Anita18
DANCE FOR ME, FUNNY MAN!
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Truth is, your dad's an a-hole. No child deserves to hear from their parents. Ever.So, I was woken up to the wonderful news that my dad was divorcing my mom after damn near 40 years, and it led too my dad more or less telling me I was never his favorite, and that my love was "hollow" because I was not balling my eyes out like he wanted me too. So, with daddy issues right now, I'm a wreak. So here's how we're gonna do this: You guys and gals can talk about the issue of parents divorcing and the effects on the children etc.
Seriously though, I need a hug
(((HUGS)))
You won't automatically be like him. If you know what he did wrong, you can fix it in yourself. Acknowledging it is half the battle.Actually he told me to "shut up before I break your effing (not effing if you catch my drift) neck", I don't love him, etc., and now I'm just a bitter, broken young man. I doubt I will get married now, I don't want to be an abusive, sexist, racist, paranoid man like my father. In short, I think I'm done with everything but life.
A supportive partner will help you do that too.
I wish parents could just act like damn adults when they get divorced. I have a cousin (related through our mothers) who actually had to cut her mother off because she was being such a crazy beeeyotch in regards to custody. Even my mom admits that it was the father who did all the parenting. They've been fighting over the last 10 years over their youngest child, and the daughter sided with her dad over it and cut her mother off because of psychological abuse. Now I've lost two cousins and a fantastic uncle (seriously, I really miss him, he was super awesome) over this, because our family won't talk to theirs, because by blood, we're supposed to be loyal to her mom. I called BS and keep in touch with my cousin through Facebook. Seriously, eff family ties if they insist on doing stupid ****.
It doesn't have to be that way. My husband's parents got divorced when he was quite young, and his parents were always friends throughout. He gained another father when his mom remarried, and both his dad and stepdad were very important in his development. Everyone even gets together for Thanksgiving. His parents kept him a priority and didn't try to one-up each other. He has no animosity towards the experience at all. I credit all of them for raising my husband to be a trusting, supportive person, because I can easily see how things could have gone south with a divorce.
How old are you? If your parents won't support you emotionally during this time, you need to find someone who will. Even here is better than nothing. You deserve better than being an emotional punching bag in a relationship that's not your own.