When should you have "The Talk" with your kids?

[Pink Ranger]

After they walk in with me wrestling with mom.

Really though, what are the odds your kids would be at the same Five Guys you two are at, and would need to visit the bathroom precisely during that 3 minute interval?

 

[Erzengel]

Bathroom? What are we millionaires? In the back, behind the dumpster.

 

[Pink Ranger]

Bathroom? What are we millionaires? In the back, behind the dumpster.

The bonus is, you get first dibs on the burgers they throw out. Entertainment AND dinner, at the same time! That's genuine class.

 

[Harry_Lime02]

I think 8 is old enough. I don't remember how old I was when I got the talk but I do remember being mostly disinterested as she wasn't saying anything I hadn't already mostly pieced together. Except the term "making love", that was a new one.

 

[Pink Ranger]

I think 8 is old enough. I don't remember how old I was when I got the talk but I do remember being mostly disinterested as she wasn't saying anything I hadn't already mostly pieced together. Except the term "making love", that was a new one.

So you learned about the term "making love" with no previous context? In order words, out of nothing at all?

 

[SuperFerret]

It's never too early to talk to your kids about Batman.

 

[Greeneyes]

^ Very good haha

 

[Pink Ranger]

It's never too early to talk to your kids about Batman.

: But dad, I think the Marvel Universe has characters that are more relatable to me, and deal better with personal issues the average reader than better identify with.

: Get out! I have no son!

 

[SuperFerret]

Don't assume what I want my kids to like. I might want to warn them of the dangers of Batman.

 

[Venomfan]

i used to work with youth and the ones who talked to me about when they got started on porn were in grade 2 so around 7 years old. I didn't start sex ed until grade 6. So a lot of kids are being exposed to hardcore porn now before they are even taught about sex

 

[Greens]

i used to work with youth and the ones who talked to me about when they got started on porn were in grade 2 so around 7 years old. I didn't start sex ed until grade 6. So a lot of kids are being exposed to hardcore porn now before they are even taught about sex

That's.... odd. I can't imagine a 7 year old would be interested in stuff like that. I know I wasn't.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

You can start by saying these kisses are the natural progress.

You mean Hershey's 'Kisses', right? Does that progress to a Mr Goodbar?

 

[Guts]

i used to work with youth and the ones who talked to me about when they got started on porn were in grade 2 so around 7 years old. I didn't start sex ed until grade 6. So a lot of kids are being exposed to hardcore porn now before they are even taught about sex

That's.... odd. I can't imagine a 7 year old would be interested in stuff like that. I know I wasn't.

The internet is evil.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

You mean Hershey's 'Kisses', right? Does that progress to a Mr Goodbar?

If you want to put it that way....

 

[SuperFerret]

By the way, the real answer depends on a ton of variables. But a good rule of thumb is to do it when they ask, and not that generic "where do babies come from?" question either.

 

[terry78]

My dad gave me the talk like years late. After I had already started watching Cinemax after everybody went to sleep.

 

[BestGirl]

That's.... odd. I can't imagine a 7 year old would be interested in stuff like that. I know I wasn't.

They're probably just imitating older kids they know. Younger kids are obsessed with seeming older and more sophisticated than what they really are.

 

[<(o_o)>]

i used to work with youth and the ones who talked to me about when they got started on porn were in grade 2 so around 7 years old. I didn't start sex ed until grade 6. So a lot of kids are being exposed to hardcore porn now before they are even taught about sex

I never watched hardcore porn when I was 7 & younger but my older brother would let me watch sex comedies of that time period (early 80's) with him & look at dirty magazines so I discovered MB at a very early age & ended up having a lot of impure thoughts about my hotter female teachers & female classmates from a very early age. I've never tried to force myself on any girl or woman in my lifetime because of it but being exposed to such things at such a very early age was very unhealthy for me mentally & emotionally.

 

[Greens]

I never watched hardcore porn when I was 7 & younger but my older brother would let me watch sex comedies of that time period (early 80's) with him & look at dirty magazines so I discovered MB at a very early age & ended up having a lot of impure thoughts about my hotter female teachers & female classmates from a very early age. I've never tried to force myself on any girl or woman in my lifetime because of it but being exposed to such things at such a very early age was very unhealthy for me mentally & emotionally.

Was it? Fantasizing about females isn't that big of a deal.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

I never watched hardcore porn when I was 7 & younger but my older brother would let me watch sex comedies of that time period (early 80's) with him & look at dirty magazines so I discovered MB at a very early age & ended up having a lot of impure thoughts about my hotter female teachers & female classmates from a very early age. I've never tried to force myself on any girl or woman in my lifetime because of it but being exposed to such things at such a very early age was very unhealthy for me mentally & emotionally.

But the violent movies are okay?

I agree with Greens. You're overthinking this. What kid hasn't watched sex comedies with their older brothers? I did too. The fact you still consider natural hormonal urges as "impure thoughts" is far more damaging to your psyche, than the residual impact of any R-rated frat house comedy. At this age you should realize discovering one's sexuality is a part of growing up (and people do that at different ages).

 

[PacificBoy]

But the violent movies are okay?

I agree with Greens. You're overthinking this. What kid hasn't watched sex comedies with their older brothers? I did too. The fact you still consider natural hormonal urges as "impure thoughts" is far more damaging to your psyche, than the residual impact of any R-rated frat house comedy. At this age you should realize discovering one's sexuality is a part of growing up (and people do that at different ages).

I think the disconnect between porn and violent movies is that the former is more intimate and immediate -- we interact with the opposite sex daily, while the latter is something more detached -- we don't experience in real life that kind of violence often or even at all. Violence in movie is cartoony; porn seems more personal. If that makes sense.

I had no problem with porn growing up (and still have no problem!). I was in all-boys schools till I was 17, and discovering porn was a healthy way of not only discovering sexuality but also bonding with the other chaps.

 

[terry78]

Basically violence has never really had any personal connection connotations for some as opposed to sex. With violence you can take out a bunch of people from afar and never even have seen them in person. With sex, the opposite.

 

[Erzengel]

When I was 6, I was curious and so was this 6 year old girl. Later on I've read how common it was for kids to "explore".