Come on...like SERIOUSLY!!!!

[FrostBite]

I think my parents did it pretty well.....
encouraged me to partake in something like sports.... but never made me do it... and by giving me support, I grew to enjoy football, and baseball...

when I gave them up Junior year, my dad told me "that's fine your doing that, but were not going to have you coming home, and sitting on your butt everyday... It would be nice to see you get a part-time job"... to which he helped me get one, and then gave me a loan to get a cheap car to get me there and back... I had to pay him back every week till it was paid in full, and if I quit my job, I would either have to get another one, or give back the car....

with friends, I could hang out with who I wanted, but they new who were the bad kids... and ussualy rewarded me for picking the right friends... ussualy by taking us to movies or sporting events...

they let me make mistakes, becuase they always feeled that mistakes and failure helps make a man grow, and causes more growth in character...

From the sounds of it you had excellent parents in my opinion.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

I had an ex whose mom did the same thing. She refused to let her daughter go to prom with me until she spoke with me and a parent on the phone.

She basically threatened me, saying her daughter had two older twin brothers, who are "very large men and are very protective over ____". My dad doesn't take to kindly to **** like that, and told her of my martial arts experience, and shut her up instantly. She tried to backtrack, and eventually said I would be allowed to take her daughter to prom.

Then her daughter pulled something ****ed up, and I dropped her ass just before prom. It's more fun going single anyway.

So, it's happened before. But it is a tad overprotective. I think, anyway.

 

[BillyZaned]

I had an ex whose mom did the same thing. She refused to let her daughter go to prom with me until she spoke with me and a parent on the phone.

She basically threatened me, saying her daughter had two older twin brothers, who are "very large men and are very protective over ____". My dad doesn't take to kindly to **** like that, and told her of my martial arts experience, and shut her up instantly. She tried to backtrack, and eventually said I would be allowed to take her daughter to prom.

Then her daughter pulled something ****ed up, and I dropped her ass just before prom. It's more fun going single anyway.

So, it's happened before. But it is a tad overprotective. I think, anyway.

lol...

my kid has skills... like skills with a bowstaff.... he takes rex kwan do... lol... give me a break...

 

[Cunning Stunts]

lol...

my kid has skills... like skills with a bowstaff.... he takes rex kwan do... lol... give me a break...

Thanks, but no thanks. He nor I tout myself to be some sort of Bruce Lee, but he can't stand when people try to threaten us like that. I'd have done the same for my own child.

 

[BillyZaned]

Thanks, but no thanks. He nor I tout myself to be some sort of Bruce Lee, but he can't stand when people try to threaten us like that. I'd have done the same for my own child.

all they said was that she has two big overprotective brothers... basically, saying "don't try to put your hand down her pants"...

it's no biggie, typical stuff I did for my sister growing up

 

[Majic Walrus]

I had an ex whose mom did the same thing. She refused to let her daughter go to prom with me until she spoke with me and a parent on the phone.

She basically threatened me, saying her daughter had two older twin brothers, who are "very large men and are very protective over ____". My dad doesn't take to kindly to **** like that, and told her of my martial arts experience, and shut her up instantly. She tried to backtrack, and eventually said I would be allowed to take her daughter to prom.

Then her daughter pulled something ****ed up, and I dropped her ass just before prom. It's more fun going single than going with your cousin anyway.

So, it's happened before. But it is a tad overprotective. I think, anyway.

Fix'd.

 

[Sarge 2.0]

Stop making this thread about parenting! This should be more CashforStash awkward gold! Have you all forgotten the torn up Joker card!?

 

[E-Man]

I don't think that you and I are talking about the same thing.

Being respectful is different from "not being a jerk". I don't think that anyone should be a jerk, but to me respect is something that is earned and is an honor to receive. I'm not recommending that anyone walks around in *****ebag mode non-stop, but the idea that everyone should be respected is bunk. People should be treated according to their actions and intentions.

No one gets the benefit of the doubt.

Well we are along the same lines of thinking, but we just have different connotations of respect. For me respect isn't a big thing, it's just treating people how you'd want to be treated in their shoes. I don't really go too much farther than that with my definition of the term.

I had an ex whose mom did the same thing. She refused to let her daughter go to prom with me until she spoke with me and a parent on the phone.

She basically threatened me, saying her daughter had two older twin brothers, who are "very large men and are very protective over ____". My dad doesn't take to kindly to **** like that, and told her of my martial arts experience, and shut her up instantly. She tried to backtrack, and eventually said I would be allowed to take her daughter to prom.

Then her daughter pulled something ****ed up, and I dropped her ass just before prom. It's more fun going single anyway.

So, it's happened before. But it is a tad overprotective. I think, anyway.

It's funny when people try to use their brothers or fathers to threaten someone. They're usually talking loud and saying nothing relevant at all, so when I've been in that situation I've made a mockery of it. One of my exes had a bat**** insane father who threatened to beat me up because I was going out with his daughter. He said, "Son I served in the army. I'll kick your ass!" I said, "Man I've been watching Batman since I was 3! I ain't scared of you!" Her mother heard about it, and she actually started to like me because she thought it was very funny. She'd invite me over the house for dinner with my girlfriend and her siblings, but the father would always have a reason to be out of the house when I was there.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

all they said was that she has two big overprotective brothers... basically, saying "don't try to put your hand down her pants"...

it's no biggie, typical stuff I did for my sister growing up

No, she didn't. The conversation went on for over 20 minutes before my dad finally had enough and gave her enough incentive to stop with the threats. Stop being so assumptive- I didn't include a lot of what was said because some of it was private, and I have no business posting it here. That said, she made a number of threats involving my ex's older brothers, including that they were 6'4" and not afraid to put their hands on me.

Fix'd.

That was in my original cut, but I decided I couldn't speak from experience, so it had to go.

 

[chaseter]

Cash, show him your tiny remake of the Jaws ride and he will let you seed his daughter.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

It's funny when people try to use their brothers or fathers to threaten someone. They're usually talking loud and saying nothing relevant at all, so when I've been in that situation I've made a mockery of it. One of my exes had a bat**** insane father who threatened to beat me up because I was going out with his daughter. He said, "Son I served in the army. I'll kick your ass!" I said, "Man I've been watching Batman since I was 3! I ain't scared of you!" Her mother heard about it, and she actually started to like me because she thought it was very funny. She'd invite me over the house for dinner with my girlfriend and her siblings, but the father would always have a reason to be out of the house when I was there.

Lmao, yeah, I love when guys seem to think being a soldier makes you some sick fighter. Another ex's (now one of my best friends) father was like that (I dunno if he was ever in the military though). He was a complete *****e. I was at their house for Christmas a few years ago, and he heard from my friend that I was a cheerleader, and made a few quiet gay slurs and threatened to kick my ass over it. In front of both my friend (who didn't care for her father), and her mother, I made some stupid remark like, "I'm not afraid to slap back." He still hates me. Whatever I said, it wasn't even that bad, but when I took a visit back down to her house a few years later (after I had moved away) to take her to homecoming, her father still wouldn't talk to me, nor would he talk to his own daughter (she hadn't even known I was coming until I showed up).

I'll never understand the aggression towards daughters' boyfriends. My dad never showed it for my sister's boyfriends, and he's protective as hell over my siblings and me.

 

[Obi-Ron]

I'll never understand the aggression towards daughters' boyfriends.

Wait until you have your own daughter, then say "never."

This whole thread =

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Wait until you have your own daughter, then say "never."

This whole thread =

I understand the suspicion, but acting like a dick right off the bat is just ignorant. I did nothing to or with either of my exes to warrant those types of responses from their parents. They just assumed and never got to know me, despite one of which explicitly saying she wanted to do so before approving.

 

[terry78]

Because we are guys. And we know no matter how sweet or innocent the dude may be, we all know his end goal is to get her to scream his name.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Because we are guys. And we know no matter how sweet or innocent the dude may be, we all know his end goal is to get her to scream his name.

They act like the girls don't want up in that just as much, if not more.

 

[Obi-Ron]

Girls can get pregnant. Boys can't. The end.

 

[E-Man]

Because we are guys. And we know no matter how sweet or innocent the dude may be, we all know his end goal is to get her to scream his name.

Ehh it'll happen eventually anyways. At some point in time the daughter is going to want to have sex, and there's not much you can do about it. Once people make peace with that, they'll be fine. Also if it's cool for the boy to have sex, why not the girl? I already know the answer to that question, and it's quite ridiculous.

 

[chaseter]

Girls can get pregnant. Boys can't. The end.

 

[FrostBite]

Girls can get pregnant. Boys can't. The end.

Give them condoms/birth control and teach them not to be stupid--and chances are they won't. (Hopefully I am not coming off disrespectful, as I have fond memories of Obi-Ron from the Hulk boards. )

Just saying, avoiding sex isn't the best way to approach it, considering there is only one thing on any teens mind male or female (heck there's only one thing on adults minds! t Teaching them how to do it responsibly (because we all know they will eventually even if they are our precious little angels that we don't want defiled) without some sort of consequence is the best way to approach it in my opinion.

 

[Obi-Ron]

(Hopefully I am not coming off disrespectful, as I have fond memories of Obi-Ron from the Hulk boards. )

Good times.

Just saying, avoiding sex isn't the best way to approach it, considering there is only one thing on any teens mind male or female (heck there's only one thing on adults minds! t Teaching them how to do it responsibly (because we all know they will eventually even if they are our precious little angels that we don't want defiled) without some sort of consequence is the best way to approach it in my opinion

.

What you're saying makes sense, it's just that when you get older your priorities tend to shift from "shooter" to "goalie."

 

[FrostBite]

What you're saying makes sense, it's just that when you get older your priorities tend to shift from "shooter" to "goalie."

Haha! t: Yeah, I know, there's a big difference between saying you'll act all rationally and level headed, and then actually having a child and trying to act on that.

Still, when I get older I'll try to be understanding.

 

[terry78]

Honestly, as a guy, you never want to picture a female family member or even a female close friend, having an orgasm. The latter being one you didn't cause.

 

[FrostBite]

Honestly, as a guy, you never want to picture a female family member or even a female close friend, having an orgasm. The latter being one you didn't cause.

Honestly, as a guy, I don't ever want to picture a male family member or even a male close friend having an orgasm.

 

[E-Man]

Honestly, as E-Man, I don't ever want to picture anyone having an orgasm outside of an attractive woman.

 

[Obi-Ron]

Honestly, as E-Man, I don't ever want to picture anyone having an orgasm outside of an attractive woman.

I'm not even gonna go there.