Please tell me the 30's are better easier and less stressfull then the 20's?

[Donner]

BS, I'm sorry. For many it isn't.

So what's your point? Some people are destined to be miserable for their whole lives? Okay, great. It's up to them to find happiness. You can be happy and poor, you know. Many people are. Plus, poor is subjective anyways. Spending your life being unhappy sounds horrible.

Being unhappy is choosing to stay a victim. That's no way to live.

 

[Erzengel]

I think it's like everyone else. Some people will always have it easier to achieve things.

I think spiderman2 is in a rough spot because he's not sure what he wants to do with his life or how to be happy.

I remember from another thread you mentioned moving to the mountains because that's what made you happy. I don't think there's that for him that's he's discovered as of yet.

 

[Donner]

I think it's like everyone else. Some people will always have it easier to achieve things.

I think spiderman2 is in a rough spot because he's not sure what he wants to do with his life or how to be happy.

I remember from another thread you mentioned moving to the mountains because that's what made you happy. I don't think there's that for him that's he's discovered as of yet.

He's at that beautiful stage of life of being young, childless and single. I hope he at least tries to find something that makes him happy. Otherwise, in 10 years, we'll get another "are the 40s better than the 30s" thread.

But people do need to step outside of their comfort zones to find out what truly makes them happy or what makes life worth living. There's so much out there to see and do.

I would wish that for anyone on this forum. If I remember correctly, half of American citizens and half of Canadian citizens don't even have a passport. That makes me sad.

 

[Erzengel]

But not everyone is going to find that in a job. A lot of people may just be okay with their job, but as long as they don't despise it, I don't think there's anything wrong in that. It might be in loved ones, or other activities, you can find happiness.

 

[Mandon Knight]

So what's your point? Some people are destined to be miserable for their whole lives? Okay, great. It's up to them to find happiness. You can be happy and poor, you know. Many people are. Plus, poor is subjective anyways. Spending your life being unhappy sounds horrible.

Being unhappy is choosing to stay a victim. That's no way to live.

No absolutely, it's a real treat being homeless. It really is.

 

[Donner]

No absolutely, it's a real treat being homeless. It really is.

I never said anything about being homeless. I'm done discussing this with you.

 

[Donner]

But not everyone is going to find that in a job. A lot of people may just be okay with their job, but as long as they don't despise it, I don't think there's anything wrong in that. It might be in loved ones, or other activities, you can find happiness.

Sure. But given how much time people spend at their jobs, if you're not happy with it or even where it's located, it can really affect your mental and physical well-being. There are three things that people need in their jobs in order to feel fulfilled: autonomy, mastery and purpose. Money isn't included in there for a reason. And that's not to say everyone needs to be a doctor or a lawyer (which have their own issues as well) because you can find purpose in working at a pet store or being a cashier. It's all about perspective.

 

[Mandon Knight]

I never said anything about being homeless. I'm done discussing this with you.

Funny you should say that...

 

[Erzengel]

Sure. But given how much time people spend at their jobs, if you're not happy with it or even where it's located, it can really affect your mental and physical well-being. There are three things that people need in their jobs in order to feel fulfilled: autonomy, mastery and purpose. Money isn't included in there for a reason. And that's not to say everyone needs to be a doctor or a lawyer (which have their own issues as well) because you can find purpose in working at a pet store or being a cashier. It's all about perspective.

I don't necessarily disagree, however, in terms of the op, the job he's in now isn't his dream job, so I don't think he has any qualms of leaving it. I just don't think he really knows what he wants to do or at least find something that he's good at.

He'd have to fill in the blanks if he thinks he might have better luck some other place however, I'm not exactly sure what he can line up with his experience some place new.

 

[NHawk19]

Its about finding a path that works. For some it'll be college, for other's it'll be trades school, people will follow the path to being a parent, etc.

By your 30's you should be moving on a path. If you're not. It's not the end of the world. You just need to really start to find one. If you're a cashier maybe start to ask about moving towards store management. If you want a degree get moving on getting one.

Here's the thing though, if you don't like math with letters just wait, they switch to wingdings in the upper levels. Talk to someone about what you like. Maybe take on a trade and become a carpenter. The pay is decent, you get to work with your hands and see something accomplished everyday. If you can tolerate it then that's great it's a big step above hate. Then you can look for meaning in other places like Family, Friends, Charity etc. Just get to the point where your job can enable the lifestyle you want.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Regardless of what any of us do 'for a living', always consider that the job we do does not define us, as people, as what it means to be fulfilled nor as a representative tool to who we are.

 

[samsnee]

If you plan on getting married and having kids and buying a house, then no, it’s not “easier”. It has its rewards but you will have responsibilities beyond yourself.

 

[samsnee]

I don’t love my job. It’s a means to an end, an end that I enjoy. Everyone’s idea of happiness is different. Money makes life easier but definitely isn’t a guarantee of happiness.

Mo’ money mo’ problems.