WTF did I do????????

[Troy_Parker]

Oh CashForStash...I'm the same age as you ... and yet I haven't had half of the problems that you post here... t:

 

[Ugfugly]

What's a dickward anyway? Never in my life have I heard that word!

It's Lord Farquaad's younger brother

 

[Ace of Knaves]

Isn't it dick wad? Random people used to shout it at me on GTA.

 

[BatSpider]

Oh CashForStash...I'm the same age as you ... and yet I haven't had half of the problems that you post here... t:

Why? you havent had any expiriences with females or something?

 

[Twin2]

Oh CashForStash...I'm the same age as you ... and yet I haven't had half of the problems that you post here... t:

Holy **** you're that 9 year old who wrote that book on dating aren't you!

 

[The Squirrel]

I feel like such an idiot!

Part II.

 

[Sarge 2.0]

Ok, lately ive been intersted in a girl (we havent talked face to face, we met through MSN/friends etc...) and we decided to meet at the mall last night. She shows up with 3 of her friends, and we started to hang out and stuff, and we bonded really really quickly (come on, she's hyped for X-Men Orgins Wolverine and she loves xbox, and she's quite attractive) and yeah. Then her friend randomly started to talk to these 2 random jock guys. The girl im intersted in starts to hit on them. After about 10 minutes it felt like they didnt even knew I was there and I felt like I was following them for no reason what so ever. So I decided to just walk away without saying anything.

I sign onto msn today and I tell her "hey", and this is exactly what she said.

Maggie says: By the way, I made out with that guy last night
Maggie says: Guess who dickward

Am I missing something? Can somebody please explain this?
(im 14 soo...)

1.) If you're fourteen, you're ******ed for meeting someone that you only knew through the internet. That's asking for trouble at your age.

2.) Stop ****ing complaining and move on. Jesus.

3.) Try not to fail so badly the next time you, y'know, do something.

 

[I SEE SPIDEY]

You shouldn't have met her to being with.

 

[A.J.Rimmer(BSC)]

I agree with some other posters. Girls like confident guys. That doesn't mean you have to act like a guy who is cocky as hell and you act like you're bigger and badder and better than everybody on the face of the planet. That's just annoying. Nobody likes a snob. What I mean is....it just means you act happy with yourself, meaning if a jock comes up and starts talking to your girl... you don't cower away and go hide in a corner. That gives the girl the impression that you look at this other guy (the jock) and you see him as superior to you and so you give up and quit in his presence. Girls hate that. Girls will see you as weak. It's just natural animal instincts. Girls, especially at age 14, are looking for "the leader of the pack"... so if you see jocks and you have the attitude around them that they are waaaaay cooler than you, girls will pick up on that and label you as "a dork" .... and then run off with studly jocks.

It's all about your attitude. You need to appear cool, calm, and happy with yourself... happy with your personality, happy with your looks, happy with your attractiveness... When you are confronted with a jock (or any guy a girl would normally find attractive)... look him in the eye, stand toe-to-toe with him, shake his hand firmly, and don't act like he's your lord and master. And if the girl still runs off with him... then screw her, she's lame.

And then other girls will see you didn't give a crap about the girl dumping you, cause you are too cool for her, and they will be impressed by that.

I can't really agree with that, and what most people seem to be saying (aside from the handshaking and not bending over in conversation).

If he was so supposed to be happy and comfortable with him self, why would he need to debase himself in a conflict with some jock? Why the need to play juvenile games?

If she was on a date with him, but started ignoring him in favour of a jock, she either wasn't that interested in the first place and has the attention span of a 4 year old, or is playing mind games.

For me he did the right thing. Fight for your girl? She wasn't his girl by a long shot, and she's not a slab of meat to be won in some mental cockfight. If she's messing with him the best thing to do was walk away.

Obviously with the message she left him, she's a spiteful attention ****e who's juvenile games backfired.

I know you're 14 but when I was your age I'd grown well past this kind of thing. Thats not a jibe at you, more the girl.

Suck it up move onto the next one.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

I still say you hunt down the jocks and take a kosh to their heads It wasn't their fault this bird is a slag, but you can't beat up girls now can you?

 

[TheFuture]

I think if she really wanted to meet you because she was INTERESTED in you, then she would have hung out with you and not brought so many gal friends. Not only that, she wouldn't have gone after the other guys.

I think she wanted to hang out as friends, and that's why when there was an opportunity to hang out with some other guys she seemed interested in, she took it.

QFT

But, no matter what happened, I think you should have told her you were leaving instead of just walking off.

I don't know, I mean this seems to be something nearly every one has said to the OP. Some guys have brittle confidence and when something like what happened to the OP happens, it can make you feel about "." this big. His confidence was shot and he felt rejected, I can't blame him for bailing. By the sounds of it, I don't think she would have cared that he bailed any way.

And let us not forget that he's only 14. There are grown men with huge self-esteem issues when it comes to being made feel "inferior", cut him some slack.

 

[dark_b]

The first thing you should do is be thankful you still have both kidney's, then realize that she is a rude and shallow broad who is attracted to the Chad and chip types, your big mistake here was not shooting a line before leaving, and it should have been a line that made it sound like you had better things to do, not "I'm off now to leave you to get DP'd by these two goons while I go and play War commander 9".

why?

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

why?

Because the girl who he was meeting might have not been a girl at all. It could have been some sick and twisted man.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

HAHAHA internet dating...gotta love it!

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Ok, lately ive been intersted in a girl (we havent talked face to face, we met through MSN/friends etc...) and we decided to meet at the mall last night.

You're in school, why are you meeting people on the internet? I'm sure there's plenty of girls in school you could ask out.

She shows up with 3 of her friends, and we started to hang out and stuff, and we bonded really really quickly (come on, she's hyped for X-Men Orgins Wolverine and she loves xbox, and she's quite attractive) and yeah.

The 3 friends were just for protection in case you were some middle aged pervert. When you were talking did you keep the subject on only things more male oriented like comics and video games, did you try to find out about other things she liked. That could've been where you lost it there, sure some girls like guy type stuff, but I've always thought they just say it to appear more attractive to a guy, ask about her.

Then her friend randomly started to talk to these 2 random jock guys. The girl im intersted in starts to hit on them.

Was she hitting on them or just talking because you weren't talking to her? Since her friend started the conversation, she might have been trying to move the "flock" away so you and your date could get some alone time. That's a lesson for next time (although you shouldn't be using the internet for dates at this point in your life). Take whatever opening you can to get the girl away from the flock.

After about 10 minutes it felt like they didnt even knew I was there and I felt like I was following them for no reason what so ever. So I decided to just walk away without saying anything.

Again, did you try to get your self into the conversation or just waiting for her to focus on you again, if you were just a wallflower not saying anything then that's why you lost. You should've worked yourself into the conversation, shown you weren't intimidated.

I sign onto msn today and I tell her "hey", and this is exactly what she said.

Maggie says: By the way, I made out with that guy last night
Maggie says: Guess who dickward

Am I missing something? Can somebody please explain this?
(im 14 soo...)

The girl was probably confused, you just snuck off without even saying goodbye, then the next day you're contacting her again. Her response was probably just a really rude way to say you blew it man, don't ever talk to me again.

 

[Erzengel]

You should have drowned Pacey in that creek, Dawson.

 

[dark_b]

Because the girl who he was meeting might have not been a girl at all. It could have been some sick and twisted man.

this kidney haunting still exists?

 

[Go Web Go!]

That's no fun, but if you're 14 chances are she's around the same age, yes? Girls in that age range tend to be little skanks from what I remember - even more so now. You can't take anything a girl says or does to you at this point in your life personally, especially if you don't know her outside of your computer screen. All I can tell you is move on to the next one & don't lose sleep over the little jezebelle...oh, and I know you probably just panicked, but next time don't runaway no matter how bad things may seem to be going.

 

[Sarge 2.0]

You should have drowned Pacey in that creek, Dawson.

Heh.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I'd have done the same thing, except sending her that message on MSN the next day. I'd have given up on her 100%

 

[Captain Planet!]

I didn't know women could even resist your gigantic chocolate muscles.

 

[cryptic name]

14?? **** it dont get tied down by the grasp of a woman just yet, tough it out and enjoy your teen years before you have to start spending your money on women!!!!

truer words were never spoken

 

[Mike_D202]

Just tell her what happend and see what she says. Tell her you felt inadequate when she started flirting/hitting on the two other guys because it was supposed to be you and her hanging, so you walked away.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

Just tell her she is a slag and that you will laugh when she finally gets her STD test results back.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

I think if she really wanted to meet you because she was INTERESTED in you, then she would have hung out with you and not brought so many gal friends. Not only that, she wouldn't have gone after the other guys.

I think she wanted to hang out as friends, and that's why when there was an opportunity to hang out with some other guys she seemed interested in, she took it.

But, no matter what happened, I think you should have told her you were leaving instead of just walking off.

she brought the friends to be safe, she was actually pretty smart about that one. Also this guy easily could have mistaken "flirting" with these guys as something that the girl easily didn't consider flirting.

it's pretty obvious this kid is socially awkward, im willing to bet there's a pretty large majority of that on these boards. He chickened out and left. the girl probably saw how he acted and took it as a sign of weakness...