Height insecurity

Even being 6 feet tall I'm insecure about my height sometimes. My brother is 6'4 and I've got friends taller than that. But generally I'm taller than most people I encounter, by a couple inches usually. I once met a guy who was 7 feet tall. I never felt so short in my life.

And even though me and my brother are both over 6 feet tall, our grandpa is 5'4 at most. My grandpa on my dad's side was 6'4 though.

I don't understand how height impacts adult life very much, except in the most extreme cases, ie extremely tall/extremely short. I'm 6'3" with long arms, which gave me a leverage advantage when I was playing sports in high school, but for most of the last 20 years, it's meant whacking my head on a car roof when I go over a bump and finding shirts with sleeves that are too short.
 
I'd like to be 6 feet tall.
Just so I could cosplay as Batman and/or Superman...
 
I'm 5'6, but the problem is that I have a long torso with short legs. So it makes me look shorter than 5'6, which is lame.
 
Cardio. Small guys don't have the body mass that they can rely on just lifting. Cardio will increase your body's ability to absorb nutrients, and help you gain frame from strength training. I've gained a fair bit of muscle weight in the past few years, by running more, which is counterintuitive but it worked.
how tall are you if you don't mind me asking? my coworker said that weightlifting speeds up your metabolism, but that hasn't really worked out for me much. i got a belly no matter how many crunches i do. but yeah, doing cardio definitely wouldn't hurt. but honestly, i don't see how it'd give me any extra benefit as a short man. not saying it's bad but i'd just get all the benefits of cardio, as far as I understand it.

I'm 5'6, but the problem is that I have a long torso with short legs. So it makes me look shorter than 5'6, which is lame.
i'm the opposite. we're the same height, but I have a high waist and a short torso. overall, are you content with your height?
 
how tall are you if you don't mind me asking? my coworker said that weightlifting speeds up your metabolism, but that hasn't really worked out for me much. i got a belly no matter how many crunches i do. but yeah, doing cardio definitely wouldn't hurt. but honestly, i don't see how it'd give me any extra benefit as a short man. not saying it's bad but i'd just get all the benefits of cardio, as far as I understand it.


I'm 5'4". The problem with the fitness industry is that it doesn't take into account that people of various body types react to nutrition and exercise differently.

The belly thing is going to take some work. It may require a change in diet as well, but strength cannot replace cardio, just like cardio cannot replace strength. You can't take one wheel off a bicycle and expect it to go very far.
 
I'm 5'4". The problem with the fitness industry is that it doesn't take into account that people of various body types react to nutrition and exercise differently.

The belly thing is going to take some work. It may require a change in diet as well, but strength cannot replace cardio, just like cardio cannot replace strength. You can't take one wheel off a bicycle and expect it to go very far.
okay. i think you may have mentioned that already once in the thread.

when i started college, my weight was around 105-110lb. once i started weightlifting, i got to 120lb, 130lb, eventually 140lb, and now i'm around 145 but i know there's definitely some body fat. this is the most i've every weighed in my entire life.

so it's annoying to me how hard it is to get rid of, but now i know how it feels. i used to never care what i ate, i think it's time to change now.
 
So, is this why most on here are obsessed with actors being the right height?
 
So, is this why most on here are obsessed with actors being the right height?
Personally I'm not short, but I still get annoyed by actors or athletes overstating their height. It seems like hubris to me :shrug: If you are performing at a high level even shorter than the elite, you should be proud ;)
 
So, is this why most on here are obsessed with actors being the right height?
:lmao:



"Height" is really relative, as Six pointed out. You can feel short at 6' when everyone around you is taller than that. That's why Christian Bale sometimes looked short as Bruce Wayne even though is 6'-6'2", cause his Alfred, Fox, and Ra's were about that height or taller. :funny:

It's true that taller guys get more breaks career-wise, but I don't think they necessarily get more women. I know >6' guys who've had trouble dating because they were just "too tall" for most women around here. (I'm in SoCal, so lots of Asians and Hispanics, who tend to be on the shorter side.) They have to stoop to hold hands, and stooping just doesn't look good on anyone. I have a female friend who's 6'3" and THAT'S rough. :funny: She finally married someone who was 6'4". My husband is 5'8" (I'm 5'5") and I find that comfortable. Having to crane my neck to talk to someone tall isn't fun.


okay. i think you may have mentioned that already once in the thread.

when i started college, my weight was around 105-110lb. once i started weightlifting, i got to 120lb, 130lb, eventually 140lb, and now i'm around 145 but i know there's definitely some body fat. this is the most i've every weighed in my entire life.

so it's annoying to me how hard it is to get rid of, but now i know how it feels. i used to never care what i ate, i think it's time to change now.
There's nothing you can do about your absolute height, so you gotta make the most of it. If you have good posture and stand tall, the confidence will show more than the height. Tall guys who slouch and look lazy don't get as many breaks.

Since you were so thin as a college kid (geez, you were smaller than me and I'm a woman and a STICK), you've probably had to do A TON of weightlifting to get up to where you are now. What kind of lifts do you do? I find that it's impossible to slouch after doing low-bar squats and deadlifts. I naturally stand taller and more confident, and I don't even lift that often. Good posture can add a good inch or two to your height.

As for the belly, that's a case of genetics and diet, way more than exercise. I know a bunch of guys who are pretty active and still have a belly, thanks to their fondness for beer. :oldrazz: Some guys can get away with it in their early 20s, but it catches up with you more often than not.

You can't crunch a belly away, that isn't how it works. A strong core will do wonders for your posture, but it also builds up muscle mass, which doesn't exactly make your belly smaller. And not eating that donut is a heck of a lot easier than running the hour(s) it will take to burn it off. And as I mentioned before, beer has that quality of often going right to your belly and never coming off.
 
There's nothing you can do about your absolute height, so you gotta make the most of it. If you have good posture and stand tall, the confidence will show more than the height. Tall guys who slouch and look lazy don't get as many breaks.
I know, and it really sucks. Every time I realize I'm slouching I try to fix that, but I can't always do it.
Since you were so thin as a college kid (geez, you were smaller than me and I'm a woman and a STICK), you've probably had to do A TON of weightlifting to get up to where you are now. What kind of lifts do you do? I find that it's impossible to slouch after doing low-bar squats and deadlifts. I naturally stand taller and more confident, and I don't even lift that often. Good posture can add a good inch or two to your height.
lol, keep in mind though that it took me five and a half years to graduate college and I didn't start weightlifting until junior year. I don't do deadlifts, but I do controlled squats, dumb bell bench press, & the like. first day of the week is legs, next day is chest & triceps, next is back & biceps, then last is shoulders & traps. And at my max I was like 140, and that was definitely mostly muscle mass.

That was in 2013, so two years later I've started weightlifting again and I'm heavier (currently around 145) but a much bigger chunk of that is body fat this time around. What do you mean about posture adding to your height? Unless you mean it can make a short man look more handsome, I dunno what you mean...coz like we have established, there's NOTHING I can do about being short.

As for the belly, that's a case of genetics and diet, way more than exercise. I know a bunch of guys who are pretty active and still have a belly, thanks to their fondness for beer. :oldrazz: Some guys can get away with it in their early 20s, but it catches up with you more often than not.

You can't crunch a belly away, that isn't how it works. A strong core will do wonders for your posture, but it also builds up muscle mass, which doesn't exactly make your belly smaller. And not eating that donut is a heck of a lot easier than running the hour(s) it will take to burn it off. And as I mentioned before, beer has that quality of often going right to your belly and never coming off.
I've been skinny all my life. It hasn't been until this year that I've actually got a belly/gut. I used to eat whatever the hell I wanted and pretty much didn't have to worry about getting fat.

I think I got fast metabolism from my mother, but I'm in my mid 20s now, so perhaps it has slowed down. Also, I don't drink alcohol at all so I can assure that isn't the reason why.
 
I know, and it really sucks. Every time I realize I'm slouching I try to fix that, but I can't always do it.lol, keep in mind though that it took me five and a half years to graduate college and I didn't start weightlifting until junior year. I don't do deadlifts, but I do controlled squats, dumb bell bench press, & the like. first day of the week is legs, next day is chest & triceps, next is back & biceps, then last is shoulders & traps. And at my max I was like 140, and that was definitely mostly muscle mass.

That was in 2013, so two years later I've started weightlifting again and I'm heavier (currently around 145) but a much bigger chunk of that is body fat this time around. What do you mean about posture adding to your height? Unless you mean it can make a short man look more handsome, I dunno what you mean...coz like we have established, there's NOTHING I can do about being short.

I've been skinny all my life. It hasn't been until this year that I've actually got a belly/gut. I used to eat whatever the hell I wanted and pretty much didn't have to worry about getting fat.

I think I got fast metabolism from my mother, but I'm in my mid 20s now, so perhaps it has slowed down. Also, I don't drink alcohol at all so I can assure that isn't the reason why.
If you slouch, your back curves and you look shorter.

Try deadlifts. They're really good for your posture. I sit at a computer all day so I don't do bench presses. Definitely don't need those muscles contracted more than they are! :funny:

And um, mid-20s isn't "all your life" technically. My parents are SUPER skinny and they're in their 50s and 60s, so that's bona fide skinny genes I have for sure! Lots of super skinny guys do fill out after college, so it's not unusual.

People do put weight on wherever their body decides to do it. Some women gain weight on their boobs, but I am not so lucky, it all goes to my thighs and butt. (Lucky for me, my husband is a butt man.) Some people put it on their stomachs and it's really hard to get off. But good posture helps with that too. My husband is skinny but has posture so bad, it looks like he has a belly when he actually has no fat there. :funny:
 
I am extremely lucky: all my weight goes to my boobs. :awesome:
 
If you're not using that tissue......
 
i'm getting older now, must say the only thing that sucks worse than being short, is being old and short.
 
What do you call it when you're 5'7, but people say "wow, up close you look real tall." ?
 
how tall are you if you don't mind me asking? my coworker said that weightlifting speeds up your metabolism, but that hasn't really worked out for me much. i got a belly no matter how many crunches i do. but yeah, doing cardio definitely wouldn't hurt. but honestly, i don't see how it'd give me any extra benefit as a short man. not saying it's bad but i'd just get all the benefits of cardio, as far as I understand it.

i'm the opposite. we're the same height, but I have a high waist and a short torso. overall, are you content with your height?

I've dated girls taller than me but I've been lucky. There are some whose preference is tall, even if they themselves are short. And I get it - that classic 'tall dark and handsome' fantasy, so I have to remind myself, "Hey, they're not for me."

But it's something that I try not to think about when, let's say, I'm having lunch with co-workers and they're all like 5'9 and above. I would joke about it, ignoring the fact that I feel like a munchkin.

That being said, 5'5/5'6 is short, but it's not THAT short. I've met guys smaller than me, and I'm just thankful.
 
I've also gotten the 'You're good looking and cute. Too bad your'e not taller."

Nasty.
 
We all have insecurities. If i had hair i would do so much better dating.
 
I'm 5'9, which I feel is the perfect height.
I never think about my height until someone brings up the topic.
 

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