'Distracted boyfriend' meme is sexist, says Swedish ad watchdog

[Lilbaz]

You lot never had a threesome?

 

[Flash525]

You lot never had a threesome?

I haven't, though if I'm being perfectly honest, the appeal has never quite ... appealed to me. It's hard enough trying please and understand one woman, but to try and please two at the same time? God, that'll be torture!

 

[Mandon Knight]

You lot never had a threesome?

I have a personal view or outlook that I would never have sex with someone I don't love and that it's the most personal 'exposure' of own's soul, one can give and receive and is an act of two people, no more. So that's a no. I don't do 'casual sex'.

 

[Lilbaz]

I have a personal view or outlook that I would never have sex with someone I don't love and that it's the most personal 'exposure' of own's soul, one can give and receive and is an act of two people, no more. So that's a no. I don't do 'casual sex'.

Good for you.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Good for you.

As in sarcasm or genuine 'nice one'.

 

[Lilbaz]

As in sarcasm or genuine 'nice one'.

Genuine. You live your life the way you want to.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Genuine. You live your life the way you want to.

 

[jmc]

It amazes me people continue to water down things like sexism.

 

[Pink Ranger]

To be honest, the whole thing of anonymous sex being great and that everybody wants it is kind of BS.

 

[Flash525]

To be honest, the whole thing of anonymous sex being great and that everybody wants it is kind of BS.

I think it's just another element of lad culture. It's not everyone's cup of tea for sure, but then I suppose it depends on ones sexual appetite; some people prefer relationships, and others prefer simply, fun, and in the case of the latter, there's little or no emotional connection there, it's just a means of shall we say, a release with company, be that an encounter with one other individual, or several.

It'll always ever be one person for me though, I'm kinda' of the same mindset as Mandon.

 

[Handsome Rob]

 

[Lily Adler]

I ****ing hate seeing Christmas and barely any Harvest or Halloween stuff.

 

[Teelie]

To be honest, the whole thing of anonymous sex being great and that everybody wants it is kind of BS.

I don't really get the appeal either. The way I see is if you have anonymous sex with someone it just opens way too many doors to potential problems and you can't really trust another person you meet just to have sex with them.

 

[Da-Scribe]

Eh, there's a difference between anonymous and non-committed. I'm not out her slangin' it for any young lady that smiles my way. We have to have some actual familiarity and trust between us. But I also don't feel the need to lock each other down. Maybe that'll change some day, but for now there's a definite emotional line that I draw.

 

[Lilbaz]

My advice for anyone in their late teens or early twenties. Use protection, be safe and shag anything that moves.

 

[Brutikus]

 

[Brutikus]

 

[Handsome Rob]

 

[chaseter]

To be honest, the whole thing of anonymous sex being great and that everybody wants it is kind of BS.

I don’t get one side of the aisle that preaches woman empowerment but then also supports sex work and stripping...an entire industry built on demeaning women and boiling down their value to what their body can offer a man. It’s truly stupefying...

 

[Mandon Knight]

I don’t get one side of the aisle that preaches woman empowerment but then also supports sex work and stripping...an entire industry built on demeaning women and boiling down their value to what their body can offer a man. It’s truly stupefying...

I don't 'get' pornography in any way, from a visual point of view nor from the participation 'angle' for those involved. I don't agree with it, for both genders, not just women. It depresses the hell out of me frankly. I don't access it, use it, watch it, require it or get 'anything from it' as such.

 

[Da-Scribe]

I don’t get one side of the aisle that preaches woman empowerment but then also supports sex work and stripping...an entire industry built on demeaning women and boiling down their value to what their body can offer a man. It’s truly stupefying...

I support women being able to choose what they do with their bodies and being allowed to work in environments that protect them. I believe that women can find empowerment in taking hold of their sexuality.

 

[chaseter]

I support women being able to choose what they do with their bodies and being allowed to work in environments that protect them. I believe that women can find empowerment in taking hold of their sexuality.

That’s fine if you support women choosing their own path but you can’t chastise men for valuing women for only their body when you are perpetuating an industry that is built on that. These women have nothing more to offer society than being a tool for a man to get off. That devalues women. Now we are within the Me Too movement and you are condoning men seeing women as a tool to fill their sexual appetite. A woman will never be equal to man that they sell their body to.

 

[Mach2Infinity]

You lot never had a threesome?

Speak for yourself. I'm sure most people been on their lonesome + Netflix + beer (stereotyping).

 

[Da-Scribe]

That’s fine if you support women choosing their own path but you can’t chastise men for valuing women for only their body when you are perpetuating an industry that is built on that. These women have nothing more to offer society than being a tool for a man to get off. That devalues women. Now we are within the Me Too movement and you are condoning men seeing women as a tool to fill their sexual appetite. A woman will never be equal to man that they sell their body to.

I don’t chastise men, at least not in those arenas. As that’s the agreement in those situations. A guy goes to stripclub for a specific experience and the strippers perform with that experience in mind. There’s mutual understanding.

It’s when that guy leaves the strip club and continues to be a trash bag to random women he encounters that I chastise him.

Also you’re making some bold claims about female worth and equality that I think are pretty ridiculous.

 

[Mach2Infinity]

The meme thing is trotting a stereotype perhaps but I don't really see the harm it's doing. We need to seperate what's actually harmful and what isn't. Problem these days is all types of behaviour which vary in severity are lumped in together. When Matt Damon dared (and rightfully) suggest that there's a scale of behaviour and that inappropriately touching someone's arse isn't the same as rape he got dragged for it. Similarly, we pander too much to manufactured outrage these days over things that whilst they fall under problematic behaviour do not warrant the same kind of 'reprimand' as other more serious abuses.

About the whole relationship v sex discussion. We have to accept there are a whole spectrum of personalities with their own needs and desires which of course varies between each individual. Being in a loving and committed relationship would be the ideal norm. But then you get couples that like to experiment with others and enjoy sexual encounters with strangers/acquaintances/friends. Some like to be polyamorous and enjoy having multiple partners. Others don't want to live within the 'confines' of a relationship and instead enjoy casual sex and manage to coast through life from one meaningless encounter to the next. I don't think that lifestyle can be sustained indefinitely of course but it's very much a hedonistic and live in the moment approach. All in all people are different and not every lifestyle will suit everyone, what matters most is that you're upfront and honest with people. Set expectations and don't lead them on. That's all you can reasonably do.

I do think many problems men have can stem from a lack of sexual experience/an inability to attract women but that's really another discussion entirely.