It sounds like you need psychological counseling. There was no reason to hit the "guy" when you could have shown dignity and class, and walked away. It's unfortunate that your mother passed away, and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. That said, you should have realized that the "guy" didn't know, and you would have shown greater grace by doing the dignified thing. Not something that someone from the trailer would have done.
I am very disappointed by your actions, and think you should seek counseling to address any internal anger issues that may be in existence. If you don't, you may self-destruct. Furthermore, you may hit a "guy" who is a stranger one day for saying something, and he or she may pull a knife or gun on you, and terminate your existence. Worse, they may do nothing at the moment, and later when you least expect it, they may execute you for your actions from a distance.
Always be thinking ahead of the consequences of your actions. You have no control of what others may do, but you always have self-control of what you will do.
Thats easy for you to say. Did your mother die? You know, we can show dignity and class until were blue in the face, but sometimes some people just have it coming. Thats terrible to have lost a parent especially your mother. Your telling him he needs counseling, when that was a basic human response under duress. He probably tried to tell the bozo his mother died and the bozo was one of those hyper types who like to hear themselves talk, thus tuning other people out. Insulting someone's parent is very disrespectful. More disrespectful then hitting some bozo who deserved it. Hey, Spidey probably saved his life. What if he didn't punch the guy, the guy went on to insult some one else's mother and the person to whom he insulted was armed and fresh out of the psych ward??? Lighten up. He lost his mother, he's only human. I would have done worse, when my father died I just wanted to be alone for awhile, nothing sounded funny to me and I was a ticking time bomb....
I'm not in any way proud of hitting the guy, but it just happened. And, knowing the guy as well as I do, I know he would have mentioned my mother over and over again just to spite me if I hadn't hit him.
You don't have to apologize, some people need to learn how to shut up. Yea, he should have known better. Don't make fun of people's mothers, thats a cultural, unwritten rule. Sorry to hear about your mother, when did she pass?
1998, a few months after my pops died I stayed with my mother for a few months. A couple of jocks who lived nearby invited me to their house for a kickback party.
Everybody seems cool except for this one guy who can't stop with the racial jokes. I didnt mind it as I was making him look stupid in front of all of his friends. He later apologized and told me there was one more beer in the beer bong. I went out there and sniffed it, turns out he pissed in it. As he started laughing I got really pissed and yelled at him. He provoked me. Next thing I know Im flying towards him, grabbing his neck and launching him into the refridgerator. Everybody was shocked, as it took two of them to pry me off of him. I let go, and the jerk after he recovered tried to choke me. I punched him. He flew back. Funny thing though, after he got up from the floor, he was a good distance away from me. He kept shouting hoping his friends would help him out. I think there was like 8 people there. In a home around a bunch of guys I never even met before, I challenged him. Nothing, the drunk just wanted to argue. I left, smoked a joint in front of their house waiting for him to go home. Turns out his friends snuck him out into the back as I heard car tires screeching off.
Anyway I have a million of these stories.