The OFFICIAL: "Confess My Secrets", thread.

[Mara Jade]

Games are somewhat of a necessary evil in some circumstances. It's weird that you both are single yet you are waiting? Is there an appropriate time frame you think he is waiting for? Maybe he's not over his last girlfriend? I remember my first relationship and after we broke up, I found solice with another soon to be girlfriend. However, the first girlfriend was still on my mind.

Or maybe he's just plain weird.

he got freaked out cuz we made out all night long it was really sweet and it felt awesome cuz he's an amazing guy but he said he wanted to wait a month before anything and i said i was down with that but now in the meantime he's barely talking to me and I'm not a lightswitch...he also said he's not sure anymore if he wants to see if his X will come back and he wont talk to me about it

 

[Silver Sable]

That's hawt.

you mean hot?

Yes it was 2nd grade Mara Jade.Seriously

 

[DOG LIPS]

you mean hot?

Yes it was 2nd grade Mara Jade.Seriously

No... hawt....

How you doin'?

 

[Silver Sable]

No... hawt....

How you doin'?

What do you mean by hawt?

i'm fine and you?

 

[Erzengel]

he got freaked out cuz we made out all night long it was really sweet and it felt awesome cuz he's an amazing guy but he said he wanted to wait a month before anything and i said i was down with that but now in the meantime he's barely talking to me and I'm not a lightswitch...he also said he's not sure anymore if he wants to see if his X will come back and he wont talk to me about it

I'd give him the space he needs for the moment but after a while I'd sit his ass down and say listen, I like you blah blah blah but I won't wait around for you.

 

[DOG LIPS]

What do you mean by hawt?

i'm fine and you?

Hawt means monkey cheeks. I've been better.

 

[Mara Jade]

I'd give him the space he needs for the moment but after a while I'd sit his ass down and say listen, I like you blah blah blah but I won't wait around for you.

I'm so afraid of losing the great friend he is to me in this process cuz I already feel we are slipping away from each other....yeah definetly in another week or so I'm definetly gonna have words...

 

[Silver Sable]

Hawt means monkey cheeks. I've been better.

Tell me you didn't say that!

 

[Erzengel]

I'm so afraid of losing the great friend he is to me in this process cuz I already feel we are slipping away from each other....yeah definetly in another week or so I'm definetly gonna have words...

I don't believe in settling. If you wanted a jaguar or a bmw would you settle for driving a dodge?

What I'm getting at is I have a feeling you want to be more than just friends with this cat. Fine. I'm sure you know what you will be risking because if you guys would break up most likely the friendship is over. However, you have to ask yourself if you really want to be more than friends with this individual and you can't, would you really just want to "settle" for being friends? I'm not a big fan of that. If I can't get what I want, then I don't want some booby prize. "Pun Not Intended."

 

[DOG LIPS]

Tell me you didn't say that!

No... it's true..... I've been better.

 

[Erzengel]

PS. Sorry if I'm sounding too intrusive. I have a tendancy to throw advice around even when it's not warranted or asked for.

 

[sassycat]

Whenever someone annoys me, I spend quite a while imagining killing them in an over the top, completely unrealistic fashion.

Wow you too? YEAAAAAA!!!!!!!!

 

[Mara Jade]

PS. Sorry if I'm sounding too intrusive. I have a tendancy to throw advice around even when it's not warranted or asked for.

no its cool I appreciate it...I think my journal is getting sick of hearing about it....

I think there have been feelings there for him a for a long time I just didn't let myself see it because I had a boyfriend at the time. I honestly dunno if it would make me as happy to be just friends with him now that I've darted across to the other side even if it was just one night. He told me over and over he has feelings for me....I guess I'm confused why he is acting the way he is...

 

[Erzengel]

no its cool I appreciate it...I think my journal is getting sick of hearing about it....

I think there have been feelings there for him a for a long time I just didn't let myself see it because I had a boyfriend at the time. I honestly dunno if it would make me as happy to be just friends with him now that I've darted across to the other side even if it was just one night. He told me over and over he has feelings for me....I guess I'm confused why he is acting the way he is...

We aren't as difficult as we pretend to be. But I get the feeling there is something going on with him, that he is either a) not ready to talk to you about or b) not comfortable to talk to you about. Either way if you don't feel like being jerked around, I suggest eventually taking the initiative and talking to him. Just give him his space for the moment.

 

[Mara Jade]

We aren't as difficult as we pretend to be. But I get the feeling there is something going on with him, that he is either a) not ready to talk to you about or b) not comfortable to talk to you about. Either way if you don't feel like being jerked around, I suggest eventually taking the initiative and talking to him. Just give him his space for the moment.

I agree with you....

trying to figure guys out is impossible it feels like sometimes lol

 

[Mara Jade]

one more quickie question , so would you agree its best if I stop hanging around that group of friends where he will be and let him come to me?

 

[Erzengel]

one more quickie question , so would you agree its best if I stop hanging around that group of friends where he will be and let him come to me?

I thought you didn't want to play games? No I understand. See the only problem I see is if these group of friends are your friends too why would you have to give them up just because it made him uncomfortable? Also wouldn't you not hanging out be an obvious sign you are avoiding him?

 

[Mara Jade]

I thought you didn't want to play games? No I understand. See the only problem I see is if these group of friends are your friends too why would you have to give them up just because it made him uncomfortable? Also wouldn't you not hanging out be an obvious sign you are avoiding him?

arghh *head explodes* j/k

yeah that wouldn't be fair either...

 

[Erzengel]

Well does everyone have to hang out all at the same time?

 

[Mara Jade]

Well does everyone have to hang out all at the same time?

no but a group of us work out together. I go to his apartment tues/thurs to do pilates with one of his roomies. (there are 2 guys and one girl that live there) monday, wed, fri we all weight lift and run together. Many of the times for past few months I just sleep on the couch because the next morning i do pilates with her....after this I didnt spend the night for a week, but then he's been inviting me off and on and things are just so weird and so I dunno if I should continue to work out with them

 

[Silver Sable]

No... it's true..... I've been better.

 

[Erzengel]

no but a group of us work out together. I go to his apartment tues/thurs to do pilates with one of his roomies. (there are 2 guys and one girl that live there) monday, wed, fri we all weight lift and run together. Many of the times for past few months I just sleep on the couch because the next morning i do pilates with her....after this I didnt spend the night for a week, but then he's been inviting me off and on and things are just so weird and so I dunno if I should continue to work out with them

Well maybe you should keep working out with them but don't "faun" over him doing it, don't go out of your way to talk to him. Don't be cold to him but don't make your feelings obvious and don't make any excuse to be alone with him either. Just act like nothign happened. Til you have to talk to him.

 

[thebat7]

indeed

 

[Erzengel]

One of my secrets is that I LOVE to fantasize about my wife having really wild sex with her ex-boyfriend.

 

[Strange]

One of my secrets is that I LOVE to fantasize about my wife having really wild sex with her ex-boyfriend.

I fantasize about banging my ex while her husband watches.