Dad chases naked boy from daughter's room

[Ace of Knaves]

what so people shouldn't be allowed to date untill they move out?!?! lol. they are gonna have sex anyway soon as they leave the house. so why not be civilised about it and just invite the lad round and try to get to know the kid that is dating his daughter? If i was the father and my daughter was going out with someone i would deffinately want to know what hes like, so i would invite him round for dinner or something. i mean wheres the harm in that? he would now not be facing criminal charges.

 

[Silicon Surfer]

Since she is only 15, she is under the age of consent in most states. It is illegal to engage in sex with anyone under the age of consent for any reason. Parents do not have the power to grant permission even if they are cool with it. In some cases parents have been jailed for letting kids engage in sex without trying to stop them. Parents are required by law to make a reasonable attempt to control their kids. Both the boy and the girl can be charged with statutory rape which is a felony. Since he was sneaking in to the house in the middle of the night he knew that he wasn't allowed to be there. It's even possible that he could be charged as an adult and get sent to the state pen. It would be rare under ordinary circumstances but since the father has been charged it is very possible that he will bring charges against the kid. The charges against the father will most likely be dismissed though.

 

[BlackLantern]

so two 15 year old kids are shagging and they should be charged with statuatory rape?

 

[Silicon Surfer]

It usually isn't but in situations like this it can and has happened. It makes the news every so many years. The kid usually gets a couple of years.

 

[BlackLantern]

If it's consensual, considering he had been sneaking in the house for about a year, then they should both go to jail

 

[Anubis]

The kid is usually black and the girl is white as well.

 

[Silicon Surfer]

Girls are sometimes charged but I have never heard of it going anywhere, the charges are always dropped against girls since it is assumed that the boy was the one pushing for sex. This is also usually true. The only cases I can recall, Anubis, both were white I think. It has been too long for me to remember any details except that it has happened.

 

[BlackLantern]

Girls are sometimes charged but I have never heard of it going anywhere, the charges are always dropped against girls since it is assumed that the boy was the one pushing for sex. This is also usually true. The only cases I can recall, Anubis, both were white I think. It has been too long for me to remember any details except that it has happened.

That's sexist and narrow-minded

 

[Silicon Surfer]

When I was a teenager it was the boys who were pushing for it. It usually took a lot of persuading for a long time. It may be easier today but I am sure that it is still the boys that are the ones that are pushing. I have never personally heard or heard of any girl telling a guy that " you are going to have sex with me, and I won't take no for an answer".

 

[BlackLantern]

Well he had been beatin' it up for about a year....so apparently she wasn't too objected to it

 

[Silicon Surfer]

It seem to be common among teenage girls that they think they have to give in whether they really want to or not. I never understood that in the slightest. Some of the ladies on this site can undoubtedly give some insight on that.

 

[BlackLantern]

Ok...but you can't say with concrete guarantee that that is what happened...

 

[Silicon Surfer]

No I can't and I don't think that we will ever hear the details of it although in this internet age you never can tell. My point is that even her boyfriend may not know whether she was really willing or not or whether she felt that she needed to say yes.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

The simple fact of the matter is this, if the Father wasn't such a control freak and maybe got to know the boy, then they wouldn't of rebelled. If the Father accepted that his daughter can date people and maybe even invited her boyfriend round for dinner or to watch a football game or whatever, all of this could of been avoided. If he didn't act like a ******** originally then neither of the children would do anything wrong because they would respect him. It doesn't matter if its a parent, you should still respect your children and they will respect you back. Thats how i'm gonna bring my kids up anyway.

 

[BlackLantern]

Let me know how that works when you walk in on some kid doing a rail of coke off your daughters ass....

seriously, I partially agree...you can be an effective parent without being a tyrant...

 

[Silicon Surfer]

The simple fact of the matter is this, if the Father wasn't such a control freak and maybe got to know the boy, then they wouldn't of rebelled. If the Father accepted that his daughter can date people and maybe even invited her boyfriend round for dinner or to watch a football game or whatever, all of this could of been avoided. If he didn't act like a ******** originally then neither of the children would do anything wrong because they would respect him. It doesn't matter if its a parent, you should still respect your children and they will respect you back. Thats how i'm gonna bring my kids up anyway.

Boy are you delusional. That's the line we are all taught but it is rarely true.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

Yea exactly. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life, I've done many terrible things. But i think after learning from them it will put me in good stead when raising my own children. Parents don't realize that you can be authorative without being a ******** and a control freak. Whats a better way to teach you children? Trying to understand them and treat them as a friend who they can talk to whenever they want. Or act like a complete tyrant and not want to hear them out or try to understand what they are going through. I think it's the latter, you show respect to your child and they will show you respect back, thus making your life much easier being a parent. If you act like a ******** and treat your kids as someone lower than you, then well, you should expect them to rebel. You know why? It's because they hate you thats why.

 

[Crook]

Boy are you delusional. That's the line we are all taught but it is rarely true.

Please elaborate.

 

[Silicon Surfer]

Double post nine minutes apart. Is that a Hype record?

 

[BlackLantern]

Yea exactly. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life, I've done many terrible things. But i think after learning from them it will put me in good stead when raising my own children. Parents don't realize that you can be authorative without being a ******** and a control freak. Whats a better way to teach you children? Trying to understand them and treat them as a friend who they can talk to whenever they want. Or act like a complete tyrant and not want to hear them out or try to understand what they are going through. I think it's the latter, you show respect to your child and they will show you respect back, thus making your life much easier being a parent. If you act like a ******** and treat your kids as someone lower than you, then well, you should expect them to rebel. You know why? It's because they hate you thats why.

I think you need to strike a balance between being their friend and being a parent...you have to set limits, but also let them know they can come to you if there is something going on....be it a problem or having a bf/gf

 

[Ace of Knaves]

yea blacklantern thats what i think is the key to being a parent. Being able to be your kids friend, but at the same time they must know you are in charge. But acting like a ******** is only going to bring more trouble on yourself in the long run.

 

[BlackLantern]

Your point sounds like it should be one or the other....im saying you have to take bits of both....You can't just let your kids do whatever because you might have been a total whackjob of a kid, regardless if it makes you feel like a hypocrite

 

[terry78]

I have to somewhat side against the dad in this one, because I have been with many a female and their parents either didn't approve or didn't know about it, so I can feel the kid's pain.

 

[pyromaniac]

So what should he have done? Should he walk into a room that he owns and politely ask this kid not to try to have sex with his underage daughter?

Oh yeah, that girl's father took a picture of a weapon that was sitting the living room with us while he was talking to me. I can't say what he would've done. I've seen too many news segments to say 'it can't happen to me.'

Believe me - I think both are in the wrong: the father for the method he chose, even if his intents were understandable, and the daughter for how she went about it, which ironically is also understandable to the degree sounds like a 'typical' teenager with needs.

I've been explaining why the consequences are as they are, not advocating the father should've sit down politely with the teenager. But just because every parent is protective doesn't mean they'll react similarly anyway...

It's not that you think 'it can't happen to you', but the threat is implicit enough that you're scared into doing anything. Isn't that usually the point of their making threats? Not the father had had a chance had he known about the teenager of course.

Perhaps that's the case in some states, but I'm not sure the law is the same in every state on attacking a person who is breaking and entering. In Virginia, you can harm a thief inside of your home without receiving charges, but outside the home on your property is just like anywhere else.

I do see your point. I just feel like this is one of those situations that proves the inefficacy of the legal system.

I forgot how the laws can vary from state to state.

 

[Metamorpho1977]

See, in Georgia, you find a guy in your daughter's bed, you don't call cops, you call the coroner.