So I've noticed my generation (I consider my generation to be around the age 16 to 30, but that's just a rough calculation) is in an odd position so far as parents go. There seems to be a growing number of young adults in the USA, maybe the world, who's parents absolutely refuse to ease control over them.
Now I'm not talking about the funny "Everybody Loves Raymond" kind of controlling parents, the kind who annoyingly stick their nose in their adult offspring's business and talk to them like infants, but are otherwise harmless. I'm talking about parents who seem to violently oppose their children gaining any independence, and/or cling to them for emotional and monetary support while emotionally (sometimes physically) beating their adult children down at the same time. Thus the relationship between parent and son/daughter becomes symbiotic and unhealthy.
If I'm not making sense, I apologize. This isn't an easy subject to talk about. I live with this, and so do a majority of my friends. The problem is what to do about it, especially when said parents rely on you for support, and in an economy unfriendly to young adults looking housing outside their folk's basement. As well as the emotional and self esteem issues it causes...
This may seem like it ought to be an easy issue, but anyone who has to deal with it in their daily life knows it really isn't.
Anyone else in the same or similar boat? Anyone have any advice? A story to tell (perhaps how you fixed or escaped your situation)? A hug for the hopeless?
Let's talk about it.
Now I'm not talking about the funny "Everybody Loves Raymond" kind of controlling parents, the kind who annoyingly stick their nose in their adult offspring's business and talk to them like infants, but are otherwise harmless. I'm talking about parents who seem to violently oppose their children gaining any independence, and/or cling to them for emotional and monetary support while emotionally (sometimes physically) beating their adult children down at the same time. Thus the relationship between parent and son/daughter becomes symbiotic and unhealthy.
If I'm not making sense, I apologize. This isn't an easy subject to talk about. I live with this, and so do a majority of my friends. The problem is what to do about it, especially when said parents rely on you for support, and in an economy unfriendly to young adults looking housing outside their folk's basement. As well as the emotional and self esteem issues it causes...

This may seem like it ought to be an easy issue, but anyone who has to deal with it in their daily life knows it really isn't.
Anyone else in the same or similar boat? Anyone have any advice? A story to tell (perhaps how you fixed or escaped your situation)? A hug for the hopeless?
Let's talk about it.