Daisy said:
Please tell me if I'm prying to much, but I find your views very interesting, so I'm curious about a couple more things.
You are prying but I dont mind. I have a unique outlook on it. I find a lot of people are interested when we start discussing it.
Daisy said:
I understand your desire to pass on your genes. Is it important for you to do it "naturally", or would you be willing to participate in non-traditional methods?
I would prefer to do it naturally mainly because of the simplicity of it but I am more than willing to entertain other options. Also I should point out that its not so much a desire to pass along my genes as it is a driving force in my life. My personal belief is that breeding is a vital part of a persons life. If I do nothing else of substance in my life, the one thing Im driven to accomplish is fathering a child. And as Ive mentioned before, my personal morals require that I actual be there and raise the child.
Daisy said:
By that, I mean. What if your wife had eggs, but couldn't seem to carry a child to term? Would you be willing to use a surrogate?
In this situation, yes.
Daisy said:
Or what if your wife's eggs turned out to be bad afterall, would you be willing to use donated eggs implanted in your wife? Or is it important that it is not only YOUR genes, but hers as well?
In this situation, no.
Now let me explain. The woman I choose to be my wife will be chosen for many reasons. One of which will be that I want her genes, as well as mine, to be passed along to my children. If I just wanted
my genes passed along, then I could donate to a sperm bank and hope or just knock up some girl and get custody of the child. I would want the woman to possess qualities and traits that I want my children to have in addition to what I shall pass along.
Therefore a surrogate, using my sperm and my wifes eggs would be fine. But eggs that were not my wifes, therefore would not be acceptable. The only way it
might be acceptable (and this is becoming more detached and emotionless than I really am about the subject) is if the eggs were donated by a close relative of my wife, her sister for example, because this would provide much of the genetic traits I am looking for and my wife and I would provide the environmental upbringing I am looking for. Though honestly I doubt that any eggs other than my wifes would be acceptable to me.
Daisy said:
Following that, what if a woman you loved wanted children, but was unable to have them, but wanted - like you - to have your children. Would you be willing to use both donated eggs and a surrogate? They would still be your children, just not hers... and you would still raise the children together.
I refer back to my previous statement. The eggs would have to be my wifes.
I would point out that you say what if a woman you loved thereby assuming that love would be the defining characteristic of the relationship which I dont necessarily agree with. While love is most definitely important, it is not necessarily the reason I would stay with a woman, there are many other factors to include. One of which, and possibly the most important of all to me, is bearing children.
Daisy said:
Like I said, I'm just curious... if it's too much, just tell me to butt out.
Feel free to ask more.
I would like to say though, that Im not really an emotionless jerk, hell-bent on breeding as this makes me sound. Typing on a message board doesnt really convey my convictions and passion about this subject as a real life discussion would.
), but when you start to get intimate with someone, it should come out.
