Schlosser85
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So my ex, whom I still extremely close to in a platonic way, is struggling with depression, which he gets periodically. Meanwhile his boyfriend, whom he lives with, is being very distant, sleeping on the couch downstairs, and basically blowing it off any time Mark tries to get him to level about what's going on. This is eating Mark up with uncertainty about their relationship, which needless to say isn't helping him deal with depression.
Last night, after Mark basically poured his heart out to me about this for hours, I sent Dustin (his bf) a Facebook private message saying "you need to level with Mark one way or another, because not knowing what's going on is driving him crazy and making his depression worse".
Now you might say I butted my head in, but Mark confides in me about all this on a practically daily basis, and all three of us had previously been very close.
Well, I get a text message this afternoon from Dustin saying "you sir are no longer welcome here at my house". I also discover he's deleted me from his Facebook friends. I call Mark and ask "WTF??", and apparently Dustin took me to be telling him to leave Mark. Now I might be biased because I already knew what I meant, but I didn't think it came across that way. I texted Dustin insisting that I was not at all suggesting they break up, I was only telling them they need to communicate with each other. No response.
I'm a bit offended right now. But, outside opinions, what do you think? Was I in the wrong? Did he overreact? Does my message sound the way he interpreted it?
Last night, after Mark basically poured his heart out to me about this for hours, I sent Dustin (his bf) a Facebook private message saying "you need to level with Mark one way or another, because not knowing what's going on is driving him crazy and making his depression worse".
Now you might say I butted my head in, but Mark confides in me about all this on a practically daily basis, and all three of us had previously been very close.
Well, I get a text message this afternoon from Dustin saying "you sir are no longer welcome here at my house". I also discover he's deleted me from his Facebook friends. I call Mark and ask "WTF??", and apparently Dustin took me to be telling him to leave Mark. Now I might be biased because I already knew what I meant, but I didn't think it came across that way. I texted Dustin insisting that I was not at all suggesting they break up, I was only telling them they need to communicate with each other. No response.
I'm a bit offended right now. But, outside opinions, what do you think? Was I in the wrong? Did he overreact? Does my message sound the way he interpreted it?