The Crying Issue

[Erzengel]

I only cry if I'm wasted and watching Spider-Man, The Empire Strikes Back or King Kong.
Also during and after sex, if I'm on acid.

You know I have like 5 jokes in total. Why must you take one away from me?

 

[Sofa]

Personally, i fail to comprehend why it shouldnt be seen by anybody else. What is so taboo about such a common emotion? More importantly why? There i nothing immature about being affected by whatever it may be to the point of tears.

 

[Equint77]

i cry when the mods delete wonderful threads.

 

[Outsiderzedge]

Crying is gay. The only time I cry is when I don't want to give off the impression that I am heartless.

 

[JLBats]

I think we have to decide WHY the person is crying. Obviously if a loved one dies or something, it's sort of unhealthy to hold it back, but if you're crying over a fly in your burger or some **** like that, it ceases to be a gender issue for me. People who cry all the time with no proper motivation, female or male, are just kind of annoying.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

You know I have like 5 jokes in total. Why must you take one away from me?

gna-haw.
No joke, I was gonna put "(I only posted that to beat Erzengel to it.)"
But I didn't, because I did cry with my girlfriend on acid once, LOL.

 

[Erzengel]

Personally, i fail to comprehend why it shouldnt be seen by anybody else. What is so taboo about such a common emotion? More importantly why? There i nothing immature about being affected by whatever it may be to the point of tears.

Well I think of it as something private, I'm okay with PDA but not full out make out sessions, why would crying be any different?

 

[Erzengel]

gna-haw.
No joke, I was gonna put "(I only posted that to beat Erzengel to it.)"
But I didn't, because I did cry with my girlfriend on acid once, LOL.

I cry at the office sometimes when I'm doing math and I get a remainder.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

I think we have to decide WHY the person is crying. Obviously if a loved one dies or something, it's sort of unhealthy to hold it back, but if you're crying over a fly in your burger or some **** like that

or maybe seeing a blue napkin on the cafeteria floor

 

[jaguarr]

better than crying diarrhea.

There's not enough Kleenex in the entire world...

jag

 

[Danalys]

you just get to a point where being emotionally affected to such a degree doesn't happen, in public or private.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

if you have Asperger's Syndrome?

 

[JLBats]

you just get to a point where being emotionally affected to such a degree doesn't happen, in public or private.

Danalys- He's practically a conceptual genius, but he's lost the ability to LOVE

 

[Daisy]

Adults should be able to control their emotions in the vast majority of situations. (Something like a funeral, or at the hospital when a family member/good friend has died could be exceptions to the rule.)

That's my thinking.

Personally, i fail to comprehend why it shouldnt be seen by anybody else. What is so taboo about such a common emotion? More importantly why? There i nothing immature about being affected by whatever it may be to the point of tears.

To me, it's a reaction to a deeply personal feeling that I don't think should be shared with strangers. I'm not comfortable being 'consoled' by relative strangers, nor am I comfortable being put in the position to 'console' relative strangers (and by 'relative strangers', I mean anything from true strangers to co-workers and casual friends).

What I'm feeling is none of their business and I don't want to be put in the position of 'caretaking' their feelings. It's not that I don't feel sympathy for someone, it's that I feel it's a time when they should be turning to those closest to them, not me.

CLW makes the comment that funerals and hospitals where loved ones are direly ill (or have passed), and the thing is, both of those places recognize the need for privacy when grieving.

 

[Danalys]

you don't need to cry to love. thought and emotion intertwine and in the knowing of your own thoughts you know the reason you might cry but you also know why you wouldn't. the moment after crying becomes the moment when crying is expected. and the emotion is gentle and not over powering.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I've cried 3 times in my whole life:

1. When HJO got killed at the end of "Pay It Forward"....but it was a manly cry

2. When those thieves "killed" Johnny 5 in Short Circuit 2

3. This one time last year for no damn reason.

 

[Daisy]

you don't need to cry to love.

I think they're thinking of the 'tears of joy' thing.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Ignore*

 

[Mee]

I haven't cried in public since I was a kid. Not because I've held it in to be manly, I just don't get that upset.

 

[Danalys]

I think they're thinking of the 'tears of joy' thing.

i know. you know the moment before the tears come when you feel your tear ducts preparing, i stay there. just slight eye glistening.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

That's my thinking. *Daisy's long-ass post*

Hahaha, you've reminded me. One of the millionaires, his wife died a while back. They're two of my favorites and the day before she died, she grabbed my hand, sort of squeezed it, and looked into my eyes for what seemed like a half an hour, without saying a word, and I knew she was saying, "You just work here, so I don't wanna get too personal, but I know I'm dying and I liked you a lot so, goodbye, forever, friend.", which was heart-explodingly sad. So, I was very sympathetic of course.

However, the husband always seemed like a tough guy. He seemed sad, but fine. But he had this pattern where he'd be totally normal..."Hey there. Good morning. Mail come yet? Not yet? Okay. Well, nice weather, huh? Yeah....I went down to Pier 67 for lunch. It was great. Yeah, ....used....to be.....his wife's name 's ......favorite."

and his voice would go into a freaking little girl on helium high pitched little cry and he'd start bawling. Lol, I'm thinking, "Dude...I'm...the concierge. I'm sorry for you, but, I'm not gonna hug you or anything." Hahaha

Awkward as f***

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

3. This one time last year for no damn reason.

That was because you've been bottling your issues up, sweeping them under the rug, and they burst out.
You need to explore your emotions and connect with feelings from the past you may be hiding from.

 

[Boom]

Back in my high school days, I was a crying drunk.

Now I'm a stupid drunk.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

That was because you've been bottling your issues up, sweeping them under the rug, and they burst out.
You need to explore your emotions and connect with feelings from the past you may be hiding from.

That's funny. That was meant to be a joke but that is like 70% of the reason; there was some religious stuff too but I don't wanna bore you. Psychic-Wilhelm lol.

 

[Daisy]

I've never cried at a movie.