what should I do?

[deathshead2]

My spelling is horrible tonight I got to stop posting when this happens. Im never able to spell well when its late.

 

[JLBats]

Why is this thread so depressing?

 

[Iceman]

For the past week my mom has been calling me a failure. I try to talk to her and to do what she wants but she still yells at me and tosses stuff. She is really hurting my feelings. She keeps telling me to do my homework and I have.

Sorry to hear that. It's not easy to deal with a situation when someone has a problem and are unwilling to talk about it. The main message that you need to get across is that what she is saying is upsetting you as it doesn't sound like you will get very far by digging to find out what her issue is.

 

[Alpha and Omega]

^Agreed, but he should probably still convey the point that her emotional baggage isn't his responsibility, nor should he have to deal with the result of it. She should find another doormat.

 

[sassycat]

*hugs deathshead2* :meow: :heart:

 

[Revolver_Ocelot]

If my mom ever got like that, i'd just pack up my **** and leave.
She'd be begging for you to come back in 2 days

 

[hippie_hunter]

she doesn't work and she barly drinks. I have come up with an idea or 2 why she does it. I think its mostly because she knows im growing up and don't need her. I know when to study I do my homework by myself I can drive now. Im 16 and she still wants me to be 5 so she can have something to do.She even yells at me when I drive like pointing out stop sighs that I can clearly see. Dang now that I think about she has been insulting everything I have ever done throughout my whole life.Nothing I do is right for her.

I think every mother goes through that phase where they are forced to realise that their children are growing up. My mother is going through the phase of her realising her children's mortality with my sister getting into a bad car accident (luckily she nor anyone else for that matter were hurt) and her realising that her children are growing up now that I am living in college (the first few days she kept calling me asking if I needed anything or if I was doing everything that is needed). She won't admit it, but I have the feeling that she wishes that I was still as dependent on her as I was when I was younger than I am now.

But trust me, that is not what is going on with your mother. My mother treats me with love and kindness. We hang out with each other not as mother and son, but as friends (my mother is under 40 so she isn't one of those old people parents that people tend to have and because she doesn't really act her age, I can relate to her easily). Your mom is going through something entirely else. And since my mother doesn't act like your mother, that's really all the advice I can give you.

 

[heypapajinx]

my mom was the same way.
she resented having to take care of me all by herself so she treated me like **** and always talked **** about me to her friends and our family... so i pulled the rug out from under her and moved out the day i turned 17.
if it's that bad, then you have to get out. otherwise you'll wind up wanting to kill yourself of worse, her.

now we get along a lot better, and whenever she's a ***** i tell her to cool her jets or i hang up on her.

and believe me, there's nothing wrong with you, no matter what you're doing. school, grades, job, whatever... unless you're killing kittens or something. then you deserve it.

 

[tzarinna]

Is she going through "the change of life"?
Maybe she should see her physician and have some meds to aide her madness.

I hope things get better.

 

[Cyrusbales]

Just pretend to do the things she wants, appease her and tell her it's all OK. Then she gets off your back, and you carry on how you are...

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

She keeps telling me to do my homework and I have.

Then DO IT AGAIN, damn it!

 

[redmarvel]

No offense, but your Mom's the failure for calling her own flesh and blood one. If I were you, I'd try to tune that out as much as possible.

Definitly. Say to her something along the lines of:

"Mom, I love you a lot, but when you make negative comments about me it really discourages me and I don't know how to handle it."

If she continues to do it, look for anger management books at your local library and leave them around the house where she will find them. Even leaving them open at the pages about negative remarks.

 

[DV8]

that's really too bad, buddy. she is likely projecting her own insecurities onto you . . . also, it's very important to consider the relationship between her and your father . . . . that may also have something to do with it . . .

 

[DV8]

Then DO IT AGAIN, damn it!

LMAO!!!! gottam, dude . . . if there were such things as 'thread comics', you would be Richard muthafuackin Pryor (only white, and stuff) on these boards . . . .

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

hmmm, never got that one before.
Thanks for not saying "The Tim Allen"

 

[Darren Daring]

Good news Wil, I've decided to follow you around and explain why the things you say are funny. Look forward to working with you

 

[JLBats]

hmmm, never got that one before.
Thanks for not saying "The Tim Allen"

Ok, Brodie, just to give you a headstart:

This is funny because Wilhelm is glad not to be compared to Tim Allen, whose humour stylings are generally considered repugnant.

Take it away.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Good news Wil, I've decided to follow you around and explain why the things you say are funny. Look forward to working with you

lol, glad to have you aboard.
Please, retroactively, if you could explain to Excelsior why the thing I said about my son and the dog orgasm was funny, thanks.

 

[Darren Daring]

Ok, Brodie, just to give you a headstart:

This is funny because Wilhelm is glad not to be compared to Tim Allen, whose humour stylings are generally considered repugnant.

Take it away.

He also had drug problems in the 70's. Drug addiction isn't funny, but it is cool.

 

[tzarinna]

lol, glad to have you aboard.
Please, retroactively, if you could explain to Excelsior why the thing I said about my son and the dog orgasm was funny, thanks.

 

[JLBats]

Ahem... he has two,duh.

 

[tzarinna]

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

lol

 

[unstoppable]

I have a grandpa just like that

 

[DV8]

Dam . . . I didn't know Wil had Lilhelm Screams . . . . da-dum-cssssh!