Christian Advice.

[Lando81]

Hi im having a very hard time now. I'm a christian who told a girl in my youth group that i liked her this summer and asked her out. I got the "Let's stay friends" thing and was heart broken. I've tried hanging out with her since just to make things normal like they were before. She became a christian this summer and last week i guess she went to a party got drunk and lost her virginity and she is devistated. Ive talked to her and tried to go get coffee but she is to devistated i guess because she hasnt shown up. Im really heart broken over this and im trying to get some advice for this. Please be Kind! I dont really feel like getting mad at anyone today.

 

[unstoppable]

she just needs seek god's forgivness once she has that she come around to talk to you

 

[Maximum Carnage]

You can't blame her for her mistake, we all make them every once and awhile. I'd try talking to her and reassuring everything is ok .. but not focus on it, you know what I mean?

 

[7Hells]

Why is she devistated?
Those were both her choices...

 

[Slipknot]

Yeah...

 

[Maximum Carnage]

Maybe she was raped and/or taken advantage of?

 

[Lando81]

She knows she could have done better and shes really mad at herself.

 

[Tangled Web]

Tell her that she won't be devastated by you.

 

[Clerk]

Well obviously prayer is in order and be a friend. Perhaps you two should consult the Bible on forgiveness or something. Give a personal testimony too and how your failures can be her successes if it isn't too personal.

 

[webhead731]

All I can say is bring her to a church group (She's okay if they know, right?) and talk about it. She can get help from you guys and pray to God. If she really means it when she prays for forgiveness and listens to what she is told it will be fine. Just talk about it with a group or something. A group of mature people, not idiots...

Poor girl. How old was she?

 

[Lando81]

Thanks you guys.

 

[Lando81]

id rather not give any details if thats ok.

 

[Tsunulia]

Haz, best thing to do in these instances is pray. There's no real advice that any human can give you on how to help her. God will help you through this, rely on Him, not us.

All I can say, is that your heartbreak should tell you that you didn't respect her desicion. Maybe this is a step to show you what love really is.

 

[webhead731]

People can help but without God it's hopeless. As long as they're mature and serious.

 

[webhead731]

Okay, that was just wrong man.^

This is serious.

 

[The Question]

Hi im having a very hard time now. I'm a christian who told a girl in my youth group that i liked her this summer and asked her out. I got the "Let's stay friends" thing and was heart broken. I've tried hanging out with her since just to make things normal like they were before. She became a christian this summer and last week i guess she went to a party got drunk and lost her virginity and she is devistated. Ive talked to her and tried to go get coffee but she is to devistated i guess because she hasnt shown up. Im really heart broken over this and im trying to get some advice for this. Please be Kind! I dont really feel like getting mad at anyone today.

The best thing to do is to tell her that it's not her fault (at least, not the sex part, the drunk part kind of was), and that she's lucky that something worse didn't happen. Losing your virginity, while you may not be happy about it (especially happening in a situation like that), can't in of itself harm you.

 

[Tangled Web]

It's not that big a deal, just tell her to keep it in her pants next time.

 

[Tangled Web]

The best thing to do is to tell her that it's not her fault.

How is it not her fault? Unless she was raped, she has some say in it.

 

[Lackey]

well that's non christian like

speaking the truth is non-Christian like

 

[Lackey]

Also, tell her not to be like Mel and blame it on the alcohol

 

[Clerk]

No (Or is it yes...........)

 

[unstoppable]

speaking the truth is non-Christian like

it's a joke

 

[The Question]

How is it not her fault? Unless she was raped, she has some say in it.

She was drunk. While getting drunk was her fault, what she did afterwards really isn't. Judgement is severely impared and one's baser instincts tend to take hold.

 

[Tangled Web]

She was drunk. While getting drunk was her fault, what she did afterwards really isn't. Judgement is severely impared and one's baser instincts tend to take hold.

Alcohol just makes you do want you want to anyway.

Don't blame the alcohol. What about rapists and murderers? They get drunk and kill/rape, but should they get off because "it wasn't their fault, they were drunk"?

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

Hi im having a very hard time now. I'm a christian who told a girl in my youth group that i liked her this summer and asked her out. I got the "Let's stay friends" thing and was heart broken. I've tried hanging out with her since just to make things normal like they were before. She became a christian this summer and last week i guess she went to a party got drunk and lost her virginity and she is devistated. Ive talked to her and tried to go get coffee but she is to devistated i guess because she hasnt shown up. Im really heart broken over this and im trying to get some advice for this. Please be Kind! I dont really feel like getting mad at anyone today.

lmao.