The Crying Issue

[Colossal Spoons]

I've never cried at a movie.

: Daisy picks up my manhood:

:throws it on the floor:

:sprinkles glitter on it:

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

: Daisy picks up my manhood:

:throws it on the floor:

:sprinkles glitter on it:

uh.....

 

[Mee]

I've never cried at a movie.

That, even as a kid, I've never done.

"Oh noes Bambi's ma' is dead!!"

So?

 

[Colossal Spoons]

uh.....

sicko

 

[sinewave]

what's considered "public"?

 

[terry78]

I only cry if someone dies or is dying or hurt badly. That's it. No other reasons are valid.

 

[terry78]

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[Wilhelm-Scream]

You didn't cry at the end of Schindler's List, or Saving Private Ryan or that "My Mom is dying of cancer but before she dies, she's selflessly training my Dad's new wife how to take care of our family" Movie???

Monsters

 

[Colossal Spoons]

You didn't cry at the end of Schindler's List, or Saving Private Ryan or that "My Mom is dying of cancer but before she dies, she's selflessly training my Dad's new wife how to take care of our family" Movie???

Monsters

Oh, so it's ok to cry at the end of SL but not Rootz(with a "z" cuz that's how us black people spell stuff).

Racist, yo

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Edit*

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Edit*

 

[JLBats]

That was not worth a triple post

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

That was not worth a triple post

racist

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I can't freaking edit!

 

[Alpha and Omega]

Now that I think about it, I can only remember crying several times in my life. (publicly and in privacy, all during pre-adolescence/early teens)

1): The first time I was confronted w/ the concept of death in such a personal way - my great uncle died when I was 9, and he was the first close friend of mine to pass away
2): When my last pet died
3): When I broke my collar bone in an ATV accident and sat in a busy emergency room for 1/2hr.

I don't really feel that it's taboo to cry (at least privately), but I could see how we all (people in general - male or female) might be reluctant to show that sort of emotion in public or amongst strangers. It seems like it's associated with overall 'weakness' in character, though that's probably not the case.

To a certain extent, perhaps we subconsciously follow the example of parents/guardians at an early age, and use that as a basis for what we feel is/isn't acceptable; I've never seen my father cry. Has he? I don't know; maybe he went off in privacy and wept about something.

I've no clue about that. Having said that above, maybe that example is why I haven't done it in adulthood, even in situations of what could be deemed as 'acute emotional stress'. Personally, I see it as little more than a release that doesn't nullify or solve the cause of the problem; if anything, I think that grieving (in an overwhelming way) or dwelling on something too much probably makes it worse.

you just get to a point where being emotionally affected to such a degree doesn't happen, in public or private.

Agreed.​

Good thread topic btw. ​

 

[JLBats]

racist

Who wants to go watch Birth of a Nation with me?! Any takers?!

 

[terry78]

The only times we as men are supposed to cry, according to society is due to death of someone close or when we lose at sports(usually a pivotal game). Anything else is deemed uncalled for and too feminine. Women will say they want a man that cries, but even they will say they don't want someone that cries more than she does.

 

[AndThePickles]

I don't see anything wrong with men crying.....there used to be a time when a man wasn't considered masculine if he didn't cry. It's amazing how much things have changed since then.

 

[terry78]

I don't see anything wrong with men crying.....there used to be a time when a man wasn't considered masculine if he didn't cry. It's amazing how much things have changed since then.

So if Spoons comes home with tears in his eyes and blowing his nose, you're there for him? And come later find out it was due to the grocery store being out of his favorite food, are you still there?

 

[Colossal Spoons]

So if Spoons comes home with tears in his eyes and blowing his nose, you're there for him? And come later find out it was due to the grocery store being out of his favorite food, are you still there?

....

I had a good reason though!

Wait, not really.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Ugh, the Hype is acting up*

 

[Hades]

Ugh, the Hype is acting up*

Got an issue? here's a tissue

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

What I don't dig is when it won't work all day, and then 15 minutes before I'm off, it starts working.
Thanks Hype.

 

[Addendum]

Not counting the times I was laughing so hard I was crying, the only times I cried was when...

1) I was 6 and my grandpa died.
2) When almost everyone in The Dirty Dozen died

 

[Daisy]

It's because everyone else leaves when you do.