Friends dilemna

[Carter]

I'm already inspired.
Inspired to deprive my friends of my awesomeness for about a month.

 

[Abaddon]

You're a loner by nature.

 

[Carter]

I honestly think that I would be happiest by myself in the mountains somewhere.

 

[Mr. Credible]

It's about 50/50
When we hang out, people just usually show up at somebody's house.

So when I don't call or show up they get offended I guess.

then your friends are the snobs.

there's nothing wrong with wanting time to yourself. whenever my friend's want to go out partying, and i don't feel like it, i just say "i don't feel like it" and that's that.

maybe you need new friends?

 

[Mr. Credible]

I honestly think that I would be happiest by myself in the mountains somewhere.

there's a book, called, i think "mountain man" that teaches you how to hunt dear, and turtles, and stuff... and how to build shelter and get drinking water and all that.

i suggest you pick it up........... then travel north.

 

[enterthemadness]

I consider myself a loner, even though I have friends...who I hardly hang out with.

But anyway, just tell your friends you like being by yourself. And that you don't alwasy like to hang out with them all the time, just once and a while.

 

[Batty for Bats!]

I would consider myself a loner, because I can survive without the need of anyone. But I get an itch to just talk to people. To have some form of communication with the outside world.

 

[Abaddon]

I'm the same. I don't feel like I need other people's attention.

 

[Carter]

there's a book, called, i think "mountain man" that teaches you how to hunt dear, and turtles, and stuff... and how to build shelter and get drinking water and all that.

i suggest you pick it up........... then travel north.

That would rock so hard. I think, I'll do that when I retire.

 

[Kevin]

i say i dont have friends but in truth i do... i just dont like being around them. they're always into something else that i'm not into like drugs, hanging out, music... girls--anyway, i dont need to be near them, i just wished they'd call or send a message. let me know they're thinking about me, but they dont and i feel lonely... and wish they would die or something

 

[War Lord]

pfff at least you have friends... i cant even remeber my last friend...

I do remember your last friend. I do also remember that he ran away.

 

[Abaddon]

i say i dont have friends but in truth i do... i just dont like being around them. they're always into something else that i'm not into like drugs, hanging out, music... girls--anyway, i dont need to be near them, i just wished they'd call or send a message. let me know they're thinking about me, but they dont and i feel lonely... and wish they would die or something

so where'd you go? I missed you so.

 

[Kevin]

Lol, If Only...

 

[Batty for Bats!]

so where'd you go? I missed you so.

It seems likes its been forever since you've been gone WITHOUT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT

 

[redmarvel]

Solution: Have a once a month Friday/Saturday party. Your friends come Friday bringing whatever they want to eat or drink. You party the night away singing Karaoke or watching old movies or whatever. Feed 'em scrambled eggs in the morning. Then they'll know you aren't stuck up cause you let 'em trash your house for a night but still took care of them in the morning and you'll have the rest of the weekend to clean up the mess.

 

[Erzengel]

Carter is just a homebody. There isn't nothing necessarily wrong with that. And the people who think you are stuck up obviously don't know that well and you are just a homebody. I mean you can talk to them or don't care.

 

[reggiebar]

I've been thinking about this for a while. See, where I live people mostly hang out in large groups. My main core of friends is only about 4 or 5 people, but beyond that we hang out with up to around 13 people.
They love to just hang out at the usual places and not do much of anything.

And I'm the type of guy that like my peace. I'm pretty solitary and despite the fact that I have many people I could just call up and do something with, I'd rather sit home and read, chill in my backyard, etc.

So here in lies my dilemna, some of my group - The 13 or so friends, a few of them think that I might be stuck up, or I don't want to hang out with them because "The only person Carter likes to talk to is Carter"

It's nothing against them, I just don't like being bothered with them all of the time.
So am I being an ass by not wanting to be bothered with my so-called friends?

DISCLAIMER: I am actually giving you honest advice from someone who was once in the same type of situation that you face when I was entering my 20s and IN NO WAY attacking you or making any remarks against you.

Now, since I have put the disclaimer above I hope that you can read the below with an open mind.

After reading what you said above, it truly does sound like you really don't consider these people your friends in the first place.

It's nothing against them, I just don't like being bothered with them all of the time.
So am I being an ass by not wanting to be bothered with my so-called friends?

Using the word "bothered" twice when describing your friends doesn't really sound like you care that much for these people in the first place. It sounds as if you feel that you are giving them your time - like it is a gift and that you don't really enjoy them or time with them.

If your friends have an opinion of you like "The only person Carter likes to talk to is Carter" and you are making statements like It's nothing against them, I just don't like being bothered with them all of the time., perhaps you are unintentionally giving off an air of superiority to your friends?

Perhaps you are misunderstood by your friends? Perhaps you really do feel superior to them and have hit that point in life that people often do where it is time to move forward with friends who have changed in the same ways as you? Perhaps you are at a point in your life where you really don't want any friends and merely want acquaintances which is sort of impossible with this current group because they are friends already?

Anyhow, I believe that these are questions that you should ask yourself as they were questions that I once had to ask myself when I found myself in a similar situation in my life at around the same age.

My only advice to you once you have decided how you want to live your life moving forward at this point would be as follows. No matter what path you choose in regards to your current friends, be sure that you acknowledge to your friends how you have valued their friendship over the years and respect them as people by being very honest about where you are headed in life and how that decision, if different from the current path of your friends, is a decision that you have made for yourself and that wasn't made because you think they are bad people or you are no better than them.

Hope you figure it all out, because it truly sounds like these people in your life value your friendship and are feeling rejected by you at the moment.

 

[The Last Meatbag]

Maybe your friends don't like hanging out at your house, and you could be.........repaying them for their time at your house by going and hanging out with them somewhere

 

[Ronny Shade]

I totally understand. My friends get annoying very fast. I'll not hang out with them for a week and I'll say to myself "Oh, they're cool. I'll hang out with them today" and then after like 3 hours I'm totally sick of them again.


but what's a dilemna?

 

[Carter]

Apparently 10 people want to raid my house tonight to watch a porno movie.
Because it's "The most expensive porno ever made"

Do you guys understand what Im dealing with here?

 

[Ronny Shade]

I'm sorry.



This means you've never seen it before. I weep for you.

 

[Super Flight]

I do remember your last friend. I do also remember that he ran away.

who?

 

[Strange]

Solution: Have a once a month Friday/Saturday party. Your friends come Friday bringing whatever they want to eat or drink. You party the night away singing Karaoke or watching old movies or whatever. Feed 'em scrambled eggs in the morning. Then they'll know you aren't stuck up cause you let 'em trash your house for a night but still took care of them in the morning and you'll have the rest of the weekend to clean up the mess.

Good advice but it would go off better if all your friends showed up and you were naked.

 

[8Ball2/JanG5]

I'll be your friend, but don't expect me to hang out with you

To a certain degree, you seriously don't like other people or think they have much value in your life.

heh

 

[Darthphere]

I've been thinking about this for a while. See, where I live people mostly hang out in large groups. My main core of friends is only about 4 or 5 people, but beyond that we hang out with up to around 13 people.
They love to just hang out at the usual places and not do much of anything.

And I'm the type of guy that like my peace. I'm pretty solitary and despite the fact that I have many people I could just call up and do something with, I'd rather sit home and read, chill in my backyard, etc.

So here in lies my dilemna, some of my group - The 13 or so friends, a few of them think that I might be stuck up, or I don't want to hang out with them because "The only person Carter likes to talk to is Carter".

It's nothing against them, I just don't like being bothered with them all of the time.
So am I being an ass by not wanting to be bothered with my so-called friends?

I get what youre saying. I had some clingy ass friends that wanted to hang out 24.7. I would go home after school to take a nap or something and these ******* would show up, or call me. Sometimes you need your space.