Getting married, again, this Saturday... any advice?

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Well, "again" is tech. the correct term, but it's to the same girl.

Well, my wife, when we were engaged, "accidently" became pregnant. Well, after he was born, we wanted to do the quote on quote, right thing, and get married. So we just did the courthouse thing, and had a quick party at a restuarant with the fams.

Well, my wifes grandparents, who are awesome, respected our decission, but wanted us to have a propper wedding.

So, Saturday, we are getting remarried at a church, just a renewing on the vows type ordeal, then having a full on reception at a very nice hotel that afternoon.

Her grandparents gift to us, is the reception, which is the nicest thing anyone has ever done for us... I had no idea how much these things cost... between the DJ, flowers, decorations, food, drinks... freaking insane....

What we have going is open bar from 4:30 - 7:00pm w/ dinner starting at 5:45pm. We have a 7 course dinner planned, then instead of getting a wedding cake, we got many smaller ones, different kinds, because no one could aggree on 1 kind. We also have a great DJ, and drunk dinner starting at 9:30, pizza, wings, etc, to soak up some of the booze.

But we question is, considering this whole thing isn't cheap, and her grandparents are paying for this, how should we repay them? When I say repay, I don't mean repay the costs of the wedding, because even though I could have paid for it, they didn't want us too... they want this to be their gift to us.

I just want to do something nice for them in the coming months. Maybe take them on vacation? Buy them something for their house?? I really don't know, I mean, this is like a 20 grand gift to us, and I don't think a thank you card is proper enough "thank you"
 
first off, the best advice i have is to invite me! i love a good party and tend to bring the entertainment value up. :woot:

Go on a nice cruise with them. i'm sure they'd love that if you have the money of course. that way, everyone can enjoy themselves and you guys can continuously express your appreciation for the reception gift. you cant beat a decent cruise! i think i'll be setting one up soon! maybe a nice singles cruise.

congrats on the renewal by the way!:yay:
 
Jeez a 7 course meal!? That's crazy awesome lol
 
Jeez a 7 course meal!? That's crazy awesome lol


her granparents are from Germany, and I guess that means they like to eat, alot... hense the 7 course meal, and the second dinner that night...

we also have kegs on hand for after the open bar.... I know i'm spelling this wrong, but because their german, they wanted Hackershore??? That's some pretty strong stuff
 
The best way to repay them? Make this whole thing worth their time and effort. Be an awesome father to their great-grandchild and a wonderful husband to their granddaughter. Nothing will come close to showing your appreciation as to proving to them this was a sound investment.

But for an immediate gift a family vacation, is a great idea. Anytime they can spend with their granddaughter and great-grandson is precious to them I'm sure.
 
What they want is just your love in return. Show them each and every day how much they mean to you both by doing small things from the heart... a call everyday, a dinner, a visit, flowers and I am sure you can think of many more tiny love gifts, not material ones.
 
The best way to repay them? Make this whole thing worth their time and effort. Be an awesome father to their great-grandchild and a wonderful husband to their granddaughter. Nothing will come close to showing your appreciation as to proving to them this was a sound investment.

But for an immediate gift a family vacation, is a great idea. Anytime they can spend with their granddaughter and great-grandson is precious to them I'm sure.


the appreciation and love is a constant with me...

I was thinking a carribean cruise or something.... that would be fun....
 
the appreciation and love is a constant with me...

Not saying it wasn't. I'm with you on this is something hard to really repay and show gratitude for. The best you can do is just keep being a great person and member of their family.

I was thinking a carribean cruise or something.... that would be fun....
What would they like? Are they getting up their in age, or would they like something a bit more involved and active?
 
Well, "again" is tech. the correct term, but it's to the same girl.

Well, my wife, when we were engaged, "accidently" became pregnant. Well, after he was born, we wanted to do the quote on quote, right thing, and get married. So we just did the courthouse thing, and had a quick party at a restuarant with the fams.

Well, my wifes grandparents, who are awesome, respected our decission, but wanted us to have a propper wedding.

So, Saturday, we are getting remarried at a church, just a renewing on the vows type ordeal, then having a full on reception at a very nice hotel that afternoon.

Her grandparents gift to us, is the reception, which is the nicest thing anyone has ever done for us... I had no idea how much these things cost... between the DJ, flowers, decorations, food, drinks... freaking insane....

What we have going is open bar from 4:30 - 7:00pm w/ dinner starting at 5:45pm. We have a 7 course dinner planned, then instead of getting a wedding cake, we got many smaller ones, different kinds, because no one could aggree on 1 kind. We also have a great DJ, and drunk dinner starting at 9:30, pizza, wings, etc, to soak up some of the booze.

But we question is, considering this whole thing isn't cheap, and her grandparents are paying for this, how should we repay them? When I say repay, I don't mean repay the costs of the wedding, because even though I could have paid for it, they didn't want us too... they want this to be their gift to us.

I just want to do something nice for them in the coming months. Maybe take them on vacation? Buy them something for their house?? I really don't know, I mean, this is like a 20 grand gift to us, and I don't think a thank you card is proper enough "thank you"

You announced this marriage with your 666'th post. As of right now I cant see that as anything but a bad sign.
 
You announced this marriage with your 666'th post. As of right now I cant see that as anything but a bad sign.

No, he has 2 posts after that and 666 right now. The first post of this thread is his 664 at most.



I think having this whole ceremony and reception after being officially married is an enormous waste of money but it's not my money, so...

My advice is watch out for wedding crashers.
 
My advice? Don't waste the opportunity to have another bachelor party.
 
Well, "again" is tech. the correct term, but it's to the same girl.

Well, my wife, when we were engaged, "accidently" became pregnant. Well, after he was born, we wanted to do the quote on quote, right thing, and get married. So we just did the courthouse thing, and had a quick party at a restuarant with the fams.

Well, my wifes grandparents, who are awesome, respected our decission, but wanted us to have a propper wedding.

So, Saturday, we are getting remarried at a church, just a renewing on the vows type ordeal, then having a full on reception at a very nice hotel that afternoon.

Her grandparents gift to us, is the reception, which is the nicest thing anyone has ever done for us... I had no idea how much these things cost... between the DJ, flowers, decorations, food, drinks... freaking insane....

What we have going is open bar from 4:30 - 7:00pm w/ dinner starting at 5:45pm. We have a 7 course dinner planned, then instead of getting a wedding cake, we got many smaller ones, different kinds, because no one could aggree on 1 kind. We also have a great DJ, and drunk dinner starting at 9:30, pizza, wings, etc, to soak up some of the booze.

But we question is, considering this whole thing isn't cheap, and her grandparents are paying for this, how should we repay them? When I say repay, I don't mean repay the costs of the wedding, because even though I could have paid for it, they didn't want us too... they want this to be their gift to us.

I just want to do something nice for them in the coming months. Maybe take them on vacation? Buy them something for their house?? I really don't know, I mean, this is like a 20 grand gift to us, and I don't think a thank you card is proper enough "thank you"

I really don't think a monetary thank you works in this case. If they wanted to go on a cruise or something, they would've just done that. I think just make sure they get to see as much of their great-grandchild as much as possible. Make sure they continue to play an important role in the family, I think that's the best way to repay them. Show them your thanks in non-monetary ways. That or ask other married couples how they repaid/show'd apprecation for whoever paid for/helped pay for their wedding.
 
*peeps up with an idea*


I think a good thank you would be a big family vacation to Disneyworld or something of the like. It should be all of you there, that way you get vacation time with your family, and they get to have fun with their great-grand child. A good care free time with everybody together would be a great thank you.... at least that's what I think anyways :O
 
Will there be booze?

*edit - just read it all and there will be! See you there!
 
The best way to repay them? Make this whole thing worth their time and effort. Be an awesome father to their great-grandchild and a wonderful husband to their granddaughter. Nothing will come close to showing your appreciation as to proving to them this was a sound investment.

But for an immediate gift a family vacation, is a great idea. Anytime they can spend with their granddaughter and great-grandson is precious to them I'm sure.
I was going to say the same thing. The Best gift you can give them is a loving family and time with the grand kids. I would just make sure the kids know who they are. I never got to meet 3 of my 4 grand parents. Memories are the only things that ever really mean anything.
 
Congrats. Weddings are overpriced and generally a big hassle. I hope you enjoy it though.
 
My advice? Don't waste the opportunity to have another bachelor party.


most of my friends are lame... and the only "cool" friends I have, are actually gay... when I brought up if they were throwing me a bachlor party, my bud Jake said "I don't think you would like what we would throw you"...

we just went to a Brewers game, and tailgated, which was cool... no strippers though, boooo
 
Congrats. Weddings are overpriced and generally a big hassle. I hope you enjoy it though.

big hassle, not at all.... atleast for us... I guess we were lucky with everything because it was all handled for us

the hotel handled the food, table, decorations, drink and room arangments...

my father-inlaw handled the entertainment

my parents handled the flowers for the tables, and for the appropriate guests


two things happened that was bad, but they ended up being a wash on saturday...

of course, Katie was having trouble with her hair, so her and my sister were messing with it... but, because we thought the reception started at 4:00, I had to go down there to greet people. Well, turns out, the time was wrong, nothing opened till 4:30... so I invited the people who got their at 4, to come to the bar with me, bought a round for everyone of age.

so 4:30 comes around, and a good flow of people show up... turns out who ever did the invites, put the wrong adress on them (we should have looked at them better)... it only caused people to be a half hour late, but, the reception started later by a half hour... all worked out....
 

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