Note to self, have children, be a responsible parent, be aware of his/her activities, & educate them well.
This.
I've said for a long time that there's only one thing I really want in life, and that's a family. I really want to have kids, but only when the time is right. And I usually complain here about how I hate babysitting my niece and nephew and that's mainly because I think my brother and his wife are doing a horrible job. My niece is only 8 years old, and she's already wearing make-up and nail polish and short skirts, even though she's pretty much obese, which just goes to show that they don't know how to show restraint. I've come to learn that I should use the example of my brother and wife as what I should avoid doing when I have children.
Parents need to stop being their kids friends and start becoming enforcers again. My mom is a foot shorter than I was in high school but if she said no, it was no. I'm sick and tired of reading these stories about kids thinking they are above the law and being so disgustingly brazen about committing these terrible crimes. And where are the parents? Crying in a courtroom about how good their little boy is. He might have been, if you actually gave a ****. The fact that this is the news 3 times in such a short period is unacceptable. It just makes you think about how often this happens and doesn't get national coverage. I don't even want to think about that. Enough of this rape culture where "She was looking for it" or "She wanted to...before she passed out." We need to start teaching kids common ****ing decency and sense. You see a girl passed out? You call 911 and make sure she's ok. If her hating you for the rest of your life is the price to pay, it's a price well worth paying. I'm so tired of this ****.
I agree. To be honest, I have a bad relationship with my mom, but that's mostly been because she at 24, she still tries to be my enforcer. But every now and then I start to feel grateful for her being like that because she really did help me turn out better than most people I know, who already have 2-3 kids and didn't graduate high school or college. I'll still argue that she was too strict because she also kept me from learning critical things like social skills and how to go out and do the things I need to do. But there are many lessons that I learned even in recent years that made me realize that I was better off listening to her, as opposed to doing what everyone else was doing.
And like I just mentioned, I look at my brother and how him and his wife are "friends" with their kids, and while that's a good quality to have, a parent also needs to know what discipline is and how to apply it to their children. Its not simply punishing them for doing something bad, but also teaching them why its bad and why they should keep from doing it. Me and my mom often give complaints to my brother about how his kids behaved, but they continue to show disrespect because their parents don't show any concern. and pretty much let them get away with anything.
It's one thing to go to a party and get piss-drunk while underage and pass out. It's quite another to get gang-raped while unconscious and have them take pictures of it and pass it around the school. You think these guys would think it was so cool if it had been them? Or one of their guy friends?
I'm a "good girl" and I never did drank underage or went to parties, but I'm still angry. You know why? Because it shows that there ARE guys out there who think they are SO COOL for RAPING a girl when she is powerless. I am not safe just because I don't go to parties or clubs. Someday I'll interact with those guys too, and knowing that there are guys out there who WOULD take advantage of me if I was ever incapacitated is extremely frightening. She did not deserve what happened to her.
We need to find such boys and shame them. Tell them they are not men just because they "got some." A real man would wait for the "yes" (and get that "Yes!!!") not the "well, she didn't/couldn't say no...."
I also agree with this as well. I heard a quote once that said Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.I think deep down inside we all have those animalistic instincts, but the majority of people don't succumb to them because they know better, and that's where being human comes into play.
I think in a case like this, no child until 18 should be at a party where there is alcohol being served, especially if there is no supervision, so in that sense the parent is definitely to blame for not being aware of where their child is and what their doing, and situations like this could be avoided. But seeing how this happens to females at any age, I go back to the quote and what I said above, which is that boys need to be taught not only to not rape, but why they shouldn't and why it is bad. Even if 3 out of 4 boys don't get the message and still try something, there needs to be something done to ensure that the 1 that does get the message not only said No, but also does something to stop to stop the rest.
Tragic. Sad. I honestly dont have words for this. My heart goes out to the family and friends of this young woman. I cant even begin to imagine how losing someone under these circumstances feels. And those who assaulted her and then not happy with just that, go to take pictures and share it? Sickens me 
