Hooking up with a co-worker - what are your opinions?

[Golgo-13]

I dated then ended up marrying my co-worker..so it'll work if it's meant to be.

 

[tzarinna]

Dated 6 guys I met through work, not all worked directly with me. One lasted a few years.

 

[Kelly]

I dated then ended up marrying my co-worker..so it'll work if it's meant to be.

Those that date and marry, like in your case.....for the most part have been fine working together.....but those that date and then break up....from what I've seen that hasn't worked to well.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Works as well as getting a pound of Jello into an empty toothpaste tube with a rake.

 

[tzarinna]

Dated 6 guys I met through work, not all worked directly with me. One lasted a few years.

BTW this was over a 10 - 12 year span, with different companies.

 

[KALEL114]

I dated then ended up marrying my co-worker..so it'll work if it's meant to be.

Same here. Worked for me.

 

[Kritish]

Go for it if you think you can.

 

[Halcohol]

Nell, I would say go for it. It's not you're planning on working at Hot Gossip for the rest of your life, right? So, instead of looking at the negative potential outcome, look at it as a chance to maybe find something great with this girl.

Optimism. I know you know how that works.

 

[Golgo-13]

With society the way it is nowdays; where's there's no to little time to date, and one's life revolves mainly around work..it's no wonder ppl are hooking up on the job, more and more.

 

[Frantik]

As long as you are both on equal footing then I don't think sexual harrassment can be an issue as neither of you has power in the work place. But if one of you is higher in position then it could be a problem. The main thing is if you get together and then breakup, can both of you handle it in a mature way. If either of you can't then it could be problamatic. I suggest openly discussing it at the start....or you could just go for it.

 

[Fanticon]

if its a strict place don't do it...but other than that go for it and don't talk about it, if it gets serious, one of youz gonna have to find a new job to keep it going, cuz it will get outta hand eventually, co-workers start talking, complaining, bosses get involved...wackness.

 

[Erzengel]

Lots of words.

You are working at Hot Topic. Date everyone in that place.

When you work in a more professional atmosphere, it's best to keep your dink out of the company ink.

But in some temporary job, go ask out the emo girl and don't worry about it.

 

[PLAS]

here's my advice:

go to work
work
meet and get to know your coworkers
work
work
punch the clock
leave

 

[Prognosticator]

Dating is FORBADE at my workplace! And there's a reason they do it (and there's always a ton of hot girls working in the company! ).

It's not wise at all. As a matter of fact, two company employees recently started dating in secret, but the girl (who managed a local store) became so jealous of the guy (working at corporate) because a third party coworker posted a pic of her & the guy on her myspace.

So now the original girl has BLOWN UP and gone psycho on him, her, and online! ...It's really ugly and stupid.



Now I'm glad they have that policy!

 

[jaguarr]

Ask jaguarr about the psycho he hooked up with at work.

Ugh. I'm not telling that story again. If someone wants to play with the Search function and see if they can find it, bully for them. Let's just say that none of the people posting in this thread advocating dating at work have a clue as to how bad things can potentially get if you happen to date a functional psychotic who's good at blending in with the normal people.

jag

 

[kane9321]

i dated a girl i worked with back in the day and it worked out fine

 

[Erzengel]

Ugh. I'm not telling that story again. If someone wants to play with the Search function and see if they can find it, bully for them. Let's just say that none of the people posting in this thread advocating dating at work have a clue as to how bad things can potentially get if you happen to date a functional psychotic who's good at blending in with the normal people.

jag

I remember your story jag, and yes while it was extremely problematic for you, and think it's possible in any working environment, I feel since he's working some retail job, even if things don't work out, I'm sure he can find a better place to work.

 

[jaguarr]

I remember your story jag, and yes while it was extremely problematic for you, and think it's possible in any working environment, I feel since he's working some retail job, even if things don't work out, I'm sure he can find a better place to work.

Then you'll recall that this psycho I was dating invented a story that I was stalking her and tried to file charges that would have gone on my permanent criminal record had she been successful. That could impede anyone's employment attempts, regardless of whether they're working retail or in a corporate environment like I do. In fact, I'd be more inclined to think these sorts of stories would get invented in a retail environment where the girls are less mature, to be honest. So, it's not just about whether you can just go and get a job somewhere else. It's about what the psycho you're dating at work can potentially do to you if things go south for whatever reason. I've heard of instances of guys getting false assault or rape charges filed against them by coworkers they had dated. I've heard of instances where women have had their houses broken into by a jilted coworker they broke things off with. And a lot worse.

jag

 

[Erzengel]

But now we can get into the arguement of you can find just a crazy a person anywhere besides just where you work. The apartment complex you live in, the gym you work at, etc. Is it at all possible? Yes. However, I'm still of the opinion that yeah it would suck, but it's just a temp job.

 

[jaguarr]

But now we can get into the arguement of you can find just a crazy a person anywhere besides just where you work. The apartment complex you live in, the gym you work at, etc. Is it at all possible? Yes. However, I'm still of the opinion that yeah it would suck, but it's just a temp job.

Yes, but a crazy person who works with you can compound the situation by turning things into a stalking on the job or sexual harassment charge, which could make it more difficult for you to find future employment. That's the big difference.

jag

 

[Erzengel]

Yes, but a crazy person who works with you can compound the situation by turning things into a stalking on the job or sexual harassment charge, which could make it more difficult for you to find future employment. That's the big difference.

jag

I'm not disagreeing that's it's not possible but for someone working at a "Hot Topic", ordinarily I don't think much will come of it.

 

[jaguarr]

I'm not disagreeing that's it's not possible but for someone working at a "Hot Topic", ordinarily I don't think much will come of it.

I've heard enough horror stories (including my own), even from people working in retail, that I'm comfortable enough in saying that it's just not that great of an idea to sh1t where you eat.

jag

 

[Darthphere]

I've heard enough horror stories (including my own), even from people working in retail, that I'm comfortable enough in saying that it's just not that great of an idea to sh1t where you eat.

jag

Indeed. Most relationships fail. You're going to go through many a hood rat before you find the one. I just couldn't imagine the tension at the workplace if I hooked up with someone there.

 

[Erzengel]

I've heard enough horror stories (including my own), even from people working in retail, that I'm comfortable enough in saying that it's just not that great of an idea to sh1t where you eat.

jag

I worked in a video store for 4 years, and pursued a few girls I've worked with. *shrug*

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

here's my advice:

go to work
work
meet and get to know your coworkers
work
work
punch the clock
leave

But th^t's a euphemism....."punch the clock". Get it?