Height insecurity

[XtremelyBaneful]

lol, what has this thread turned into

Dude i´m 20 almost 21 years old and i'm 5' 7'' and also look really young everytime so i ask for alcohol or (here in mexico we can drink after 18 birthday) or i´m going to enter an R rated movie they ask for my ID, while my friends doesn´t have to... people think i´m in highschool or even middleschool, believe me i can relate...

well, you still got an inch on me man. and yeah, i've had people stop me from buying stuff sometimes thinking my ID is fake even though I'm well over 21 years old.

I'm not sure why it bothers you "a lot". There must be aspects of your appearance that please you, so why not be confident in those?

not really man. I try to work out but I don't get very far because I don't like eating. Plus since I'm short my body wouldn't look great anyway if I became brolic.

As far as the acting goes, Robert Downey Jr. is very undersized in both height and weight, yet he's known for his action roles. There are roles for all body types, and in an ever-diversifying world, being in a minority group (I'm assuming you're referencing skin) is not the hurdle that it once was.

that means downey's got 2 inches on me. yes I was referencing skin and quite honestly, perhaps the hurdle isn't a high, but unless you're black or white, I think it is certainly still there. I've got a 15+ paged thread dedicated to that topic.

However, lacking belief in yourself is indeed a hindrance. Being humble is a wonderful quality, but don't let it turn into something toxic. Concentrate on the gifts that you have, and use every opportunity to showcase them.

I believe there is a fine line between modesty/humility and insecurity/lack of self confidence. that's my problem, I really cannot get over it because there is nothing I can do about it...it depresses me.

Bunch of manlets in here.

[BLACKOUT]Kidding.[/BLACKOUT]

Acting is the last job you would need to worry about your height over. Actors are well known for generally being short.

notice how none of those A list actors are brown. also, I don't think it is entirely accurate either. for instance, I believe ben stiller is 5 7.

Shorter actors have a wider range of characters they can play.....

not that I ever in my life have a shot of getting discovered & being an actor, I feel as though I'm shorter than even the short range of actors, and I am also a minority.

5'6 would be tall for a woman though.

actually, I think it's right around average for them.

Your taller than me, I would gladly take your height & be happy with it.. I'm barely 5'2" with shoes on.

are you happy with the height you have though? and I don't mean that in a mocking way.

I'm fairly short. I Don't worry about it constantly but there are times when it gets me down

you're a stronger man than I am then.

I am dwarf at 3'. Don't let 5' whatever get you down. :P

like I asked the guy above though, are you content with it? like, it doesn't bother you on a day to day basis? I apologize if the question comes off offensive, I ask it genuinely.

 

[regwec]

At just under 5' 10", I feel short at times but tall when I go somewhere like Spain.

I think a lot of shorter men have a complex that they can't get taller women. This is an easy thing to get out of your system: I briefly stepped out with a girl who was about 5' 11", and never gave it any thought again.

 

[Godzilla2000]

I'm 5 ft. 5 in. which is pretty normal for an adult woman so no height insecurity there. I can see where that could be an issue with a guy, but that's never really bothered me at all. Heck, I'd date Peter Dinklage (Well mostly because he's a kick ass little person.) because what really matters to me is not height but how protective a guy is of me and whether he treats me with the proper respect. In short, it's all about having a kind, nurturing attitude towards me. Besides, a shorter guy is easier to look in the eyes.

 

[regwec]

It's also easier to do it standing up. Just saying.

 

[Godzilla2000]

Well, I'll keep that in mind. I'm assuming by easier you mean for the man more than the woman.

 

[DeadPresident]

It's also easier to do it standing up. Just saying.

I understood that reference

 

[BatmanVSuperman]

5'3 is the average height for a woman. So 5'6 is tall for a woman.

 

[XtremelyBaneful]

5'3 is the average height for a woman. So 5'6 is tall for a woman.

according to who, what, where, and when? If you type average height for women, google spits out 5'4".

 

[KevanG]

Yeah BvS, an inch makes a lot of difference for women.

 

[BatmanVSuperman]

http://pediatrics.about.com/cs/growthcharts2/f/avg_ht_female.htm

5'3.8 actually (geez guys what a difference)

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

like I asked the guy above though, are you content with it? like, it doesn't bother you on a day to day basis? I apologize if the question comes off offensive, I ask it genuinely.

I am not content with it, but I'm not discontent either. It's something you have to deal with, and just hope other people will overlook. I would love to be tall, but I'm not depressed about it.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

Yeah BvS, an inch makes a lot of difference for women.

 

[DJ Kornphlake]

Yeah BvS, an inch makes a lot of difference for women.

 

[\S/JcDc\S/]

according to who, what, where, and when? If you type average height for women, google spits out 5'4.

Oh wow man really? An inch difference? BvS was sooooo far off from the search you did!!!

 

[XtremelyBaneful]

I am not content with it, but I'm not discontent either. It's something you have to deal with, and just hope other people will overlook. I would love to be tall, but I'm not depressed about it.

well then you're a stronger person than I am. Perhaps if I didn't make so many mistakes in my life but since I did, all of those and my height on top of that depresses the hell out of me.

Oh wow man really? An inch difference? BvS was sooooo far off from the search you did!!!

yes, an inch makes that difference. If I'm talking to someone who is 5'7, they've got an inch on me. Plus, this varies greatly depending on the variables you quoted.

 

[regwec]

Bro, this is easy to say and difficult to understand, but everyone you ever met cared far less about your height than you do. Some people are born short, some people are born mentally handicapped, some people are born transgender, some people are born with red hair, some people are born plain old stupid. Very few people care, and far fewer would think there was anything remarkable about your stature. Don't turn such an inconsequential thing into your own prison.

 

[XtremelyBaneful]

Bro, this is easy to say and difficult to understand, but everyone you ever met cared far less about your height than you do. Some people are born short, some people are born mentally handicapped, some people are born transgender, some people are born with red hair, some people are born plain old stupid. Very few people care, and far fewer would think there was anything remarkable about your stature. Don't turn such an inconsequential thing into your own prison.

believe man I try not to but it just keeps getting to me. I understand what you're saying, but height I think in society is seen as a manly thing.

I know no one else cares about my height, I'm the one who cares obviously because I am me, so I have to put up with it.

 

[Pink Ranger]

I'm going to come at this from a different angle. People DO care about your height as much as you do, especially for men. Taller men are perceived as stronger, smarter, more mature and more "dateable." In your life, you will likely be passed over for a promotion at least once because the other guy is taller. You will likely not get a job at least once because the other guy is taller. I am 5'4", have lived for 41 years now, and this is what life is like.

Is it fair? No. Is it fair that it's wrong to discriminate against fat people, which is something most of them can control (don't anybody tell me otherwise, that's BS), but it's okay to discriminate against short people? No.

But you need to accept that and do things to make up for it. First of all, you can't slouch and slide like tall guys and cool dudes in movies do. You need to walk with an arrow straight back and shoulders up and back, like you're Prince William meeting your grandma. That means going to the gym alot, so you have a frame that can maintain that posture. It means changing the way you dress; tall men can get away with untucked dress shirts; short guys usually can't.

 

[PyroChamber]

Is height hereditary? Because I remember my father being really tall but my mother is only like 5'1" I believe, and I'm 5'6".

 

[zeroapoc]

Yes it's hereditary. My father is 5'6'' and my mother is 4'11'' so I've never really complained about being 5'8''. I'm actually fortunate.

 

[Six]

Even being 6 feet tall I'm insecure about my height sometimes. My brother is 6'4 and I've got friends taller than that. But generally I'm taller than most people I encounter, by a couple inches usually. I once met a guy who was 7 feet tall. I never felt so short in my life.

And even though me and my brother are both over 6 feet tall, our grandpa is 5'4 at most. My grandpa on my dad's side was 6'4 though.

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

Once I realised that there was just nothing that I could do about the height that I am. i.e. I got well past puberty!
It was just a waste of my time and energy worrying about it. FYI: male 5'5"
If other people have an issue over my height? Then f**k 'em, they aren't worth my time either...

 

[XtremelyBaneful]

I'm going to come at this from a different angle. People DO care about your height as much as you do, especially for men. Taller men are perceived as stronger, smarter, more mature and more "dateable." In your life, you will likely be passed over for a promotion at least once because the other guy is taller. You will likely not get a job at least once because the other guy is taller. I am 5'4", have lived for 41 years now, and this is what life is like.

Is it fair? No. Is it fair that it's wrong to discriminate against fat people, which is something most of them can control (don't anybody tell me otherwise, that's BS), but it's okay to discriminate against short people? No.

But you need to accept that and do things to make up for it. First of all, you can't slouch and slide like tall guys and cool dudes in movies do. You need to walk with an arrow straight back and shoulders up and back, like you're Prince William meeting your grandma. That means going to the gym alot, so you have a frame that can maintain that posture. It means changing the way you dress; tall men can get away with untucked dress shirts; short guys usually can't.

Your post tells more of reality imo. I try not to slouch but I can't always catch myself, and I do try to work out but my problem is I don't like eating so I don't gain very much muscle. There's a little more to it than this but just to go off your post which is pretty much accurate, just sums up why it is depressing & stays that way knowing there's nothing anyone can do about it.

 

[Avenging Angel]

5'6 would be tall for a woman though.

I think it is. Nearly 5'7" is taller than average for women, which is around 5'4".

 

[Pink Ranger]

Your post tells more of reality imo. I try not to slouch but I can't always catch myself, and I do try to work out but my problem is I don't like eating so I don't gain very much muscle. There's a little more to it than this but just to go off your post which is pretty much accurate, just sums up why it is depressing & stays that way knowing there's nothing anyone can do about it.

Cardio. Small guys don't have the body mass that they can rely on just lifting. Cardio will increase your body's ability to absorb nutrients, and help you gain frame from strength training. I've gained a fair bit of muscle weight in the past few years, by running more, which is counterintuitive but it worked.