Am I in the wrong?

[ttotheusher]

So, my friend finally announce's he's going out with a girl he's been talking about for ages. So, me and another one of his friends add her on facebook, just to see what she's like. No problems. The next day, he flips at me, and tells me I'm wrong and weird for adding her if I've never met her and dont know her. Is that weird? I certainly dont see it that way, am I alone in this way of thinking.

 

[Star]

I think your friend has some strange issues?

 

[Eggyman]

I'm not sure to be honest because I don't touch facebook and stuff like that, so I'm not very well up on how to behave on there.

Maybe your friend was just a lil miffed at you trying to get an inside scoop on her, like you were checking up on his new squeeze, rather than waiting to be introduced the old fashioned way... by him, face to face.

Maybe he just thought it was slightly too proactive on your part. I can understand, but I wouldn't 'flip' at you.

 

[Swordmaster]

Eggy speaks truth, and this comes from a Facebook ****e

 

[ttotheusher]

Maybe your friend was just a lil miffed at you trying to get an inside scoop on her, like you were checking up on his new squeeze, rather than waiting to be introduced the old fashioned way... by him, face to face.

Maybe he just thought it was slightly too proactive on your part. I can understand, but I wouldn't 'flip' at you.

Well, I've asked him several times to call her and ask her to join us (we all go to the same college on the same days) but he's always avoided calling. Maybe he just doesnt want his college life interacting with his personal life? Although the problem with that theory is that I've met loadsa of his friends, and he's never been bothered before.

 

[Nirvana]

I don't see the big deal.

 

[Eggyman]

Well, I've asked him several times to call her and ask her to join us (we all go to the same college on the same days) but he's always avoided calling. Maybe he just doesnt want his college life interacting with his personal life? Although the problem with that theory is that I've met loadsa of his friends, and he's never been bothered before.

Well, it isn't a big deal. Don't worry about it. People can be irrational when it comes to things like this.

 

[ttotheusher]

Well, it isn't a big deal. Don't worry about it. People can be irrational when it comes to things like this.

Yea thanks. I just wanted to know I wasnt the only one who thought I was in the right.

 

[Eggyman]

Yea thanks. I just wanted to know I wasnt the only one who thought I was in the right.

Heh. You'll get no such confirmation from me. It isn't about you being in the right; it's about your mate flipping out. He shouldn't have, BUT, you should have respected his privacy by realising that he obviously isn't ready to share his girl. Sometimes it's just nice to have some privacy as a couple in the first precarious couple of months, and then once you feel comfortable then you introduce friends and such. Not always the way, and not for everybody, but it's just one way to go about things.

 

[ttotheusher]

Heh. You'll get no such confirmation from me. It isn't about you being in the right; it's about your mate flipping out. He shouldn't have, BUT, you should have respected his privacy by realising that he obviously isn't ready to share his girl. Sometimes it's just nice to have some privacy as a couple in the first precarious couple of months, and then once you feel comfortable then you introduce friends and such. Not always the way, and not for everybody, but it's just one way to go about things.

I'd agree with you...if it wasnt for the fact that this is the third time he's started dating this girl. He's dumped her twice before.

 

[Ugfugly]

Your friend sounds like a *****e, you should hook up with the girl just to piss him off

 

[The Guard]

There's nothing wrong when it comes to Facebook. Ever. It's like a morality void.

 

[[A]]

Is the girl hot?

 

[ttotheusher]

Is the girl hot?

Actually, yea. He's punching waaaay above his weight.

 

[Eggyman]

I'd agree with you...if it wasnt for the fact that this is the third time he's started dating this girl. He's dumped her twice before.

But that isn't for us to speculate on. It just sounds to me like he wanted some time to be 'just them', without the extra baggage of their lives and friends becoming a factor. I don't know the guy; I don't know the girl; and I don't know you. It could be anything.

Like I said, no biggie.

Morpheus once said to Neo, 'Try not to think about it in terms of right and wrong...'

Just shake it off, man.

Not to her facebook pictures

 

[The Apocalypse]

So, my friend finally announce's he's going out with a girl he's been talking about for ages. So, me and another one of his friends add her on facebook, just to see what she's like. No problems. The next day, he flips at me, and tells me I'm wrong and weird for adding her if I've never met her and dont know her. Is that weird? I certainly dont see it that way, am I alone in this way of thinking.

Your friend may be a little paranoid. I don't see a problem with doing that but I know other people take Facebook stuff to heart so I probably wouldn't do it myself.

 

[ttotheusher]

But that isn't for us to speculate on. It just sounds to me like he wanted some time to be 'just them', without the extra baggage of their lives and friends becoming a factor. I don't know the guy; I don't know the girl; and I don't know you. It could be anything.

Like I said, no biggie.

Morpheus once said to Neo, 'Try not to think about it in terms of right and wrong...'

Just shake it off, man.

Not to her facebook pictures

Your right, your right. You are a wise man, and I appreciate your help.

 

[Eggyman]

Your right, your right. You are a wise man, and I appreciate your help.

Again with the 'right'. I'm not right. All I've done is post reasons why he may have reacted that way. I don't know. It's not my personal opinion on how to behave when in this situation... just reasons as to why it might've happened.

Morpheus would be pissed.

 

[The-Dark-Knight]

I personally dont think its wrong of you though i guess its really a matter of opinion. I suppose what your doing is just what so many Facebook users do add someone they have spoke to once or a friend of a friend so they have a friend cound in excess of 400 yet only speak to around 20 of those people.

 

[Cosmic]

I think that what you did sounds a little weird, but I'm really private in my relationships, and I get jealous over girlfriends pretty easily. I mind my own business, and I tend to get annoyed when I feel like people are intruding on my privacy.

However, it's also extremely annoying when guys always talk about their girlfriends, but never bring them around to socialize. So, in that sense, I can understand being curious and/or frustrated.

 

[Silverglade]

Nah your friend is in the wrong. Anytime one of your buds is bothered by your internet activity, he needs a time out.

 

[Master Chief]

Your buddy is psychotic, warn the lady. :heart:

 

[ComicChick]

maybe he's more paranoid about her accepting the request?
or maybe you're better looking than he is and he's worried?

still, i wouldn't flip on someone adding a new significant other. like someone said, it's all about padding their friend list stats to some, and some like to add them cuz they are supportive/protective of their friends

 

[Manic]

I personally dont think its wrong of you though i guess its really a matter of opinion. I suppose what your doing is just what so many Facebook users do add someone they have spoke to once or a friend of a friend so they have a friend cound in excess of 400 yet only speak to around 20 of those people.

And yet all 400 know when you're scratching your ass.

Facebook is the one online networking tool where nobody should try to add people they don't know. When will people learn?

 

[Twin2]

To quote jaguarr PIITB.