Are you the same person online as you are in the real world?

[KRYPTON INC.]

^^Letting me down easy.



No doubt I'm much less of an ******* IRL.

Hey, as long as you know it. That give you points in my book. Lack of self awareness is a plague in the fan community.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

I see no problem with Whiskey Tango.

He usually comes of as frank and reasonable to me.

 

[terry78]

I know too many people that use it as an outlet to say what they don't in real life. I act pretty much as I do normally except I'm a little more soft spoken.

 

[Naked Shia]

It's the peter parker syndrome.

 

[Yowza]

I'd like to add I think it's also interesting how some people can become friends online when in fact they might annoy one another in the real world. Sometimes lack of nuance makes people react more defensively sure but I think it can go the other way too.

Even more nuanced conversations over the phone and interpersonal conversations a midst exchanging personal information, it's still hard to get a read or feel on someone especially because each person could be trying harder to project themselves in a certain way. However, hang out with someone for a day the awkwardness could come out. Therefore, I think sometimes being too restrained can be cumbersome as well. I just try to do things naturally. If I push a few buttons and rub someone the wrong way, I try not to troll or use strawman arguements (something does earn a person ridicule big time in the real world dealing with real people; nothing like trying to talk to a moron who puts words into one's mouth or recontextualizes/shifts words/topics around making them a master at BS and impossible to deal with). I try to get right to the point and stay within reason.

With that being said though, in the real world I'll generally refrain from talking to people on certain topics until getting to know them better then the degree click determines the degree interact with them (just at work, hang out on break with them often,ect.). A feeling out process I think is more warranted especially when trying to interact with one's neighbors and co-workers to keep things level and even with a degree of spacing as needed. Online can be good to be able to project an opinion and feel it out by how others respond as long as one does it within a point of reason while utilizing reason.

 

[Naked Shia]

Dudes, if you wanna see if i'm the same person in real life... Come to my nexy deathmatch thread tomorrow... Let's say you will get an answer...so just do it!

 

[Greens]

Shia, I'm this close to slapping you in the face for your spamming.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

I'm as crazy in the real world as i am on the internet. I swear, even when people made a video for my wife and i at our wedding, most of them were saying that i'm crazy. Some of you have seen the video of my wedding where i'm dressed as batman and fight some friends of mine dressed as joker and penguin. I think it pretty much answer that question.

This guy was afraid I'd say weird things.

 

[I SEE SPIDEY]

I am painfully shy and akward around people, there is no reason to be shy online because nobody can ****ing see or touch you, the internet also brings out the huge flirt in me. That's probably always been in me though.

I'd say if anything I'm more myself in many ways on the interwebs than I am in real life. I don't toss my liberal **** out there because my family lean conservative on many issues and I don't want to argue with them.

In real life, like on here I do have a short fuse, make movie related and dirty jokes. And yes I am a bit of a contrarian. At this point in my internet life, I am more or less being myself.

 

[Maximus One]

For the most part I am. I think I'm a little less inhibited online, though. Guess it depends who I'm around in real life as well, though. I work with a few religious and rather conservative people so I try to watch stuff nowadays like cussing and stuff like that but I pretty much act the same.

 

[Volshe]

I'm have far less reservation online, but otherwise I am usually (if I'm not "in character" for any forums), I am just my authentic self.

 

[Yowza]

I'd like to add from being on here a bit, I will say in real life I'm often the one listening to others go on about their viewpoints just giving my 2 cents in from time to time while calmly listening to certain pointed statements and whatnot not getting too invested in it (moreso at my old job). I don't really try to come off as overly opinionated but sometimes online I just can't help myself. I didn't sign up on these forums for that though. I like creative movie discussion and just relaxing having a good time.

 

[Thundercrack85]

Funny, this forum always makes me feel like I need to be more careful about what I say. In real life what you say has consequences, but you don't get an infraction for stating your beliefs.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

You get mental infractions from people in real life. Once you build up enough of them in other people's minds, if they can choose not to interact with you, they will. It's a kind of real life "banning".

 

[Superwoman Prime]

@Thundercrack: Try TheForce.net. Then say that.

 

[Thundercrack85]

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You get mental infractions from people in real life. Once you build up enough of them in other people's minds, if they can choose not to interact with you, they will. It's a kind of real life "banning".

Maybe if you live in a theocracy.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

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Maybe if you live in a theocracy.

Huh?

 

[Thundercrack85]

Huh?

My infractions have mostly been due to politics and religion.

 

[Yowza]

I look at social talk as a hierarchy of General conv. (how's the weather)-->things around you-->what oneself is doing-->what opinions-->how your feeling. Various spheres have to go through in certain contexts such as at work.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

My infractions have mostly been due to politics and religion.

Still... In the real world people avoid other people that they disagree with, again, if they can. I used to work with a born again guy that was very obnoxious about it. First day I meet him, he asks me what my beliefs are, out of nowhere. I tell him I was raised Catholic and did ten years of Catholic school, but now (this was some years ago) was leaning towards a more atheist/agnostic outlook and was much more into Taoism and Zen, as well as being more open minded in general when it comes to moral absolutes. Mind you... I didn't say anything about what he believed in when I did so. I wasn't even the one to start this line of thought to begin with. He asked me. His response? "That's all a load of ********." Well, geez, thanks. I mean you asked but, no, please crap all over my spiritual journey in this crazy mixed up world. He was the type of born again that made a big show of it ALL THE TIME, while: 1. Stealing from the company 2. Going on about his sexual conquests outside of his marriage. 3. Gambling. 4. Constantly lying. 5. Being and all around asshat.

If I could have avoided that guy for the rest of my life after meeting him ONCE I would have. Unfortunately I had a job where I was assigned to the same place he was. And I don't know about "theocracy" but in real life people choose not to interact with people they don't like for a variety of reasons all the time. THAT was my meaning if it wasn't clear. I do it, and I am sure you do as well.

 

[Naked Shia]

Shia, I'm this close to slapping you in the face for your spamming.

Come at me bro. I'm enthusiastic, i can't help it.

 

[Napoleon]

I'm by and large the same person online as I am in real life. I say whatever's on my mind, am a film, tv, video game, and comic nut, don't give a damn about political correctness, say weird **** a lot of the time, and have a mouth like Samuel L. Jackson.

 

[Primal Slayer]

I would say 95% of my online persona is the same as my real life persona.

 

[Yowza]

As long as your being true to yourself and treat other people with respect what does it matter if your a bit different online than in real life?

I guess another question would be how does one handle conflict different in real life vs. online? Online I don't care if someone mentally bans me. Real life I do to an extent if I have to work with someone day to day (still though I have had times where someone has been disrespectful and it's a no talking basis for good pretty much doesn't hurt me). With that being said, I will bluntly say what I think. I don't try to tear into someone else's opinion (personal comment about them) unless they challenge me in a way I find offensive. I may challenge their statement though if it's in a debate forum on a particular topic.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

As long as your being true to yourself and treat other people with respect what does it matter if your a bit different online than in real life?

I guess another question would be how does one handle conflict different in real life vs. online? Online I don't care if someone mentally bans me. Real life I do to an extent if I have to work with someone day to day (still though I have had times where someone has been disrespectful and it's a no talking basis for good pretty much doesn't hurt me). With that being said, I will bluntly say what I think. I don't try to tear into someone else's opinion (personal comment about them) unless they challenge me in a way I find offensive. I may challenge their statement though if it's in a debate forum on a particular topic.

No one has said it's a particularly negative thing, though, honestly, when someone is hiding behind the anonymity of the web just to get a rise out of people or to be abusive ect., well it does say something about them. We've had a lot of PBUs coming back, and it seems the only reason is to continue doing either that, being asshats, or to continue meaningless arguments on a faceless message board.

As for real life vs. online, again, there are just things you wouldn't do face to face that you can get away with online. I think that mere opportunity to act a certain way probably is too tempting for some people.