Can you be by yourself? Do even like being by yourself?

[Movies205]

I think I didn't realize that people really don't like being alone till a year ago when I brought the conversation up with a friend and she told me she hates being by herself. I was then reminded of this by the thread "Eating Alone".

Personally I enjoy the solace that solidarity can afford me. I live with 3 other room-mates, as I said in the other thread, and I have plenty of friends, but sometimes I just like the nights when I can relax, read a book, or even just sit and ponder about things for a while.

Thoughts?

 

[Rando]

i like being alone, I don't have to impress anyone or do anything stupid.

 

[Hurm...]

I'm just like you. I have a bunch of friends and we all go out on Fridays to the movies or something. But when I get home, I just want to relax, watch some old films, or read a book. Some people may think it's strange but I don't mind being alone and having some privacy.

 

[Zephyr Alexian]

I enjoy being alone at times. It's a nice change of pace for me to go see a live band or go to a bar by myself. It affords you the opportunity to meet new people who may shy away from talking to you in a setting with a larger group.

Often, if I work for 1/2 a day or finish early, I go catch a matinee of a film by myself if most of my friends are at work or they don't like the film. Same thing with anything else. If I want to do something and the people I know don't, I do it myself if it's a pressing desire.

 

[Untilteld]

I like going to movies by myself so I can't be bothered.

 

[Spidey-Bat]

I like being by myself. Especially now since I have 3 other roommates as well. My alone time is few and far between. Gives me time to think and get work done.

 

[Movies205]

Its interesting when I was studying abroad in England for a semester, our dormitories were singles so you didn't share it with anyone, but there was a common room with a TV and comfortable chairs. I don't like the confines of my room sometimes, I'd go down there and just sit and relax. It wasn't like I was being anti-social either because when people would walk by, they'd sit down and we chat for a little bit. But the other Americans found it strange as **** to just sit alone in the common room, just doing some writing or something... The british had no problem with it though

 

[King of Kings]

I don't have a problem being by myself as it gives me a chance to relax and not worry about anything.

 

[Lord Valumart]

i'm alright being on my own...

on your own you can do things like read, do sudoku, watch tv with out people going "is that him that was in the thing...you know...the thing with the woman with the face..." everytime someone new comes on. but after about a week i'd probably set my arm on fire out of boredom

 

[Captain Planet!]

I don't mind.

 

[Mee]

I like being by myself. Not more than being with people, but I don't have to have someone around.

 

[Sensi]

I like being alone if I am at home but when I go out, I prefer to be with someone.

 

[Sentinel X]

It depends.

Sometimes I just want to be alone...and have NOBODY talk to me. Maybe I'll read a book or just sit there, as long as I am alone

and other times I want to be with someone else. Give a few jokes, laugh about something, converse about something, etc.

I think if BOTH are extremes for you then you need help. It is not good to always want to be alone and its equally bad to always want to be with someone (it shows that you have poor self esteem)

 

[Troy_Parker]

In my house - alone

Outside - with someone

Cinemas - Alone

 

[Addendum]

I enjoy being by myself and I see no reason to change that

 

[I Am The Knight]

Another "Loner" thread.

I quite enjoy being by myself. I can watch my movies, listen to my favorite music, think about my life...just relax it for a bit. It's very stimulating.

When going out, I prefer to hang around people.

 

[terry78]

Both of those ends of the spectrum can be somewhat disturbing. You got people that need to be alone all the time like some misanthrope, and you got those that can't do anything by themselves, period...they gotta have that signifnicant other or that group of two or more people hanging with them, whether it's shopping, going to an event, or anything

 

[Movies205]

Both of those ends of the spectrum can be somewhat disturbing. You got people that need to be alone all the time like some misanthrope, and you got those that can't do anything by themselves, period...they gotta have that signifnicant other or that group of two or more people hanging with them, whether it's shopping, going to an event, or anything

Too true, I find it easier to disguise being socially dependent rather than being a complete introvert.

 

[michephantom]

I think it would be easier to be an introverted misanthrope than to be horribly socially dependent because there's always going to be a time when you're alone.

Before I went off to college I needed to be alone a lot more often, but now I really enjoy and need to be around people. It probably is because I've met people that I can actually enjoy their company.

I could never see a movie by myself, though.

 

[black_dust]

I enjoy being on my own i get more things done

 

[OctaviusINC]

I love being alone. I like the company of my friends etc. but when I'm alone I could think straight and clearly.

 

[danoyse]

I currently live on my own, and I'm fine with it. It's not like I'm a shut-in. I spend most of my time at work, and my family and friends live within minutes, so I feel like I'm rarely home anyway. Most of my friends have small kids, and they're always telling me how jealous they are that I can just go home and watch TV after work.

The bad part to that is once your friends start having kids, you can't really hang out with your friends the way you used to. But it doesn't slow me down, if I really want to see a movie and none of them are available I just go on my own after work.

I was in California this summer with my dad, and while he was in meetings all day I went by myself to Disneyland. We'd been there over the weekend, but there were a ton of rides he wouldn't go on, so I spent the day catching up to those rides. I went on Space Mountain 7 times and got my picture with Mickey and Minnie. It was a blast.

 

[UA-Archangel]

I like myself I really.

Just a couple of tranqs and a few shots of whisky, and I really, really like myself.

 

[Silicon Surfer]

As a fairly profound introvert I prefer to spend my time alone. The people I used to spend time with have scattered to the four winds long ago and I have found myself unmotivated to search out new friends. I am comfortable enough with people but after a while it seem to suck the energy out of me. I only seem to relax and recharge when I am alone.

 

[bullets]

I've always had to have at least one person around. I do like some privacy every once in a while but I couldn't imagine going a weekend without hanging out with somebody . i like it to be my girlfriend because we live together and she doesn't expect me to be stting next to her all the time. if i want to go somewhere and it doesnt matter if its just the store , ill ask her to come for the ride. If i go shopping i prefer to be alone becasue ill sit there in the dvd section forever and i dont think its fair to anybody else to have to be there for that.
i used to go out everyone weekend to a bar , restaurant , pool hall , anything but lately because of work i've stayed in alot of nights. My friends usually have different schedules and it's harder to meet up now than it was back ion the day when we'd always be hanging out. it's just different. I ve noticed myself becoming more of a loner lately because i'm tired from work and dont want to do what someone elses wants me to. all my friends drink heavily and i cant really do that because i'm an excessive drinker at times.
So things changed and by default things are what they are. I can spend time alone at the house on the internet but if i'm watching a movie , i hate to do that alone.