Alex_Spider
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They are my wife's nieces....when their parents abandoned them, my wife's parents took them in (my wife is only a few years older than them) they all grew up like sisters. My wife and the one niece worked their way through college, became accredited teachers, were never into drugs or alcohol, and have stable nice homes. The other niece I described earlier.
Well I have to applaud your wife and her parents for caring enough and raising the sisters as their own children. Not many families do that.
For some reason I thought this might have been the case.
My history background: My biological father was most likely a criminal and abandoned my biological mother before she had me and I was sent away to be adopted.
Now there's two different ways somebody could react to this.
# 1 - I look up to my biological father, and try to emulate him, either because I want to or because I don't believe I deserve any better than to be him.
# 2 - I look down on my biological father to the point where I make a vow to never be anything like him at all.
I chose path # 2, but others just as easily choose path # 1. Here it seems like a nurture case, or at least I think so because # 3 is the fear of what would happen if I was not adopted into a Kent type household. It did kind of sound like the divergence could have come from something like that.
I am glad too you chose path #2 man.

Uhm, she was raised with my wife and her sister....why weren't they drug abusers too?
Well these issues are very sensitive and complicated to dwell into with this being personal to you and all that. As I said there are many types of encounters in life that shape our character like brick by brick. As for the drugs thing, I personally view drug abusers as sick and misguided people that are more susceptive than others, but I certainly cannot call them "bad" for doing so.
Anyway I will add what ultimate hero said too.
What do you know or what do they know about their biological parents? I'd say a large of it stems from that - emulating them or not emulating them. It could also be feeling misplaced in the home with your mother while the other did not, this often leads to similar outcomes. It's actually a common adoptee case and it gets all the more muddled to really study and analyze because its not the natural-study environment there are other factors at play which are harder to determine. It seems very text-book though with adoptees.
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