Okay, I need some advice. PART TWO

[Holly Goodhead]

So basically you were DENIED! lol

 

[Fran]

Yeah, thanks for the encouragement, Holly.

 

[Darren Daring]

Well, I did it...

She said at this point, SHE DOESN'T WANT A BOYFRIEND, and just wants to remain friends for now.

So it went alright, I guess.

you capslocked the wrong part, man.

 

[Fran]

Meh. I just had to finally say it, let it out.

I'm cool with it. She said she was flattered by it.

 

[Holly Goodhead]

Yeah, thanks for the encouragement, Holly.

I dont feel the need to lie to you.

 

[StorminNorman]

Well, I did it...

She said at this point, she doesn't want a boyfriend, and just wants to remain friends FOR NOW.

So it went alright, I guess.

In my experience - this answer is never, ever a good thing.

But heres hopin its different for ya.

 

[Fran]

I am not giving up. For sure.

 

[Fran]

Thanks, StorminNorman.

 

[Erzengel]

Well, I did it...

She said at this point, she doesn't want a boyfriend, and just wants to remain friends FOR NOW.

So it went alright, I guess.

Yet she wanted to pursue that other guy til she found out she didn't like him.

Sorry man but just wants to remain friends = she doesn't want to date "you".

Dust yourself off and find someone else. Don't be her "friend" and don't wait in the wings for her or the sidelines or whatever other analogy you need. Trust me I think you have enough "friends".

 

[Fran]

Yeah, I'm gonna try, but I'm not gonna wait on her.

 

[Erzengel]

You're going to try and remain friends with her?

 

[StrainedEyes]

what a loser.

 

[Fran]

You really shouldn't condescend yourself, Geo.

 

[Erzengel]

^
That's now the correct usage.

 

[Equint77]

lol.... I was out Monday night till 5... played pool yesterday and then hung out... while scoring a date on Friday... today I promised this friend of mine I was gonna go to her b'day party.. but didn't go.. I have another party to go to tomorrow after work....

I need to hire an assistant.

 

[Fran]

Start another "assistant hiring" thread, like Kipobe did

 

[Equint77]

god man... the girl said she wants to remain friends... she didn't shoot you down... it could have been worse.. she could have said... i don't see you in that way.

just remain friends and get to know her better.... just remember that she's free and WILL go out with other guys. Bide your time and wait for the right moment... or invite her to group functions so she can at least see what you're like in public.

 

[Fran]

god man... the girl said she wants to remain friends... she didn't shoot you down... it could have been worse.. she could have said... i don't see you in that way.

Exactly. It went fairly good, compared to what I thought in my head.

just remain friends and get to know her better.... just remember that she's free and WILL go out with other guys. Bide your time and wait for the right moment... or invite her to group functions so she can at least see what you're like in public.

I know she has free will, I'm not dumb enough to mess with that. I'm biding my time, but I'm not just going to wait for her.

 

[Equint77]

Exactly. It went fairly good, compared to what I thought in my head.

it's usually worse when we think of the scenerios.. as opposed to what happens in reality. That's what sikes a lot of guys out. You did what you had to do... that's all you can ask of yourself.

I know she has free will, I'm not dumb enough to mess with that. I'm biding my time, but I'm not just going to wait for her.

you're already making progress.... if you like this girl.. you shouldn't just give up... think of it this way... she just got off a relationship and needs sometime to think things out... understandable on her part... but this gives you a great chance in showing her things she's missing out on... At the same time.... go out with other girls.. even if it's not serious... not only is it great practice (cause dating is never easy) but it'll give just the right amount of space for you to focus on other things besides this girl.

Who knows... she might wake up tomorrow and want to go out with you... it happens.

 

[Fran]

Yeah, I think she digs me, she always comes to talk to me when I stop by work.

 

[Equint77]

there you go.... you have something to work with.

 

[Fran]

Exactly, that's a start.

 

[Erzengel]

Well as long as FF over here understands what he's doing. He wants to be a friend with ulterior motives.

As long as you are okay that while then go for it.

 

[Fran]

Well, she knows that I like her, it's not like I'm just going for her v-card or anything. I just want to date her, that's all.

 

[Dr. MIX]

Had she realllly been interested in you, she would not have said what she said. Let it go and move on