2021 - The 'In it together' thread

[Mandon Knight]

Hi all,

Thought we could do with a new year thread where we could all support each other in. By way of whatever needs discussing, spilling, a shoulder to lean on 'in these times' kind of way.

Firstly, Happy New Year, one and all and that you are all safe.

These are undoubtedly 'uncertain' times, but this thread is for the 'certainty' that this forum brings, that everyone is welcome, everyone is equal and everyone is safe. #shhfamily

 

[Flash525]

WhatsApp Group?

I fear 2021 is going to provide us with an initial 2020 repeat for the first half. I know back in 2020 people were thinking we'd be out of the woodwork by summers end, and we're entering 2021 with spikes.

At this point I just want 2022. Late last year I joined up with a social group through MeetUp to expand my social circle, that's obviously on hold right now. My two closest friends have recently gotten involved with respective people (yes, they broke rules to get dates), and my brother is now living with his partner.

I barely speak to any of them because their priorities are refocused.

Facebook and Instagram are full of rubbish, so I froze my accounts on them and if it wasn't for this place I'd be beyond myself right about now.

 

[Mandon Knight]

WhatsApp Group?

I fear 2021 is going to provide us with an initial 2020 repeat for the first half. I know back in 2020 people were thinking we'd be out of the woodwork by summers end, and we're entering 2021 with spikes.

At this point I just want 2022. Late last year I joined up with a social group through MeetUp to expand my social circle, that's obviously on hold right now. My two closest friends have recently gotten involved with respective people (yes, they broke rules to get dates), and my brother is now living with his partner.

I barely speak to any of them because their priorities are refocused.

Facebook and Instagram are full of rubbish, so I froze my accounts on them and if it wasn't for this place I'd be beyond myself right about now.

Always know, you have an ear here bro.

 

[Mandon Knight]

So far, (touch wood), work progress is solid, hitting deadline targets with clients well, and stream of work (demand for me, as such) is continuing. I'm not writing really any of my own material as much these days as per in the past, bar collaboration on a script write with one client, but being paid to work on other's material and help shape it / move it forward is a great honour and 'place to be' mentally.

 

[Hobgoblin]

The wife and I argued briefly yesterday when we talked about the riot in DC. After we settled down, we apologized and had a quiet, civil discussion about what happened. It doesn’t sound like much but in comparison to other times, it really felt like a 180.

 

[Mandon Knight]

The wife and I argued briefly yesterday when we talked about the riot in DC. After we settled down, we apologized and had a quiet, civil discussion about what happened. It doesn’t sound like much but in comparison to other times, it really felt like a 180.

Progression is a win Hobs, small steps to a safer place for you both.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Bit of good news. Got a gig as a script consultant for film-making youth mentor scheme being launched later in the year, in Hackney, London. Found out today.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Progression is a win Hobs, small steps to a safer place for you both.

Two days ago we blew up again. She was mad that I called Gina Whatever’s opinion about conservatives being abused “stupid.” She said it was a valid opinion and soon conservatives will be beaten up in the streets like Jews were in Germany. I told her she was ignorant and that she knew nothing about pre-war history. She called me stupid and refused to apologize.

I guess that I shouldn’t have said Gina’s opinion was stupid or been condescending to my wife. She’s just so damn clueless sometimes. I couldn’t sleep for a few hours, I was just too angry. I was convinced I was going to leave her, that it was the last straw. I was still angry the next day and she could tell. We talked and I calmed down. I know nothing will change, this is just the way it will be. I get complacent and I hate myself for it. My shrink says my complacency is based in low self esteem, which is true. I just get overwhelmed by the idea of divorce.

Sorry, I know this isn’t the relationship thread.

 

[Teelie]

Divorce might be a good thing for you. This is not a relationship thread but you have said many times how untenable this marriage is. Don't know if counseling would/has/not helped but sometimes you just have to go your seperate ways. If you are so different from her ideologically this is a recurring theme, then it is definitely not healthy.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I don’t want to clutter up another thread with the same old story, so I’ll be brief. We did marriage counseling last year and she hated it. We ended up quitting because she didn’t like the therapist. Yesterday I explained to her why I was unhappy with how things were going and she was oddly nonchalant. She seemed upbeat the whole time and told me I’m always so negative. Today I looked at advice from divorce lawyers videos and they helped.


Thank you for the support.

 

[Mandon Knight]

@Hobgoblin this is a support thread, it's here for ANY part of a subject, anyone wants to bring to it, relationship or otherwise. I devised this thread as a 'place of love, support, a beacon of hugs' for all of us to come to amongst all, everyone is suffering with right now as we face an unprecedented pandemic. It's a thread for whatever the collective 'we' need it to be. We stand together here, THAT'S what this thread is about.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Checking in, everyone safe ?

 

[Mandon Knight]

Just a post to see how everyone is ?

 

[Hobgoblin]

I’m ok. My divorce was finalized in June. I’m coping as well as can be expected.

 

[Mandon Knight]

I’m ok. My divorce was finalized in June. I’m coping as well as can be expected.

Can't be easy Hobs, all the best and here if you need a chat. Cheers, Jim.

 

[ComicChick]

got a new job. worked 100 hours in 2 weeks, maybe a few hours more?

 

[Mandon Knight]

got a new job. worked 100 hours in 2 weeks, maybe a few hours more?

Feel your pain CC. I've just got new 'additional' job to what I regularly do to 'ease' Covid impact on finances and it's a very physical, manual labour type job, and I've been working 'on my own' way before it became the 'required' with self isolation and Covid etc. with self-employment and it's been around 4 years since I've been 'in an office' or with 'other people' and I've really only ever done office based work or PC based work, rather than physical and with my T1 diabetes it's been a real challenge and I've just done back-to-back additional hours to my contracted hours to cover other staff and it's killed me but enjoying the nature of the work and nice to be 'mixing' with people again.

Hope yours eases for you.

 

[ComicChick]

i'm in grocery retail, on a gov't level, so it hasn't been easy for me since the pandemic started lol
i worked 26 days straight, 27 of 30 when it first hit, and have just tried to keep trucking since.

i'm now at another store, a bigger store, but i got a promotion. same job, supervisory level with just under $2 an hour pay raise. i'll be getting another raise in january.

the money and benefits are good. i'll have 20 years before i'm 40, but man, it's really hard sometimes. a customer doesn't want to hear about distributor and manufacturer cuts on products when it's what they want. we sell over 20,000 line items, and have between 1000-1500-ish items that are not shipping. we can't do anything about that, but we try

 

[Mandon Knight]

i'm in grocery retail, on a gov't level, so it hasn't been easy for me since the pandemic started lol
i worked 26 days straight, 27 of 30 when it first hit, and have just tried to keep trucking since.

i'm now at another store, a bigger store, but i got a promotion. same job, supervisory level with just under $2 an hour pay raise. i'll be getting another raise in january.

the money and benefits are good. i'll have 20 years before i'm 40, but man, it's really hard sometimes. a customer doesn't want to hear about distributor and manufacturer cuts on products when it's what they want. we sell over 20,000 line items, and have between 1000-1500-ish items that are not shipping. we can't do anything about that, but we try

Congrats on promotion and fully deserved by all accounts CC

 

[ComicChick]

Congrats on promotion and fully deserved by all accounts CC

Thank you

 

[Mandon Knight]

Thank you

, welcome.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Just posting here as numbers and 'admissions' to hospital 'ramp' up again here in the UK and hoping everyone stays safe this coming winter as the cold sets in and we should hibernate.

Keep safe gang x