Friends dilemna

[Carter]

I've been thinking about this for a while. See, where I live people mostly hang out in large groups. My main core of friends is only about 4 or 5 people, but beyond that we hang out with up to around 13 people.
They love to just hang out at the usual places and not do much of anything.

And I'm the type of guy that like my peace. I'm pretty solitary and despite the fact that I have many people I could just call up and do something with, I'd rather sit home and read, chill in my backyard, etc.

So here in lies my dilemna, some of my group - The 13 or so friends, a few of them think that I might be stuck up, or I don't want to hang out with them because "The only person Carter likes to talk to is Carter".

It's nothing against them, I just don't like being bothered with them all of the time.
So am I being an ass by not wanting to be bothered with my so-called friends?

 

[Carter]

And mostly I really could care less, but theres a small part of me that is bothered by this

 

[Calvin]

Sure, why not.

 

[Super Flight]

pfff at least you have friends... i cant even remeber my last friend...

 

[Calvin]

pfff at least you have friends... i cant even remeber my last friend...

Don't be a pity ****e.

Do you actually turn them down often when they want to hang out? I like solitary as much as the next guy, but it definitely can seem kind of off if you turn down your friends often when they want to hang out.

 

[Carter]

pfff at least you have friends... i cant even remeber my last friend...

I'll be your friend, but don't expect me to hang out with you

 

[InsaneMembrane]

I've been thinking about this for a while. See, where I live people mostly hang out in large groups. My main core of friends is only about 4 or 5 people, but beyond that we hang out with up to around 13 people.
They love to just hang out at the usual places and not do much of anything.

And I'm the type of guy that like my peace. I'm pretty solitary and despite the fact that I have many people I could just call up and do something with, I'd rather sit home and read, chill in my backyard, etc.

So here in lies my dilemna, some of my group - The 13 or so friends, a few of them think that I might be stuck up, or I don't want to hang out with them because "The only person Carter likes to talk to is Carter".

It's nothing against them, I just don't like being bothered with them all of the time.
So am I being an ass by not wanting to be bothered with my so-called friends?

Maybe you could explain that to your friends that sometimes you just prefer to be by yourself and that its nothing to do with them....

Though they sound kind of clingy....

 

[Childlike Wild]

There's nothing wrong with wanting time to yourself. The "so-called" friends will get over it.

 

[Carter]

Don't be a pity ****e.

Do you actually turn them down often when they want to hang out? I like solitary as much as the next guy, but it definitely can seem kind of off if you turn down your friends often when they want to hang out.

It's about 50/50
When we hang out, people just usually show up at somebody's house.

So when I don't call or show up they get offended I guess.

 

[Calvin]

Hm, odd.

 

[Carter]

Though they sound kind of clingy....

They are clingy. It's ridiculous. We're supposed to be guys. Why are they whining when I don't show up?

 

[Hades]

carter you silly goose

 

[Carter]

Alright, dilemna solved.
They can go **** themselves.

 

[jaguarr]

At certain points in their lives, everyone outgrows some of their friends in certain ways. And, there IS such a thing as spending too much time with people, too. Sometimes it's kind of nice to just chill on your own and read a book or watch a movie or whatever. Personal growth is kind of difficult when you have a bunch of people around you all the time. Tell your friends that sometimes you just like having some alone time and it's got nothing to do with them at all. They'll probably make fun of you for wanting to be alone at times because they won't totally understand, but just laugh with them and let them do what they do. After awhile, they'll get used to it, and you'll be able to hang with them when you want to and also get your alone time with a minimal bunch of BS from them. This is how I approached it when I was in my 20's and kind of digging having time to myself to read, write, paint, make music, introspect and whatever else, and it worked fine for me.

jag

 

[Tangled Web]

I kind of see Carter's point. It's like, I see all my friend's at school for like seven hours a day, and they want to hang out after, I need some ****ing alone time.

 

[Carter]

At certain points in their lives, everyone outgrows some of their friends in certain ways. And, there IS such a thing as spending too much time with people, too. Sometimes it's kind of nice to just chill on your own and read a book or watch a movie or whatever. Personal growth is kind of difficult when you have a bunch of people around you all the time. Tell your friends that sometimes you just like having some alone time and it's got nothing to do with them at all. They'll probably make fun of you for wanting to be alone at times because they won't totally understand, but just laugh with them and let them do what they do. After awhile, they'll get used to it, and you'll be able to hang with them when you want to and also get your alone time with a minimal bunch of BS from them. This is how I approached it when I was in my 20's and kind of digging having time to myself to read, write, paint, make music, introspect and whatever else, and it worked fine for me.

jag

This sounds like sound advice although half of me wants to cut them off completely

 

[jaguarr]

This sounds like sound advice although half of me wants to cut them off completely

Nahhh. You can have your cake and eat it too. You're just pissed at them for being clingy b1tches, right now.

jag

 

[InsaneMembrane]

They are clingy. It's ridiculous. We're supposed to be guys. Why are they whining when I don't show up?

Did you forget to give them flowers for your anniversary too

Seriously they sound annoying try to explain to them sometimes you just prefer to be alone...

 

[Super Flight]

I Lost a bunch of My friends becasue they would rather do drugs, idiots...

 

[Carter]

I think I'd like some drugs myself.

 

[Super Flight]

I Hate drugs, it mocks me

 

[Carter]

Eh, not all drugs are evil

 

[Kevin]

they like you.... i'm pretty sure at least one of them LIKES you like you. trust me

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

It's about 50/50
When we hang out, people just usually show up at somebody's house.

So when I don't call or show up they get offended I guess.

i hate when friends drop by other people's house. i consicer my home my private territory.

 

[Batty for Bats!]

I was going to write something inspiring. Then I read what I wrote and decided to trash it. I'll write back later, gotta head ache