Have You Ever Been in Love?

[SpideyVille]

Whether you are single or in a relationship, there are always those moments where you felt or thought that you were in love with someone. However, sometimes the line between love and infatuation can be very blurred. So looking back, was there ever a time where you were truly in love with someone, whether it was with a friend, someone you barely knew, or even a complete stranger, or was it just a strong feeling of attraction? If you believe that you are in love right now, how do you know that it is love exactly?

For me, personally, I've gone through many experiences with certain girls where I thought I was in love, yet after we parted ways I realized that I wasn't in love with the person, but rather the idea of being in love and thinking that I found someone to love.

 

[Bubonic]

Yup, and it was wasted.
I was 16 and this girl invaded my every thought, my every action was directed towards her happiness, the whole of my life felt like it needed to be centred upon this one being and nothing else mattered. Anytime she was in my presence I was taken by the sweetest euphoria and my mood was linked to her.

But I ended up locked down as the friend, she had a boyfriend, I filled the emotional gaps her boyfriend neglected, in the end I realized I'd been a tool, and sadly I've never felt that fire for anyone else and I'm heading into my 27th year.

If I'd know it was to be a one time thing I wouldn't of let the genie out of the bottle so liberally because now I just overthink things to much and that part of me is seemingly shut down.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Have I met women that I liked a lot? Yes. Truly in love with? No.

 

[8wid]

Sadly yes, why do you think I've been married for the past six years?

 

[PyroChamber]

There were times I thought I was in love with certain girls, then I remember how they looked and how they acted; that's when I realize I wasn't in love, I just wanted to ****.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

Nah.

 

[Lighthouse]

Once.

 

[Wolfwood]

Yes and we have a very ****ed up and crazy crazy relationship that I wouldn't trade for the world. When I'm with her it can either be magic or a beautiful disaster. She's ****ing nuts and so am I, it's perfect.

Whether it'll last is a whole other matter! hahahahahah.


Iv'e been drinking to be honest.

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

Yes. I've been in a relationship for a year now.

 

[Hound55]

Sadly yes, why do you think I've been married for the past six years?

Because you hate yourself..?

Wait... rhetorical?

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

I have not really been a player in the relationship game in my adult life, so was very naive about certain things in this department.
But, in recent times i have found out that when people know you have led a lonely life, and they know what type of person you are looking for, they can manipulate you into thinking they are that kind of person, and can conjure up feelings that you might think is love. When they want to possess you because, let's say, you are set to become a rich person, people will do this.
But, inevitably, these feelings die off, as they are not real love, even if you are not aware of the manipulations at the time of the feelings dieing off, you just feel something is not right, you can kid yourself on as you don't want to be lonely, but in the end you cannot deny the feelings are not there anymore. Sure, you might get some reverb from the manipulations, but they will die off too.
And what can happen is after that you find true love, which can be overwhemling, amazing and a little scary at times too.
True love is a special kind of love, and you can't do anything about it, that is the scary part. It can happen at the most inopputune time, when you are not in the best of circumstances for it, so that makes it all the harder to bear sometimes. Unfortunatley you cannot choose when this will happen to you. You don't want to inadvertantly hurt the other person, you don't want to get hurt yourself, but if you are not in the ideal circumstances for it to bloom, then these things can happen.
Also, true love can make other people jealous of it, they will do anything they can do break it up, so you have all that to contend with too.

 

[kedrell]

No.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

Another thing I should have added is, that these jealous people who are always trying to break couples up, when they recoginise it as true love, well, they are usually people who have never experienced it themselves, hence the jealousy.
So, they spend all their time on negative things like that, instead of trying to go out there and find it for themselves, and, my theory is, they jinx themselves out of finding their own true love as a result.

 

[Golgo-13]

True love is when you still love the person despite seeing them at their worst; they're sick,look horrible, smell bad, etc. Truly love cannot be turned off very easily, so if the other person has wronged you and you still have feelings for them despite it; your in love...

 

[Hound55]

So basically anyone who could put up with me right now..?

Fair enough.

 

[Erzengel]

I remember "love" during high school but it's funny when you look back on it especially after having relationships in college and beyond and how we tend to build things up when we are younger and how we are "devastated" after a 3 month relationship ends. I'm sure there are posters here who can tell stories of relationships that ended after years, marriage and kids. It kinda puts a 3 month relationship when you're a Junior into perspective.

My first relationship was 3 months and it broke up when she was away in college and I remember how upset it was, so much that I let it affect the next relationship.

Years later, it's easy to place those relationships when compared to longer, more successful ones.

 

[Immortalfire]

I wanna know what love is...

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

I married my 1st love.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Yup, I'm in true love with my girlfriend right now, been with her over a year and a half. Moved without a second thought across the country with her for her dream job and don't regret it at all. We had some crappy situations outside of our relationship last year to get through, which with a couple not in love would've probably driven them apart, but only brought us closer together.

 

[C. Lee]

Yep. I love my wife.

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

I wanna know what love is...

I want you to show me!

 

[Mary Jane Watson]

Want to but no.

 

[Mace Dolex]

For me, personally, I've gone through many experiences with certain girls where I thought I was in love, yet after we parted ways I realized that I wasn't in love with the person, but rather the idea of being in love and thinking that I found someone to love.

I felt this way too at times sure I might've had a crush on a girl in high school or at work but nothing really serious that I would consider marrying that person but more of an attraction.

My last two girlfriends who I met at work weren't exactly my type I guess I just hooked up with them because I was young and horny, that's the plain truth I'm not gonna lie, I'm not a sociable person who goes out so my girl fix comes from the workplace.

I was with my ex-girlfriend for 4 years and I don't really know if I felt real love towards mostly I was with her for the sex, and in all the years I never introduced her to my parents maybe I was embarrased by her or my parents.

 

[Zephyr Alexian]

Love? no. Lust? Many times. I slept with multiple women but I'm not sure I have loved any of them. I've listened, communicated, adored, experimented, and manipulated but I'm not sure if I've ever loved a woman for who she was or for how special she truly could be. I prefer no commitment but one day I'll marry. I love children; however, I am too young for a family at the moment and repeatedly failing to create one is more enjoyable.

 

[ObakeTora]

I was in love once, and I can never stop thinking about her. 10 years now, but forever is just a weekend.