Parent refuses to feed kid, school freaks.

[Majic Walrus]

And they're a public school, so they've got their own rules to follow too.

I'm all for teaching responsibility, but I really see no reason for this woman to throw a public tantrum because the school gave the kid a sandwich.

I'm a responsible adult, but sometimes I forget my lunch too. It happens.

And if you're like me you go without for the day.



See what the mother did there?

 

[danoyse]

I don't see how the mother is an idiot. It's not like she did anything drastic by having her son miss a meal. It's not like she does it all the time, and it's not like the kid will suffer some hardcore pain. It's just a small lesson that would have been learned fairly easy if she got her way.

I find her annoying because she needed to run to the news about this.

I don't think it's a terrible punishment (maybe a little extreme - as adults, if we forget our lunch we just go out and buy a sandwich, we don't go without) and she's obviously a caring parent trying to teach him about responsibility, which is important. And the school should have respected her decision.

But is this really something to go crying to the local news about? Complain to the school and be done with it. This is not an injustice.

 

[danoyse]

And if you're like me you go without for the day.

And if you're me, you just go out for pizza.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

If it was something bigger I could see how it would be considered stupid, but it's something that is small enough to grab his attention. If she would have whooped him for forgetting his lunch, then I could see how she'd be wrong. Letting him see what it's like when he forgets things is a better punishment. The experience of going without something you're accustomed to is something that seems appropriate to me. He made his own bed, so he should lie in it for a while. If she would have brought back his lunch, then he subconsciously could be thinking that she'll always be there to clean up his mess. If the school bails him out, then he might think that they'll always be there when he messes up.

The kid is in fourth grade, of course he should get bailed out at this point! If he was in high school or something sure, don't bail him out, but at fourth grade you're still pretty helpless without your parents or someone to care for you.

 

[SuperFerret]

Not everyone is as fortunate as you. Where I live pizza is more of a punishment than a reward.

 

[danoyse]

Not everyone is as fortunate as you. Where I live pizza is more of a punishment than a reward.

I work in New York, pizza is awesome for lunch.

 

[SuperFerret]

I live in Denver now, and I miss New York pizza every day. You'd better appreciate what you have.

 

[RyanJ]

If the school hadn't given him a lunch this thread would be about the school not feeding a child and the original post would have been about how evil the school is for breaking the law.

 

[Addendum]

I support the Parent. She was trying to teach responsibility and the School has no right to take over Parenting duties.

She can do her duty when the child is at home. The school is under no obligation to not feed someone because mommy said so.

 

[Majic Walrus]

And if you're me, you just go out for pizza.

Yeah that kid should've just done that. Oh. Wait. He can't go out for pizza cause he's a mother****ing fourth grader.

 

[SuperFerret]

And he should know better. I mean, he'll be a man in about five years anyway. Assuming he's Jewish, of course.

 

[Majic Walrus]

She can do her duty when the child is at home. The school is under no obligation to not feed someone because mommy said so.

Disagree. Parental rights are at stake here.

By that logic the school is under no obligation not to teach their students how to be Christians or Muslims or Buddhists or not to spank children etc.

The school is under obligation to respect parent's rights to parent freely.

 

[SuperFerret]

Schools should hand out lunches and beatings freely.

 

[Addendum]

The school is not mommy's paddle. If the mom doesn't want to feed the kid, fine. If the school is required that the children are fed a lunch, they will. Or if there is no ordinance in place, and a friend says "Here's a couple bucks so you can grab some grub", fine.

 

[E-Man]

I find her annoying because she needed to run to the news about this.

I don't think it's a terrible punishment (maybe a little extreme - as adults, if we forget our lunch we just go out and buy a sandwich, we don't go without) and she's obviously a caring parent trying to teach him about responsibility, which is important. And the school should have respected her decision.

But is this really something to go crying to the local news about? Complain to the school and be done with it. This is not an injustice.

This I can see. It's no big deal to me though. In fairness the news reports much dumber things than this though. Just ask George Carlin how he feels about Mickey Mouse's birthday.

The kid is in fourth grade, of course he should get bailed out at this point! If he was in high school or something sure, don't bail him out, but at fourth grade you're still pretty helpless without your parents or someone to care for you.

But here's the thing. It's just missing lunch for one day. It's not like he'll die because he missed lunch. He'll be hungry, then once he gets home he'll eat something. There's no need to bail him out unless he's missed several lunches, or if he's really sick and needs to eat. It would've been a quick lesson that he would remember well after that.

 

[RyanJ]

You're going on about parental rights, but the problem is the parent isn't always right. What if, instead of having the kid skip lunch, the mother wanted the principal to give the child a spanking for 'a lesson learned'? Now, to my knowledge schools don't spank anymore. Should the principal administer the spanking because the mother requested it? She obviously would do it at home. Of course the child wouldn't get spanked at school because it's not in the school's policy just like denying lunch to a 10 year old is not in their policy.

 

[Bboy]

Not only the dumbest form of punishment, it's just straight up evil. You don't starve your kids for not obeying you, or doing what you want them to do. Terrible!

 

[Manic]

Making him wait until after school to eat lunch is hardly starving the boy. Also, it wasn't a punishment for disobeying her. It was a punishment to show him the importance of remembering his lunch in the morning. It was a lesson that mommy won't always be there to bail him out when he does something irresponsible.

The only thing the mother did wrong here was expect the school to carry out her own punishment. Like I said before, send your kids to private school for that mess.

 

[Bboy]

Still think it's unnecessary... Kids make mistakes and forget. We all do. You don't not feed someone because of that. If we don't eat properly, we don't function properly. Fact.

 

[Manic]

When I was younger than that kid, I learned that if I left my lunch at home, I was gonna go hungry until after-school. That, or I was gonna ask for part of a friend's lunch. My mom's job didn't allow her to run down to the school at 11am. I have no sympathy for this kid. If he left his lunch bag at home on his way to the bus, then tough titty.

 

[E-Man]

Tough titty.....*snickers*