What Others Think of You

[Erzengel]

Sure. You no what i meaned.

I need an English to regular English dictionary here.

 

[Eggyman]

I need an English to regular English dictionary here.

'Meaned' isn't English either.

Sometimes I make mistakes and know that I'm making them?

 

[The-Dark-Knight]

So what do you think of me?

I love you with all my heart, let us elope to Germany and make babies in the mountains we shall name them all Gunther and Elmo.

Say you'll be mine, sweet sweet precious.

 

[knowsbleed]

'Meaned' isn't English either.

Sometimes I make mistakes and knowsbleed that I'm making them?

Really? I'm flattered... you're so eloquent. *le blush in a not le gay way*

 

[Eggyman]

le lol.

 

[Ronny Shade]

Leeloo?


multipass!

 

[DBella]

I aspire to be 'hype cool'... that way I can put it on my resume. Maybe I'll become big and important like Erzengel someday. *dreams*

To be "Hype cool" is the first step towards a successful life.

It's not in poor taste. I think it's important to know where you stand with people. In a workplace you need regular (quarterly and bi-annual) appraisals to know whether you are going in the right direction and what you may need to progress further.

Getting evaluated at work for your work performance is one thing, it helps you improve on your areas of weakness so you can be more productive. But evaluation based on office gossips ... that's another matter.

In real life however, it's not that structured, and you may come across as needy. Realistically though, you can tell if you are enthuiative what others think about you by the contact you have with them. You can tell whether your opinion is valued, or you are weak, or knowledgeable in a certain area, or whether you are rude or commanding or the vacuum you leave when you aren't around.

However if you can't then feel free to ask but use these opportunities sparingly, or gather them from as wide an audience as possible.

It's one thing if people give you constructive criticism but some, they relish in just criticizing because they've got nothing better to do.

on the flipside, people are less and less honest about their peers and just say what they think will get them out of the situation as soon as possible. There's too much of a comfort society where people aren't open and honest about their views. I think i'm lucky to have been brought up in a culture where your own mama can call your devil spawn if you piss her off and can admit she loved you less in your ugly teens. Again if people were more willing to tell people the frank honest truth every once in a while, you'd get less needy people.

I agree. One thing I can truly appreciate in people is honesty. Tell me straight to my face what you think of me and give me reasons why you see me in a certain light. I know I am not perfect and sure could use some feedback and constructive criticism. Tell me where my areas of weakness are and I'll try to make some changes, if I can. Changes that will not only benefit myself but those around me. One thing I can't stand is when people talk nice to your face but when your back is turned, they spit venom towards you.

Neediness comes in the necessity for one to reflect a view of a needy person back to them, which comes in a complacent 'don't give a crap society'. If everyone could be blunt honest (with constructive aspects included), then needy people wouldn't go around asking 400 people the same question until they get the answer they want.

No one should be afraid of being honest as long as you can see it is purely their opinion and their opinion alone.

I think people develop a 'don't give a crap' attitude when others expect them to be someone they're not and put them down for no good reason. It's a defense mechanism from being hurt.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I sometimes wonder what people are saying about me at random times. I'm not gonna change anything, just curious.

 

[AndThePickles]

You ever wonder what other people think of you every now and then?

Now I know that a person really shouldn't get a damn about what another person thinks of them, but at the same time you can't help but wonder sometimes whether or not a person thinks highly of you or if they hate your guts.

I do wonder sometimes. I've often been a gossip/backstab victim in the past. I feel that all my friends now love me, but there are times when I'll see a group of friends gossiping about someone else who is supposedly in our friends group, so it makes me wonder if they talk about me, as well.

 

[DBella]

I sometimes wonder what people are saying about me at random times. I'm not gonna change anything, just curious.

I've had those passing thoughts but then I'd tell myself, "If they want me to know, they'll let me know".

I do wonder sometimes. I've often been a gossip/backstab victim in the past. I feel that all my friends now love me, but there are times when I'll see a group of friends gossiping about someone else who is supposedly in our friends group, so it makes me wonder if they talk about me, as well.

I am sure we've all been a gossip/backstab 'victim' at some point or another. It could still be very well going on right now behind our backs but we shouldn't worry ourselves about that. I'm sure it's normal to wonder but it gets bad when we get preoccupied with the wondering because that can lead to the feeling of insecurity about ourselves.

When people talk about you, that means you're important enough to be their topic of conversation.

 

[Arcturus]

I think most people have a strong dislike of me. I just don't know, anymore.

 

[DBella]

I think most people have a strong dislike of me. I just don't know, anymore.

Why do you feel that way? Does that bother you? If it's something you did that cause that, are you willing to change, if you can?

 

[Arcturus]

I think my problem is that I tend to focus to much on negative things. Like if I try my best at something and for whatever reason I mess up, I feel I've failed and it hangs in my mind. Maybe I just need to lighten up.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

I'm not really bothered about what people think of me, but if someone has a problem with me I prefer it if they say it to my face so I can either change for the better or give them a slap I despise two faced people who act like your friend but when you are not with them slag you off.

 

[AndThePickles]

When people talk about you, that means you're important enough to be their topic of conversation.

Haha, I always thought of it that way, as well.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

DBella is the ultimate agony aunt. You should start a thread!

 

[BlackLantern]

I think we all care what people think at some level or another....or some don't care if people don't like them, but if people do like them, then they care a whole lot....

 

[Lobo]

I think my problem is that I tend to focus to much on negative things. Like if I try my best at something and for whatever reason I mess up, I feel I've failed and it hangs in my mind. Maybe I just need to lighten up.

I've been there. I used to think like that often, still do sometimes; but, I just try my best to persevere.

 

[DBella]

I think my problem is that I tend to focus to much on negative things. Like if I try my best at something and for whatever reason I mess up, I feel I've failed and it hangs in my mind. Maybe I just need to lighten up.

Knowing the problem is the first step to finding a solution.

DBella is the ultimate agony aunt. You should start a thread!

"ultimate agony aunt"? A-ha! Now I know what you think of me! You think I'm a pain in the arse, don't you?!!

Spoiler

 

[Ace of Knaves]

LOL. No of course not!! I'm serious, you give good advice to people!

 

[Ronny Shade]

wtf is an agony aunt?

 

[AndThePickles]

wtf is an agony aunt?

I don't know, but I hope it's better than a debbie downer.

 

[Ronny Shade]

my mom is the ultimate Debbie Downer

 

[AndThePickles]

Mine is a Bitter Betty.

 

[Kmack]

I did, like a couple years ago when I was in high school, but now I try not to...you just start acting weird and not your usual self (which is lame). I find it easier being myself and not obsessing over what others think.