When hot girls date unnattractive guys - a retrospective

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  1. terry78 My name is Stefan, sweet thang

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    When She's Hot But He's Not

    Our dating analyst ponders the inexplicable attraction of opposites
    By Julia Allison Dating Columnist, Time Out New York Updated: Nov 25, 2007


    Every time I watched "King of Queens," I was confused. The husband, an overweight UPS delivery guy, is married to a certifiably hot brunette with a tight body, whom he regularly asks to strip (is this normal married couple behavior? I would ask my parents, but that's disgusting).
    At first, I dismissed it, like the beer commercials featuring balding, pot-bellied men cavorting with Tara Reid look-alikes. They're just Disproportionately Attractive TV Couples -- they could never exist in the real world.
    Or could they?
    “I look around New York, and everywhere I see gorgeous women with only moderately attractive -- or even downright unattractive -- men”
    I look around New York, and everywhere I see gorgeous women with only moderately attractive -- or even downright unattractive -- men. Even celebrity culture has these couples: Kate Hudson and (now ex) Chris Robinson, Billy Joel and any of his wives, the Barkers on MTV (although he seems sweet), Marilyn Manson and Dita Von Tesse.
    The only couple in which the guy is arguably more attractive than the woman was Jennifer and Brad or maybe Tom and Katie (that's debatable) and ... well, I think we can see that's not a pattern to emulate.
    Couples Who Don't Make Sense
    No, if anything, the real world is filled with Couples Who Don't Make Sense. Of course, polite people don't actually say anything about it, because that's rude. Physical appearance can be a sensitive subject on a good day ... But we're thinking it. And no, it's not shallow -- it's biology!
    “We know that the majority of people don't date their significant other (just) because of what they look like.”
    We know that the majority of people don't date their significant other (just) because of what they look like. Realistically, however, that's the first thing we notice about a couple ... and those who stand out we wonder at. Henry Kissinger and his wife. Shannon Elizabeth and her (now ex) husband (check out photos if you don't believe me). Bill O'Reilly and anyone.
    But maybe it's a progressive sign when couples don't "match"? They could be looking beyond superficial appearances! Well, they might be, except in 99.9 percent of these couples the woman looks better. How progressive can that possibly be? For every Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick, there are a hundred Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martins!

    Do women even care about having man arm-candy? Most would say it's a plus, for sure. But there's a lot of competition, and not enough metrosexuals to go around. We prefer to look for a great personality, charm, a certain worldliness and let's not forget (we're in New York, after all), a prosperous career.
    So maybe we women are just shallow in a different way ...
    “Still, it seems like men -- attractive or not -- have it easy in the dating department.”
    Still, it seems like men -- attractive or not -- have it easy in the dating department. Or maybe not, says an ex-boyfriend of mine. "The downside of [disproportionately attractive girlfriends] is that you're constantly trying to convince her to stay with you while battling with your inadequacy in the looks department -- over which you have no control. No matter how great the relationship is, in the back of your mind you're always wondering."
    That's the funny thing about relationships -- in the back of our minds, we're always wondering about something, no matter what. Maybe even the guy on "King of Queens."
    Well, maybe not him. But everyone else.
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    This should be right up your respective alleys. :o
     
  2. Immortalfire In the pale moonlight

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    Its the Average/unattractive men that most of the time come off as the nicer guys, with the better personality's, which is what really draws women to men, its not all about looks to them.

    the better looking guys, could be nice, and have a good personality too but a good percentage of the time they come off as cocky and conceded, IMO because they think their better than the Average looking men.
     
  4. DOG LIPS El Señor Presidente

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    I heard you the first time! Shut uppah you face! :cmad:
     
  5. AndThePickles Kiss the girl

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    A lot of attractive women have low self esteem, that might have something to do with it as well.
     
  6. AndThePickles Kiss the girl

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    Ugh, I noticed that too! :cmad::cmad::cmad:
     
  7. Ghostvirus Registered

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    I think the moral of the story for all fuglies. Move to New York!
     
  8. terry78 My name is Stefan, sweet thang

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    Most emo/artsy guys aren't exactly Brad Pitt types, and they can score semi hot artsy girls. Just have to play to your strengths.
     
  9. Two-Face Harvey Dent

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    So what if fat guy dates hot woman... :o
     
  10. terry78 My name is Stefan, sweet thang

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    Case in point, King of Queens, the Honeymooners, the Flintstones, etc. I won't lie, I do see slightly obese guys with skinny girls pretty often.
     
  11. chamber-music Infinity Ammo

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    yep exploit their weakness then go in for the kill........I sound so immoral :o
     
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    i can admit, I'm not hott, but i aint ugly, since I've grown my hair out, and it looks kinda emo styled I've had soo many random girls come up to me saying I'm so hott and I'm gorgeous and its mostly just cuz of my hair.

    even last night walking in RVC about to meet up with my gf, me and my friend mike got stopped by a group of HOTT girls, but we told them we were taken and they all sighed.


    girls in my school now a days are really attracted to the skater/scene guy.

    which is that category id fall into.
     
  13. kamesan Registered

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    Terry78 what're you dorkin about, you actually read that article?
     
  14. Majik1387 Registered

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    Ugly people should not be with pretty people.:o

    Yes, I'm shallow and never deny it.:o
     
  15. terry78 My name is Stefan, sweet thang

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    It was on yahoo, I haven't even read it. I just copy and paste. :o
     
  16. The Apocalypse Registered

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    So not true cause then I would be going out with a girl. :D
     
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    Yea I have a yahoo email account and I could tell you just grab alot of the stories from the front page. Saves me from clicking on the links there!
     
  18. Zero_Vault Registered

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    Do you know why hot girls are attracted to fat/ugly guys?

    Because they know no other girl will steal their man.
     
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    they get that extra bit of reassurance.
     
  20. Matt IKYN Guy Groupie

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    This is the woman who wrote the article:

    [​IMG]

    Schwiiing
     
  21. jaguarr Be Your Own Hero

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    Wait....did Terry just post the entire article along with the link? WTF? Is the Apocalypse upon us? :huh:

    jag
     
  22. DareDemon Hi! I like shorts!

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    I'm an ugly bird-like creature, and all my girlfriends have been really freaking hot.
     
  23. terry78 My name is Stefan, sweet thang

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    Don't get used to it, it's merely an early Xmas gift.
     
  24. Abaddon Watching

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    Never made sense on Seinfeld. The man is a goblin.:o
     
  25. Jolie_Desastre Registered

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    i see it here all the time.

    a friend of mine who is overweight used to hook up with this really attractive young girl and she seemed to like him a lot. sometimes looks don't matter.
     

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