Oh yeah, that makes it all better.
Well, yeah, it kinda does, especially when you stop to consider what it's actually saying. One passage is telling a man that he has total control over the wife, not out of mere societal roles, but because Allah
made man better, oh, and because of money, apparently. It also talks about how to punish the lesser woman; to hit her if he thinks theres disobedience. I welcome Spider-Aziz to talk more about this, if he'd like, but just in case not, below is a better translation with a link to see it in context.
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.
http://quran.com/4/31-37
The passage
you posted had absolutely no talk about man being in charge because a woman is inferior or spends the man's money. Nor did it make any mention of punishment of any kind for a disobedient (and therefor "unrighteous"?) woman. Let's look at the statements immediately preceding and following your example:
Ephesians 5:21
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Ephesians 5:25, 5:28
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her....In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
The verse you mentioned is a small part of a larger passage about the different roles that both genders play in a "healthy" family unit. It has nothing to do with one gender being superior to another, but each person filling different roles so that a family can work as a loving and cohesive unit. "Submit" doesn't mean to subject yourself to all the crazy whims of another person here. It simply means to accept the husband's leadership as the head of a family. Isn't a remark on inequality. Do you think your boss, or the moderators here, are better humans because they're in positions of authority? We as posters have to "submit" to them because if we don't our bosses/moderators can't do their jobs, which is to keep us employed or enjoying a forum, etc. That doesn't make them superior people, nor us inferior.
Furthermore, that passage also tells a husband to love his wife as Christ loved his church. In case you weren't aware, this love involved a hell of a lot of devotion and self sacrifice, which ended with Jesus willingly dying for everyone. In other words, the Bible says that a husband must love his wife so much that her needs must be above all other desires, callings, and responsibilities; even his own life.
You'll notice that passage also doesn't command the husband to control his wife, nor does it state that she is inferior and to beat her when she doesn't fall in line. The passage is all about both genders being selfless in different ways for the betterment of the family unit. The comparison to the Church and Christ in both are incredibly important, since it is telling both the husbands and the wives to use the immense love and devotion Jesus showed to others as a guide; it's nothing to do with abuse, inequality, oppression n or enslavement of a "lesser" gender, but has everything to do with compassion, selflessness, love and devotion of both parties.
I don't understand why so many people take these texts seriously. They're so clearly the products of their time and place as opposed to some unchanging truth.
Well, its not surprising that you don't understand - you obviously pick and chose what to read without actual thought as to what is being said (which isn't an insult at you; we all do similar things to justify our own thoughts). Yes, the Bible certainly is a product of it's time, but very little about the wants, needs, and fallibility that are the nature of being human has changed. The Bible, Torah, and yes, the Quran, have some insightful things to say in that regard. The fact that due to the style of writing and translation, one may have to consider the place/time/larger picture to accurately understand a meaning doesn't change that.
But meh, I've spent far too long on a simple post then I had any intention. We all have the equal right to believe what we want, but I think the world would be a better place if everyone stopped being so disingenuous about it all.