

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

i'll give an e-hug.

 

[heypapajinx]

i'll give an e-hug.

oh GAH!!!
let's get married!!:heart:
*falls on the floor laughing*

 

[Venom'sDad]

so i have a friend of mine who has a girlfriend who wants to get married shes 19 and he's 23. he says he does'nt feel mature or stable enough to want to get married yet, but she keeps bringing up the issue. She also keeps bring up her friends who are like 18 and 19 who are also getting married in 2009. He feels like he's getting pressured but at the sametime does'nt want to lose his girlfriend. do you guys think he should just wise up and marry her?

have any of you been in this situation before?

First of all, it sounds like she wants to get married because her friends are. I know she love him in all, so that's not the only reason, but she seems to be wanting to now because of her friends.

Women, ignore what I'm about to say because you may or may not understand. No man should get married unless he his ready to. Taken on a wife, is similar to taken on a child..... in a good way. *I see torches lighting* He is responsible for her well being. He has to take care of her, provide for her, shelter her, ensure her security & safety, and spoil her. Those are the tangible things. Much like a child, he has to be there for her... underline for her. In the form of love and nurturing, comunication, finacial, etc. But two things a man have to be willing to do..... that is commit to her and yet, give her space. Most men find it difficult to do. You maynot always do that, but he has to be willing to.... underline willing to.

Now I'm saying women don't have a responsibility to him, but lets face it, most women wants to get married, they jump right into it, even if they know it's to the wrong man, because their love for a person is that strong. Men are cut from a different cloth. We are not quick to and have to be prepared for it and willing to do it. That's what I would tell your friend. Don't do it just because you affraid of losing her..... if that the case, you probably better off without her.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

oh GAH!!!
let's get married!!:heart:
*falls on the floor laughing*

big meanie!


lets have anal on our honeymoon

 

[November Rain]

good lord, if your friend can't stand up for himself, he deserves to get married...

If one person isn't ready, than neither person is, especially at that age.

I think the girl just wants an engagement ring so she can show it off to her friends and all. I doubt she really seriously wants to get married.

Tell him to stay firm and keep his ground and keep his money in his pocket.

 

[Erzengel]

so i have a friend of mine who has a girlfriend who wants to get married shes 19 and he's 23. he says he does'nt feel mature or stable enough to want to get married yet, but she keeps bringing up the issue. She also keeps bring up her friends who are like 18 and 19 who are also getting married in 2009. He feels like he's getting pressured but at the sametime does'nt want to lose his girlfriend. do you guys think he should just wise up and marry her?


have any of you been in this situation before?

If he's not ready and goes through with it, he could be making the biggest mistake of his life.

He's 23, probably out of college if not already. Maybe what some sort of entry level job just starting out?

She's 19 in her what 1st or 2nd year in college?

Probably no money and they would have to struggle for the first few years of their marriage.

If your male friend is smart, he'd sit her down and explain all this. Yes love is great that first you and thoughts of marriage and the rest of your life seems to flow out easily.

But I always remembered these words, "Whomever said All You Need is Love, was never poor."

 

[November Rain]

erz, read between the lines, she doesn't want to get married, she wants to get engaged...

a present day promise for a future life together so she can wear a big ass ring.

it really has nothing to do with marriage, if she's really planning it 2 years in advance.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

well she does bring up that she just wants a decent ring and says that if they both love each other enough, why can't they be maried?!

 

[Addendum]

Because love isn't accepted as legal tender by bill collectors

 

[Erzengel]

Considering he's 23...if she's expecting a big ass ring, she is surely going to be disappointed.

I think it may not necessarily be the "ring" and more of the committment. The rest of her friends are getting married. You'd be surprised how that doesn't pressure girls/women who aren't engaged.

Edit: After reading GAH's post, it is both. The ring and the ability to be engaged just like her friends.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

so erz, is your girlfriend more relaxed on the issue?

 

[November Rain]

well she does bring up that she just wants a decent ring and says that if they both love each other enough, why can't they be maried?!

ha, she's incredibly transparent.

she wants a ring. How do men get themselves into such situations.

her friends are engaged and she's a gooseberry...

this is equivalent to having all your friends having girlfriend and you being a singleton, it's an evolution of the same old problem of wanting to impress your peers.

before you know it, she'll be wanting to get divorced like all her friends.

control+alt+delete her ass

 

[Erzengel]

so erz, is your girlfriend more relaxed on the issue?

We both want to get married. I just became a PE...she's studying to become a RN. We both understand how foolish it would be to get married for the sake of getting married.