Remember way back when I asked you on this thread "can you pick up on informal/social cues". Well this is kind of the red flag here. You see people might not necessarily all be dishonest, but for the most part people try to say things in such a way as to remove themselves from guilt so as to let the other person down gently. These are informal/social cues. Things we do to implicitly say things we wish to explicitly say. When Jill tells you "don't call me again because I am moving, I'll call you" she really means "I don't like you, and I don't want you calling me ever again". The key part is "
don't call me again because I am moving, I'll call you". The half-baked excuse is to let the other person down gently so as to not hurt their feelings and take some of the sting out of rejection.
I had a "socially inept" roommate(s). Well one was socially inept, one was just very low on self-esteem. One day this kid who was low on self esteem, we'll call him Dave, got a date. Dave's was suppose to pick up his date at 7pm, however she didn't show, didn't answer her phone, didn't call back...showing him up entirely. The next day we found out she lost her phone in the woods and spent all night trying to find it...yeah right
. I told Dave straight what (I) actually thought had happened. My socially inept roommate (we'll call him Donny) bought the story wholesale. I ended up talking to her about it, and she somewhat admitted to lying. But the point is, this stuff happens, to all of us. To Dave it was a big deal, because he felt depressed about his chances to begin with.
However Dave response was to lock himself in his room and (literally) listen to Linkin Park. Your response downright scares me as a man. Everyone faces rejection, and even those who are successful face monumental failures. But being tired of losing doesn't make it okay for you to obsess over this Jill. You cannot make her love you. And you certainly cannot make her your girlfriend.
Most of us, in High School, went through a puppy love phase where we had huge crushes we couldn't get over...but unfortunately for you, by 21, most grow out of this.
If you really want to meet women I suggest two things. One, get help. You obviously have some huge issues with interacting with people. Two, find yourself some friends. I meet all kinds of girls when I am out with friends. Going to the movie alone and playing Double Dragon is an excellent way to put off that "I'm sketch" vibe that most women are scared of. Three, kill all the angst. "I am tired of losing". Well that's because you try to hard. People get girlfriends, largely, when they aren't trying at all. When you try too hard you become to self aware and lose a lot of self confidence. Women like guys who aren't looking, not ones who are.
