Warhammer
Half Monk, Half Hitman
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Last week, one of my parents passed away. I told a decent amount of my friends that I consider close to me, but I didn't go making a Facebook status, tweet, or anything like that because I'm not all about having pity parties or attention seeking. My friends all gave their condolences of course, but to my surprise, a good amount sent me mail, phone calls, and texts saying if I need anything, I can call them as well as offering their time to talk to me, etc. Apparently, word spread quickly and even people who I barely know reached out to me. And I am grateful for that.
But here's the kicker. There is one friend who I have a close friendship with. Whenever she needed advice, I gave it to her. When her grandparent died, I personally reached out to her twice to console her. Not even two days before the unfortunate passing, she had called me almost crying about something and I went out to eat dinner with her to talk about her problem. We're just friends. There's nothing going on as far as I know. What irked me was that she didn't reach out to me other than a "I'll pray for you" in a group chat message on Facebook. No phone call, text, message, or anything.
Don't get me wrong. I don't feel the sense of "I scratch your back, you scratch mine," because I feel as though it's a duty as a friend to be there when asked. I don't think I come off as entitled either but I did expect to hear something from her because of our friendship. So with all that was said, am I right or wrong to be a little pissed that this person hasn't personally reached out to me?
But here's the kicker. There is one friend who I have a close friendship with. Whenever she needed advice, I gave it to her. When her grandparent died, I personally reached out to her twice to console her. Not even two days before the unfortunate passing, she had called me almost crying about something and I went out to eat dinner with her to talk about her problem. We're just friends. There's nothing going on as far as I know. What irked me was that she didn't reach out to me other than a "I'll pray for you" in a group chat message on Facebook. No phone call, text, message, or anything.
Don't get me wrong. I don't feel the sense of "I scratch your back, you scratch mine," because I feel as though it's a duty as a friend to be there when asked. I don't think I come off as entitled either but I did expect to hear something from her because of our friendship. So with all that was said, am I right or wrong to be a little pissed that this person hasn't personally reached out to me?