Woo Hoo. Let the testosterone-fest continue.
Like the guy said before, have any of you ever actually had a real, interpersonal relationship with a female? 'cause it sounds like everything you're saying here is a regurgitation of every bad over the top, insecure male, misogynist cliche from the past 60 years. I'm not saying that I thought MJ was written particularly well, but most of the these posts smack of fanboy ignorance and naivete. Go figure.
While I agree there's a certain air of misogyny to some [re: a minority] of the posts, there are points being made about the Dunst Mary Jane, albeit sometimes inadvertently that are nonetheless valid. It seems as though you're ignoring the main focus of the discussion, which truly is about what many consider, myself included, a poorly developed character and the adverse effect it had on the trilogy as a whole.
Now that we are all aware of your actually quite understandable opinion on the elements of misogyny in fanboy culture, let's get to the nitty gritty of the thing: Do you feel that Mary Jane was represented by Kirsten Dunst in the Spider-Man trilogy well? If so why? If not, why not? Etc.
I personally think how she was portrayed was one of the many problems that plagued these movies from the get-go and don't find her to be a remotely entertaining, three dimensional or even sympathetic character at all. And yes, it's true, as many have said here and throughout Spidey's long history, MJ as a character in general definitely has a certain deficit in real, emotionally mature plot points or character sensibilities. She for the most part has been represented as the supportive bombshell 'wifey'. Which is ****ing boring. And also ironic, considering Gerry Conway killed off Gwen Stacy in the first place because he thought she was "sweet, beautiful, and boring" compared to "redheaded, sassy and secretly pained" Mary Jane.
Which brings us back to Dunst's portrayal, who from what I saw, only presented one of three things that made Conway interested in writing MJ over Gwen in the first place: She had red hair.
She certainly wasn't 'secretly pained', excepting the brief aside of her silhouette parents yelling as she took out the garbage. In fact, she was more often than not very openly pained. By general, standard rejection. Rejection from certain acting roles, rejection from Peter, etc. Indeed, I don't think it's unfair to say that she was shown in a very needy light throughout the series. (People noticing that on this board does not make them misogynistic, though the fact that she was portrayed that way in the film could be more comfortably associated with that term.)
Also, she was certainly not 'sassy'. Or vivacious. Or fiery. She was mostly quite watery and milquetoast.
To say that she was a **** on the other hand is patently absurd. She was portrayed properly (in this one sense only) as a young girl trying to figure out her broader romantic emotions. Not uncommon, nor inappropriate.
Though, I will agree, many of her actions would certainly have given me very little reason to emotionally trust, much lessly endless fawn over her.