Come on...like SERIOUSLY!!!!

[CashforStash]

Long story short, last thursday was a Halloween dance at another school, I grinded and danced with some girls, had a good time, and met some new people. But one of the girls i danced with was really attractive and seemed attractive so I talk to her outside and got her number for future hangouts.

So today i call her and her dad said her and I could not hang out because that he's curious to know who am, what i do, and what my parents do. Honestly, I understand maybe the who i am part, but my parents???? Seriously, am I missing something or does this not click at all?

 

[Roughneck]

did her dad not offer the chance to get to know you and find all this stuff out?

since he's so curious

 

[ChickenScratch]

When you become a dad you'll understand what it is to be protective and want to know these things. Just a week ago a girl was gang raped at her school, you think her dad knew who she was hanging out with, their parents?

After all, you are a guy from another school who showed up at his daughter's school grinding on her.

 

[chaseter]

Tell him your parents are drunks and you are Catman.

 

[terry78]

Guess what....parents that don't give a rat's ass what their kids do, those are the kids that end up in ****.

 

[Dark Helmet]

Might have something to do with the recent rape thing & if any dad cares about their daughter(s) then good for him

 

[Timstuff]

He's a father, so it's his job to be like that. If you've got nothing to be ashamed of then you should tell him about yourself and be honest. He has his daughter's best interest and safety in mind first and foremost, so he has to be protective and ask lots of questions about who she hangs out with. Someday when you are a parent, hopefully you will understand this.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

Simple: You're a multi-billionaire.
You have a fear of bats and, Qui-Gon Jinn teached you how to fight.
You're seeking justice and vengeance for your parents that were murdered in front of you when you were 8 years old.

 

[Prison Mike]

Simple: You're a multi-billionaire.
You have a fear of bats and, Qui-Gon Jinn teached you how to fight.
You're seeking justice and vengeance for your parents that were murdered in front of you when you were 8 years old.

that sounds like an interesting character. You should really consider writing about it...

 

[Aesop Rocks]

Yeah, I was thinking of calling him FruitBat-Man

 

[black_dust]

A fact of life is, if her parents are crazy like that, she will be too, so steer clear

 

[Manic]

Even if you're a decent person, he probably wouldn't want his daughter around you if your parents were, say, into organized crime, drug dealers, violent radicals, or pushy stage parents.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

A fact of life is, if her parents are crazy like that, she will be too, so steer clear

Not really. My friends girlfriends parents are sane. She's bat**** insane.

 

[ChickenScratch]

A fact of life is, if her parents are crazy like that, she will be too, so steer clear

He's not crazy, he's being a father. Or should he let her go out with some guy not from her school who he knows nothing about or nothing about his parents/home life/upbringing.

If he's got nothing to hide he'll answer the guy's questions. Last thing he needs is for something to happen to his daughter and he's got nothing in the way of any information to tell the cops.

As mentioned before, the girl who got rape, you think her father asked all the pertinent questions?

 

[SPider-T0rch]

He's a father, so it's his job to be like that. If you've got nothing to be ashamed of then you should tell him about yourself and be honest. He has his daughter's best interest and safety in mind first and foremost, so he has to be protective and ask lots of questions about who she hangs out with. Someday when you are a parent, hopefully you will understand this.

I agree. If you know there's nothing bad about yourself or your parents, then just tell him. Sure, he sounds a little off the deep end trying to find out about your parents but you can't really blame him for asking. Maybe being honest with him right off the bat can work out in your favor later on.

 

[black_dust]

He's not crazy, he's being a father. Or should he let her go out with some guy not from her school who he knows nothing about or nothing about his parents/home life/upbringing.

If he's got nothing to hide he'll answer the guy's questions. Last thing he needs is for something to happen to his daughter and he's got nothing in the way of any information to tell the cops.

As mentioned before, the girl who got rape, you think her father asked all the pertinent questions?

"Yes officer, i dont know much, but his father is banker and his mother makes birthday cards"

You cannot overly protect kids, thats the problem thats occurring today, they need to go out and make their own mistakes and own judgements about people, if CashforStash is a total ******* she needs to find that out on her own, or how else is she going to spot an ******* when her dads dead and buried?

 

[ChickenScratch]

That's an awfully naive way at looking at it. When I said information on the kid I mean, like his name, where he lives, who his parents are. What's so wrong with knowing that? Rather than "my daughter went out with some dude I don't know and she's not been seen or heard of for 2 weeks." I know if my child were out with someone and due home at a certain time, if I didn't hear from her I'm calling the parents.

I agree you cannot over protect kids, but you are still a parent and have to do you due diligence in taking care of their safety. That includes knowing who they are with, what kind of family they are from, is he responsible or a little criminal out there on the streets.

 

[Backdrifter]

Since when is active parenting a crime? I wouldn't let you hang out with my daughter with that kind of attitude either.

Ah, kids.

 

[black_dust]

That's an awfully naive way at looking at it. When I said information on the kid I mean, like his name, where he lives, who his parents are. What's so wrong with knowing that? Rather than "my daughter went out with some dude I don't know and she's not been seen or heard of for 2 weeks." I know if my child were out with someone and due home at a certain time, if I didn't hear from her I'm calling the parents.

I agree you cannot over protect kids, but you are still a parent and have to do you due diligence in taking care of their safety. That includes knowing who they are with, what kind of family they are from, is he responsible or a little criminal out there on the streets.

Knowing who the kid is and what he does and where he lives is not a problem with me, but if someone asked me what my parents did for a living, i would be asking what that has to do with dating his daughter?

 

[Prison Mike]

knowing his parent's careers will give him some sort of general info of the kid's background.

 

[DarkReflections]

Tell him your parents are drunks and you are Catman.

he wants to keep seeing the girl, not scare her off.

 

[Darthphere]

He's being a little overprotective IMO with the parents question but that's his right.

 

[terry78]

Either the parents don't ask anything or they ask too much. Extremely sheltered kids and kids who have no supervision at all are both red flags. And dads always used to be the cliche overprotective parent when it came to daughters. Nowadays you're lucky if he even knows how old she is.

 

[ChickenScratch]

Knowing who the kid is and what he does and where he lives is not a problem with me, but if someone asked me what my parents did for a living, i would be asking what that has to do with dating his daughter?

Sure his parents careers are a concern. I'm sure the guy doesn't want his daughter dating some welfare baby with no ambition just mooching off the government or some sort of criminal, I'm sure he would prefer his daughter dating the child of hard working, successful people.

What the parents do says a lot about the type of influence they make on their child. Doctor, engineer, scientist, economist, farmer, a type of career that shows discipline, hard work and that they have a good head on their shoulders.

My high school/college girlfriend and I went through something similar. We didn't go to school together, we met at a Dream Theater concert. Her parents wanted to know what my parents did (Metallurgist, Economist) and what kind of person I was and my parents wanted to know the same about her parents (Engineer, Nurse). What kind of student I was in school because their daughter was an A student on track to a good college, I graduated high school 2 years early at 16 so they liked that too. What I did on my spare time, karate, guitar, part time job what she did on her free time, tennis. No big deal.

 

[katie_girl09]

If I were you, I'd take it as a good thing. That means that he is a good father and cares about who his daughter gets romantically involved with. Call me old fashioned, but I think at least part of the high divorce rate these days stems from parents not giving a damn who their kids get with.