Pregnency Question

[Angry Sentinel]

adobtion will never fly with her.....

Maybe not, but she should still know how you feel. and I mean all of how you feel. Just the fact that you've been honest with her will help you in the long run.

More importantly, do you have a religious faith?

 

[triplefive]

Five or six. Nice for control and good for skirting periods around key training sessions and competiton matches but all gave me morning sickness and with three of them my body was overring the pill and back on my regular cycle after four months. I always ended up overriding the pill and I'd be on in the high hormone week and not get anything during the off week, all that ****.

i just remember that the first one made me bat**** crazy. the other two weren't strong enough.

 

[Kyalesyin]

i just remember that the first one made me bat**** crazy. the other two weren't strong enough.

I kept going up stronger and stronger, but the stronger they got the worse the morning sickness got. The shot was the same. I just overrode it after seven weeks.

After that I gave up on pills and jabs and went for damage control.

 

[Crazy Venom]

Maybe not, but she should still know how you feel. and I mean all of how you feel. Just the fact that you've been honest with her will help you in the long run.

More importantly, do you have a religious faith?

not lately..... long story short, I was drugged, and raped by my male cousin 5 years ago.... ever since then, my whole extended family blamed me, my cousin then "found god" and everyone threw that in my face, saying I should forgive him because he's all religious now... after that, my faith went down the toliet.... all goes back to me not knowing who I am anymore.... really sucks when you have no one but your parents..... but atleast I have them...

 

[Kyalesyin]

not lately..... long story short, I was drugged, and raped by my male cousin 5 years ago.... ever since then, my whole extended family blamed me, my cousin then "found god" and everyone threw that in my face, saying I should forgive him because he's all religious now... after that, my faith went down the toliet.... all goes back to me not knowing who I am anymore.... really sucks when you have no one but your parents..... but atleast I have them...

Wow. Thats harsh. My family did at least excommunicate my cousin for doing the same. You can still keep your faith though- faith is what you make it hon.

 

[Crazy Venom]

Wow. Thats harsh. My family did at least excommunicate my cousin for doing the same. You can still keep your faith though- faith is what you make it hon.

I know, and I really wish I had some....

that's another thing though, is I have a real bad side to me... violent angry side.... it's scarry sometimes... not to showboat, but I'm a pretty decent size guy, 6'3" 225lb... avid kickboxer and wieghtlifter.... my violent side came after that above incident... I'm still trying to "terminate" that side of myself... but it's not gone yet... I would never want my child to see that side of me unless it was completely for the right reasons...

 

[Kritish]

I think she's trying to get knocked up so you'll feel compelled to marry her.
Don't fall for it, if she gets prego leave her, 'cause she probably did it on purpose.

 

[Kritish]

not lately..... long story short, I was drugged, and raped by my male cousin 5 years ago.... ever since then, my whole extended family blamed me, my cousin then "found god" and everyone threw that in my face, saying I should forgive him because he's all religious now... after that, my faith went down the toliet.... all goes back to me not knowing who I am anymore.... really sucks when you have no one but your parents..... but atleast I have them...

Yep, as long as they make a quick prayer that asks god to forgive whatever they did before that is okay.

 

[Kyalesyin]

I know, and I really wish I had some....

that's another thing though, is I have a real bad side to me... violent angry side.... it's scarry sometimes... not to showboat, but I'm a pretty decent size guy, 6'3" 225lb... avid kickboxer and wieghtlifter.... my violent side came after that above incident... I'm still trying to "terminate" that side of myself... but it's not gone yet... I would never want my child to see that side of me unless it was completely for the right reasons...

Having faith is easy. Start it with something small- 'I have faith that I can suceed today at---' set one simple goal. Then take one step up, and then another.

I know how you feel about that 'bad side'. When I get a bad day, I get a bad day. It took a fair few nurses to hold me down in hospital when another patient said he was gonna creep into my room in the night. I honestly believe I might have beaten the guy to death. I'm not big, but size isn't any odds on knowing how to use fists and feet. Fact is, everyone is hardwired to protect their children, so we're always more sensitive and more likely to blow up when we have them. However, we'll also have a whole other reason to keep it under control.

If you look at it from the caluclated risk angle, we are never ready for children. The situation could always be better. We are never emotionally able to cope. Why? Because we've never done it before. We can't practice. We can't dip our toes and adjust. Sometimes, you just gotta take that bull by the horns.

 

[Crazy Venom]

I think she's trying to get knocked up so you'll feel compelled to marry her.
Don't fall for it, if she gets prego leave her, 'cause she probably did it on purpose.

we've been engaged for a few months now

 

[Crazy Venom]

Having faith is easy. Start it with something small- 'I have faith that I can suceed today at---' set one simple goal. Then take one step up, and then another.

I know how you feel about that 'bad side'. When I get a bad day, I get a bad day. It took a fair few nurses to hold me down in hospital when another patient said he was gonna creep into my room in the night. I honestly believe I might have beaten the guy to death. I'm not big, but size isn't any odds on knowing how to use fists and feet. Fact is, everyone is hardwired to protect their children, so we're always more sensitive and more likely to blow up when we have them. However, we'll also have a whole other reason to keep it under control.

If you look at it from the caluclated risk angle, we are never ready for children. The situation could always be better. We are never emotionally able to cope. Why? Because we've never done it before. We can't practice. We can't dip our toes and adjust. Sometimes, you just gotta take that bull by the horns.

that is honestly the best response I have gotten so far... thanks.....

 

[Kritish]

we've been engaged for a few months now

Then she's simply got "baby fever" if she's prego and you don't a baby you could either help her get an abortion or put it up for adoption.

*waits for baby loving pro lifers to attack*

 

[Kyalesyin]

that is honestly the best response I have gotten so far... thanks.....

I have my moments. I have been where you are, from the other side, and I admire your balls for not running a mile. That if nothing else wins you my respect. I also admire your openess about what happened to you. That also takes a lot. As for not having faith? Most people won't admit when their faith is shaky, let alone admit its gone. They tend to hide behind the pretense of faith and hope it never catches up to them.

Take this one day at a time. Nothing is set in stone yet, and if there is one thing that every person on this earth is capable of, its growth.

 

[Kritish]

You could always tell her that it takes a total of 100,000 to raise a child to adulthood.
I think the money will scare her away from the pitter patter of little feet.

 

[Crazy Venom]

Then she's simply got "baby fever" if she's prego and you don't a baby you could either help her get an abortion or put it up for adoption.

*waits for baby loving pro lifers to attack*

it's one of two camps right now.... abortion or keeping it

the reasons I have for keeping it too are all wrong...... showing off basically.... I love babies... always wanted to have some... just right now is the worst time.... I find nothing sexier then thinking of my girl pregnent... but again, wrong reasons... I also love just holding babies and all that stuff.... I have a 5 year old brother.. so I was 17 when he was born, and I never left his side, my parents would get mad because I would hog him... but again, those are the wrong reasons....

 

[Kyalesyin]

it's one of two camps right now.... abortion or keeping it

the reasons I have for keeping it too are all wrong...... showing off basically.... I love babies... always wanted to have some... just right now is the worst time.... I find nothing sexier then thinking of my girl pregnent... but again, wrong reasons... I also love just holding babies and all that stuff.... I have a 5 year old brother.. so I was 17 when he was born, and I never left his side, my parents would get mad because I would hog him... but again, those are the wrong reasons....

Those aren't the wrong reasons, I don't think. I mean, what would you term as the right reasons? At least you want to have a kid because you think you could care for them emotionally and bond with them, rather than wanting one as a fashion accessory or to get a free ride from the government.

 

[Crazy Venom]

I have my moments. I have been where you are, from the other side, and I admire your balls for not running a mile. That if nothing else wins you my respect. I also admire your openess about what happened to you. That also takes a lot. As for not having faith? Most people won't admit when their faith is shaky, let alone admit its gone. They tend to hide behind the pretense of faith and hope it never catches up to them.

Take this one day at a time. Nothing is set in stone yet, and if there is one thing that every person on this earth is capable of, its growth.

and that's the one thing I need, is growth...

I mean, today, I went to my boss and was like, okay, I need to know where I stand here, I've worked her a total of 3 years, 2 of them being an intern, and one full time assistant designer.... "where do you see me going, because I feel that I have shown you I can handle being a full designer"... he agreed, I never used the sympophy way of saying my GF is pregnent.... and he said that after the first of the year, I will have my own sales team,.. and they will bump up my salary by 8 grand a year, which isn't bad for only 23, Ill be making 40 grand a year starting next..... so it's a start, but I have a long way to go. it will go up once I earn my MBA

 

[Kritish]

it's one of two camps right now.... abortion or keeping it

the reasons I have for keeping it too are all wrong...... showing off basically.... I love babies... always wanted to have some... just right now is the worst time.... I find nothing sexier then thinking of my girl pregnent... but again, wrong reasons... I also love just holding babies and all that stuff.... I have a 5 year old brother.. so I was 17 when he was born, and I never left his side, my parents would get mad because I would hog him... but again, those are the wrong reasons....

You find strech marks sexy?

The odds are you simply can't afford it, you need to look at this problem logically instead of "I love babies".

 

[Kyalesyin]

and that's the one thing I need, is growth...

I mean, today, I went to my boss and was like, okay, I need to know where I stand here, I've worked her a total of 3 years, 2 of them being an intern, and one full time assistant designer.... "where do you see me going, because I feel that I have shown you I can handle being a full designer"... he agreed, I never used the sympophy way of saying my GF is pregnent.... and he said that after the first of the year, I will have my own sales team,.. and they will bump up my salary by 8 grand a year, which isn't bad for only 23, Ill be making 40 grand a year starting next..... so it's a start, but I have a long way to go. it will go up once I earn my MBA

Thats a good start. At least you're looking at the future. It doesn't take much planning to be able to provide for a kid. You've got at least 7 months to get things in order if you decide to keep it. The important thing now though, is not planning. Don't plan until you know what you're doing.

Nothing hurts more than having a cradle blanket, a bundle of lifetime plans and a name, and then you loose it.

 

[Crazy Venom]

Those aren't the wrong reasons, I don't think. I mean, what would you term as the right reasons? At least you want to have a kid because you think you could care for them emotionally and bond with them, rather than wanting one as a fashion accessory or to get a free ride from the government.

I think the right reasons would be you wanting to see an image of yourself enter this world, and wanting the responsibilty of raising him in this world....

I'm a pretty tough guy, but seeing a baby is one of the things that gets to me, makes me want be nuturing and caring....

and that's another thing, I want to spoil the hell out of my kid at first.... give him everything.... right now I don't think I can

 

[Kritish]

As long as he's sure that he can do it without any problems go for it.

 

[Crazy Venom]

You find strech marks sexy?

The odds are you simply can't afford it, you need to look at this problem logically instead of "I love babies".

lol.... I don't know why I find a pregnent woman attractive, i just do... primal instincts I guess.....

 

[The Amazing Lee]

Crazy Venom.

You know what the best contraceptive is?







































NEUTER TIME!

 

[Kritish]

I think the right reasons would be you wanting to see an image of yourself enter this world, and wanting the responsibilty of raising him in this world....

I'm a pretty tough guy, but seeing a baby is one of the things that gets to me, makes me want be nuturing and caring....

and that's another thing, I want to spoil the hell out of my kid at first.... give him everything.... right now I don't think I can

Actually it's been proven that in males the testosterone levels go down while holding a baby. It also happens in wolf packs, that's why it's unheard of for wolves killing pups.

 

[Crazy Venom]

Thats a good start. At least you're looking at the future. It doesn't take much planning to be able to provide for a kid. You've got at least 7 months to get things in order if you decide to keep it. The important thing now though, is not planning. Don't plan until you know what you're doing.

Nothing hurts more than having a cradle blanket, a bundle of lifetime plans and a name, and then you loose it.

the thing that sucks, it we were going to get married next year.... getting married on a beach... I have a good portion saved up, but I don't know if it's responsible to continue with those plans....