My Wedding Day has been oficially crapped on.

[guitarsingerguy]

As some of you may know, I'm getting married on October 20th. My best man has been my dearest friend since we were about 6 years old. He's been there for every major event in my life, so it's obviously a big deal that he be there. I just found out today that he's being activated for duty on October 1st. They originally told him they wouldn't be deployed until February, but they've told them that they need to put their **** in storage ASAP. I'm down right crushed. It just isn't going to be the same without having him there. Hell, it doesn't even feel right considering who to replace him with. I'm not going to let it ruin my wedding day or anything, but this is a huge deal for me. I'm so disappointed that I can't even put it into words.

 

[Dew k. Mosi]

Move the wedding up if it means that much

You have a couple months left to notify the guests and make the arrangements

 

[POWdER-man]

You could have pre-wedding day celebration with him then. Just have a large get together with all your friends and such and let him know he will be missed. He could do up a video of his speech and not watch the video until the reception.....

But that sucks....

 

[Fried Gold]

That's a bit of a shame, but I guess the day is for you and your bride, not your friend. If it's that much of an issue, as Dew says, movie the date, but otherwise enjoy what the day is about, ie. tying the knot with your beloved, not gaying it up with your best friend.

 

[Green Goblin 1964]

Get ALLOPED....

 

[Fried Gold]

Get A-Loped....

What?

 

[Badger]

That sucks man. My suggestion would be that you don't replace him, just have another groomsmen. Had a cousin with a similar situation, his bestman couldn't make it for a different reason, he was still the bestman and my cousin just added another groomsmen. Also, his bestman still made the speech at dinner via video recording.

 

[Kelly]

As some of you may know, I'm getting married on October 20th. My best man has been my dearest friend since we were about 6 years old. He's been there for every major event in my life, so it's obviously a big deal that he be there. I just found out today that he's being activated for duty on October 1st. They originally told him they wouldn't be deployed until February, but they've told them that they need to put their **** in storage ASAP. I'm down right crushed. It just isn't going to be the same without having him there. Hell, it doesn't even feel right considering who to replace him with. I'm not going to let it ruin my wedding day or anything, but this is a huge deal for me. I'm so disappointed that I can't even put it into words.

Oh wow......I'm sorry.... that is a crusher........I don't even know what to tell you......I guess moving the date up is an option, but I also think that your friend to video tape something for you to show during the wedding, and have his place empty out of respect for your best bud, and show the video. Have him tape it before he leaves, and you don't watch it until the wedding. But I am sorry, that is a huge let down for you, I can tell.

 

[Green Goblin 1964]

What?

I'm sorry......ALLOPED.

 

[Badger]

I'm sorry......ALLOPED.

...or eloped.

 

[Dew k. Mosi]

you mean elope?

 

[Superman79]

Well, you could always arrange for him to have an "accident" before deployment so they won't send him

In all seriousness...it sucks, so you'll have to at least move the bachelor party up if not the wedding. As for alternate best men...a brother always works, because regardless how close you are, its still family, which make it a little better than a random-not-best-friend...

 

[guitarsingerguy]

It isn't as simple as moving the date. We'd lose ALOT of money. We'd basically lose almost $3000 just to bump the day up.

 

[Superman79]

...or eloped.

Bingo...though it's sad they couldn't figure it out between the 2 of them...

 

[Green Goblin 1964]

...or eloped.

okay, Okay I suck at spelling....

 

[Drakon]

That will teach you. Don't use the smartass smiley. Because every time you do, you'll misspell a word three times and look dumb.

GSG>I'm sorry to hear it, bro. I know what it's like to have a best friend, and then he's not there anymore.

 

[Green Goblin 1964]

That will teach you. Don't use the smartass smiley. Because every time you do, you'll misspell a word three times and look dumb.

GSG>I'm sorry to hear it, bro. I know what it's like to have a best friend, and then he's not there anymore.

No v want


ergh......i did it again

 

[guitarsingerguy]

Well, you could always arrange for him to have an "accident" before deployment so they won't send him

In all seriousness...it sucks, so you'll have to at least move the bachelor party up if not the wedding. As for alternate best men...a brother always works, because regardless how close you are, its still family, which make it a little better than a random-not-best-friend...

My brother passed away when I was a kid, and I'm not very close to my other family. That's the thing that sucks so bad. This guy is the closest thing I have to family next to my mother. It's a huge ****ing bummer.

 

[nosebleed.]

It isn't as simple as moving the date. We'd lose ALOT of money. We'd basically lose almost $3000 just to bump the day up.

Plus the guests who would have to switch up their plans since they would have to request that time off from work...get plane tickets and such. But hey, if you think YOU feel bad...imagine how bad your friend feels. He's going to be working while you're having happy day w/future wifey.

 

[guitarsingerguy]

Plus the guests who would have to switch up their plans since they would have to request that time off from work...get plane tickets and such. But hey, if you think YOU feel bad...imagine how bad your friend feels. He's going to be working while you're having happy day w/future wifey.

Oh, I know the man feels horrible. This is just one situation I didn't think we were going to have to deal with, and it's a worst case scenario.

 

[Dew k. Mosi]

Then have a small private ceremony with him, and a few super close friends, get drunk, salute him for doing his patriotic duty, send him off with love and support, and then have the big ceremony with the rest of the world

 

[unstoppable]

that sucks man

 

[jaguarr]

I'm very sorry to hear that, Brad. But, like someone else said, the wedding is really for you and your soon-to-be wife. I know you really wanted your bro to be there with you, but don't let his circumstances ruin your wedding for you. The suggestion to have him videotape his best man's speech and keep his place open at the table in his honor is a very good one, as are the suggestions to have a get together before he goes.

jag

 

[Anita18]

I think it sucks more for him than for you! I mean, instead of celebrating the wedding of his very best friend, he's going to be fighting in God-knows-where!

But yeah, my sympathies. Totally sucky for everyone involved.

 

[guitarsingerguy]

I'm very sorry to hear that, Brad. But, like someone else said, the wedding is really for you and your soon-to-be wife. I know you really wanted your bro to be there with you, but don't let his circumstances ruin your wedding for you. The suggestion to have him videotape his best man's speech and keep his place open at the table in his honor is a very good one, as are the suggestions to have a get together before he goes.

jag

I certainly won't let our day be ruined, but his not being there is going to effect the way I remember that day. The thought of trying to replace him is hard to even concieve, so I may leave his place open. It's just hard to imagine that day without a person that I consider my dearest family. I really appreciate all your suggestions and comments though. Thanks everyone!