My friend needs a place to stay...should I invite him to live with me?

[Feenix]

He's asking a question. Shame on you for twisting it into some political conversation. It's a simple yes or no question.

He wasn't asking a question. Are you just ******** because I laughed at JJJ's joke about you?

Stop caring so much about an internet forum. Yeesh.

 

[Ultron-5]

Let me ask a couple question I think no one here has asked.

Have you met him? Have you talked to him via the phone? Do you know his real name? Do you know what he looks like in real life?

I get you wanna help him. Nothing wrong with that. Helping people is good but this sounds like someone who've known only online. If this was a real life friend I would say maybe but no. Don't ask him to live with you.

Good points Levi. If he's never met the guy why should he let him stay at his house? This guy got himself into this mess, he can't rely on random people he met online to get him out. There's nothing wrong with being charitable but in this case I wouldn't want to get too involved/

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Well, to be fair, autism is a spectrum. It can range from a noteworthy but entirely manageable deficiency in processing social dynamics and sensory input to being completely unable to function without some measure of constant assistance.

He was coherent and well-spoken in the comicvine thread (technically…. content-wise, it was insane). So I doubt he's severely autistic. He probably just has asperger's and is riding that as an excuse to be a complete lazy and selfish ass. He could probably get a secretarial job as a typist or something. Or, since he spends so much time online, he could be a web-programmer.

I do not think he's a "rain man."

 

[Ultron-5]

He wasn't asking a question. Are you just ******** because I laughed at JJJ's joke about you?

Stop caring so much about an internet forum. Yeesh.

You laughed at a joke JJJ made up?

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

You laughed at a joke JJJ made up?

Yes. She just said that. Did your circuits get crossed?

 

[Flint Marko]

Well this thread took quite the turn.

 

[Ultron-5]

Well this thread took quite the turn.

That seems to happen to a lot of threads.

 

[CardinalRed]

I have not met him in person, I've known him for 5 years (met him on thatguywiththeglasses.com in fact), spoke with him on Skype on several occasions. I trust his word, he's a good guy, but he is just have a difficult time right now. Shame on me for trying to help him, right?

 

[Feenix]

I have not met him in person, I've known him for 5 years (met him on thatguywiththeglasses.com in fact), spoke with him on Skype on several occasions. I trust his word, he's a good guy, but he is just have a difficult time right now. Shame on me for trying to help him, right?

Enabling someone is not helping them.

 

[Flint Marko]

I have not met him in person, I've known him for 5 years (met him on thatguywiththeglasses.com in fact), spoke with him on Skype on several occasions. I trust his word, he's a good guy, but he is just have a difficult time right now. Shame on me for trying to help him, right?

I respect you for trying to help but I think it'd complicate more things for both of you. Bringing someone who is essentially a stranger halfway across the country is ill advised. How long would he stay? How would you feed him? What if he overstays his welcome? What if he ends up being a danger to you or himself? It seems like a drastic measure that, upon further reflection, I think you will second guess.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

I have not met him in person, I've known him for 5 years (met him on thatguywiththeglasses.com in fact), spoke with him on Skype on several occasions. I trust his word, he's a good guy, but he is just have a difficult time right now. Shame on me for trying to help him, right?

You still don't know him as well as you think, having him as a house guest won't be the best move.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

I have not met him in person, I've known him for 5 years (met him on thatguywiththeglasses.com in fact), spoke with him on Skype on several occasions. I trust his word, he's a good guy, but he is just have a difficult time right now. Shame on me for trying to help him, right?

How is that helping him?

Shame on us for giving you good advice, I guess.

Take him in. I'm sure it'll be a delight and not at all a terrible mistake to let someone stay with you who is in his late 20's and refuses to get a job, thinks he's entitled to other people's hard-earned money, and believes a feminist syndicate is out to assassinate him. This won't turn out like 'Cable Guy' at all. No sir.

 

[CardinalRed]

For one, he wouldn't technically be my responsibility, he would essentially be a boarder in the house of my parents. As for me, my life wouldn't be effected by him living here, but like I said, he doesn't have a job, I had a part time job, so there aren't any legitimate concerns I have as the responsibility of feeding and sheltering Kelvin would fall onto my parents; not myself.

 

[LEVITIKUZ]

This story would be a good idea for a TV sitcom.

 

[Flint Marko]

For one, he wouldn't technically be my responsibility, he would essentially be a boarder in the house of my parents. As for me, my life wouldn't be effected by him living here, but like I said, he doesn't have a job, I had a part time job, so there aren't any legitimate concerns I have as the responsibility of feeding and sheltering Kelvin would fall onto my parents; not myself.

I have a hard time believing your parents would be completely open to taking in a 26 year old autistic man who refuses to get a job and, by all accounts, has mental issues. That's a lot to handle.

 

[CardinalRed]

I have a hard time believing your parents would be completely open to taking in a 26 year old autistic man who refuses to get a job and, by all accounts, has mental issues. That's a lot to handle.

Well considering my dad has a type of mental illness as well (not getting into that here though), I think he'd have some compassion towards him, and my mom pretty much is like whatever towards any issue, and I would feel better knowing Kelvin is in a safe place rather than on the streets or with his abusive uncle.

 

[Feenix]

Well considering my dad has a type of mental illness as well (not getting into that here though), I think he'd have some compassion towards him, and my mom pretty much is like whatever towards any issue, and I would feel better knowing Kelvin is in a safe place rather than on the streets or with his abusive uncle.

You're taking everything he says at face value. Didn't your parents teach you about internet safety? You've never met this person in real life, you don't know anything about his family other than what he tells you, and you're offering up your household to him.

That's insane.

 

[CardinalRed]

You're taking everything he says at face value. Didn't your parents teach you about internet safety? You've never met this person in real life, you don't know anything about his family other than what he tells you, and you're offering up your household to him.

That's insane.

I've known him for 5 years. If he had said "Hey let me stay at your house" then of course I would've thought maybe this is a bad idea...but this is MY idea and I'm not even sure if he'll go for it. I've messaged him 5 times in the past hour, I don't know why he isn't replying.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

For one, he wouldn't technically be my responsibility, he would essentially be a boarder in the house of my parents. As for me, my life wouldn't be effected by him living here, but like I said, he doesn't have a job, I had a part time job, so there aren't any legitimate concerns I have as the responsibility of feeding and sheltering Kelvin would fall onto my parents; not myself.

So you're not helping him. You expect your poor parents to be burdened with him. Maybe you have a lot in common with this Kelvin.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

How old are you Cardinal?

 

[CardinalRed]

I'll be 23 this year.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

Then you are old enough.
If you can out wrestle him, your mistake might not be too big.

 

[DarthSkywalker]

Then you are old enough.
If you can out wrestle him, your mistake might not be too big.

 

[C. Lee]

I live with my parents, but unlike Kelvin's parents, they know it would be unwise to kick me out of the house. This whole situation goes to show that you shouldn't force people with autism outside of their comfort zone.

Why would it be unwise to do so? You say in this thread that you are 22 years old. Parents can make children leave their house and fend for themselves at 18. If a child is deemed too physically or mentally unfit to take care of themselves, then the court system comes into play. Are you saying that you yourself are unable to care for yourself, and thus your parents could get into trouble if they just kicked you out without going through the court system?

My parents have already said they would provide him with room and bored, provided as he doesn't cost them any expenses, of course I can make no promises concerning the second stipulation.

For one, he wouldn't technically be my responsibility, he would essentially be a boarder in the house of my parents. As for me, my life wouldn't be effected by him living here, but like I said, he doesn't have a job, I had a part time job, so there aren't any legitimate concerns I have as the responsibility of feeding and sheltering Kelvin would fall onto my parents; not myself.

Room and Board is generally considered covering food and not requiring the person to pay rent for having a place to sleep. It does not include clothes, medicine, entertainment expenses, etc. Are you going to provide this for him...or make your parents take on that expense?

 

[CardinalRed]

FINALLY I got a text from Kelvin:

Sometimes my life can be a bit on edge when things don't go my way. I would consider your offer if you can provide me with a completely furnished room that includes: a high speed internet connection (including WiFi), television (preferably FiOS), refrigerator, bed, overall comfortable living quarters and some more once I think of them. My options available to me aren't good, if I go back with my parents or my uncle they said I have to fill out job applications. Coral wants me to be her human lab rat. Viacom refuses to talk with me about Mr. Enter. So as you can see, none of these are viable options for me. I will consider staying with you if you pay for travel costs and provide me a fully furnished living space as detailed above.