How To Quit Drinking?

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  1. the last son Registered

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    I've been drinking heavy for years. I'm tired of it. AA never really seems to work for me. Has anyone else been addicted to drinking and got over it. I try to work out from time to time to get my mind off of drinking. Thanks in advance.
     
  2. JStorm Arkham

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    My father gave up drinking about ten years ago. He, also, had no luck with AA, as he saw it a waste of time and didn't like opening up to strangers. With that said, AA isn't for everyone, yet is a great program.

    My dad made a strong effort to realize his strengths and weaknesses, looking to the future, while taking each day - one step at a time.

    He worked out and went on long walks, whenever he felt the urge to drink. He, also, understood that he was stronger than the bottle and needed to remind himself, hourly, that the end result was much better than giving in to one night of being drunk.

    Find a hobbie - working out is a good one - and stick to it. Look for something to do with your hands, indicative of a smoker, you need to realize that part of your habit is having a cold beverage in your hands, drinking liquid and such. I believe this is why we see AA goers always drinking coffee - they may have that need I speak of.
     
  3. KevanG Pragmatic Villain

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    I helped a friend of mine quit drinking after his GF left him and his son. I smacked him around a lot when he wouldn't stop drinking, he cleared up in a few months.

    You have anyone who will do that for you?
     
  4. terry78 My name is Stefan, sweet thang

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    I rarely drink, but from dudes I've known it's one of those things you have to do cold turkey, withdrawal or not. How you condition yourself is up to you.
     
  5. Piper Maru Guest

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    I used to binge drink with my friends every weekend. I'd start at a friends house and we drink significant amount of alcohol. Then we would head out to a pub or whatever and drink some more. I stopped drinking because I ended up damaging my liver. I was able to stop drinking by submerging myself in my interests. It's very rare that I drink alcohol these days, and if I do it'll be a beer or two and that's it.
     
  6. The Infernal Mky Mk

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    I think if it's not something you can manage on your own (like cold turkey) then perhaps you should consider organisations that will help. Though you've said you don't think AA is for you perhaps it's worth going back and giving them another try, I expect many members will have left it to only come back and then get more out of it. However I would maybe suggest trying other places for counseling as well, you may find them better suited to you.

    Also, it's probably good to take a look at why you're drinking and your lifestyle at the moment. Like others have said, filling up that time with a hobby or new interest can help, perhaps you need to re-evaluate how you spend your time in general or who you hang out with.

    Those are just some ideas I think may help since I don't really know your situation or what you're going through.
     
  7. Midnyte_Sun Medianoche de Sol

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    One of my friends quit by keeping himself super busy and finding new friends who weren't enablers.
     
  8. Darthphere Kneel before 'Drox!

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    I remember when my dad stopped drinking, he just stopped one day to the next. I don't know how he did it honestly. I just remember him just stopping.
     
  9. Spider-X Big damn hero

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    Alcohol abuse always seemed odd to me because, to me (though I have no background with booze addiction...I drink kinda heavily some weekends, some I drink lightly, some not at all...I've never had a problem moderating myself), it seems like one of those things where it's not really addictive, you just need to stop lifting bottles/cans to you're mouth...no one is forcing you to consume it. It's a behavior you are choosing to continue.

    Also...thinking logically...alcohol abuse, for people who actually want to quite and it's not just drinking too much for fun, it almost always appears to be a form of self medication. If you don't fix the underlying issue (via deep critical thinking, getting therapy, getting yourself away from bad people/enablers, etc.), then you'll probably fall into another unhealthy addiction if you rid yourself of alcohol.

    I don't mean to be harsh here...that's just honestly how I see it. Feel free to correct me here (like I even needed to say that at these forums...).
     
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  10. Mike_D202 Green Lantern's roommate

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    I've been taking it easy the last few weeks by reminding myself that even though drinking relieves stress after a long work week, the hangover ain't worth it lol. Not only does it make me feel like crap, but my anxiety and depression go through the roof for a few days until my body recovers. Not a very good feeling just to enjoy a few hours of being drunk.
     
  11. Lighthouse Fairness, Equality, Bacon

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    I've found that drinking heavily often(though not always) results from a hole in ones life. Depression over something that is unfulfilled(bad relationship, bad job, marriage problems, family problems etc...) If this is the case, I have two ideas that I think could be helpful.

    1. Get some kind of routine going. Plan out your days ahead. Wake up at a certain time everyday, make a schedule, a to-do list, and do it. It may seem silly and simple, but it gives you a feeling of control and structure in your life which really helps if it's not there.

    2. Talk to a therapist. I know it seems obvious, but getting mental health care is just as important as physical health care. It sometimes takes over a month to see results, but it can make a HUGE difference.
     
  12. Maximus One Eklypze Is Dead

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    This is exactly how it is for me. I LOVE drinking. Just everything about it honestly but it just feels like it totally wrecks my body. I am just completely useless the next day after a night of hard drinking. Although, even though I crave alcohol every day I rarely give in to those urges to drink all the time. I have a bottle of Smirnoff in my freezer right now and keep wanting to go make myself a nice white russian or bloody mary but if I drink one chances are I'll want another one and another one and then I pay dearly for it. The best thing to do is just to keep busy however you can. For me, I've recently started reading and collecting comics for the first time in years and have really thrown myself into it and I try to get up and be active as much as I can. You just have to remember to ask yourself, is that drink really that important? All I know is I never want to get to the point where I am physically dependent on alcohol. Alcohol withdrawal ain't nothing to **** around with. That **** can straight up kill you if you're not careful
     
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    Thanks, everyone for your words. Like, some of you on here after one night of drinking I'm done for the whole next day. Just a lot of withdrawl and breathing problems. My last drink was Saturday and still recovering. I'm making a lot of phone calls to try and find some free hobbies to prevent a breakdown this weekend. Like, someone said I need to look back at why I drink. I have to accept my flaws and personality and move on. Thanks again.
     
  14. Maximus One Eklypze Is Dead

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    That's the hardest part of the battle bro. As somebody who has had multiple addictions and battled it since I was 13 years old I know exactly how it is bro and how bars it is to stop. But they're right, you'll never fully quit until you understand and address the reasons you drink or use drugs in the first place. I'm not gonna lie, I'm not done drinking by any means. I LOVE drinking and every now and then I push it a little far but for the most part I handle my **** quite well. I always had more of a problem with weed and pain killers. Sure drinking is no better but I am the type of person who can turn down drinking just because I know what it leads to. Now if I am in the mood to go out and have fun with friends then I am fully prepared to accept the consequences and deal with them the next day. That being said, just, good luck man. I know how hard it is all too well, I've quit smoking weed for the first time in over 4 years here recently (among other things) and I'll be the first to tell you, it's like losing a best friend. Giving up something you are so used to having in your life, the emotional process is identical to the grief process and it's ****ing rough bro. But you got this, just remind yourself of that. You got this and just breathe, everything will be cool.
     
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    Weed, was never my thing. I seem to do everything in large amounts and once you smoke so much it was useless to keep going. I quit weed pretty easily. I've been a drunk for my entire adult life. I'm just now trying to see what life would be like not drinking. I'm not able to take care of things and it goes back to my drinking. Losing relationships and ruining chances of new ones. It's been about 5 years of drinking and 4 of HEAVY drinking, it's time to end. If my body wasn't so tired of it I'd drink forever but it's time to end and experience life sober. Have not been sober for more than 2 months since I started. But, I have plans at the library this friday and am going to try to do that. One day at a time.
     
  16. Maximus One Eklypze Is Dead

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    Good luck bro. Just be careful because I said before alcohol withdrawal is BRUTAL. I've withdrawn from multiple substances multiple times but I've never has to go through alcohol withdrawal. From what I've read benzodiazepine (Xanax, klonopin etc) withdrawal is almost exactly the same as alcohol and those are insanely brutal. Just as I said before man, whenever you start getting anxious just remember everything will be cool and take a deep breath.
     
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    I drank heavily for 24 years. At the end of it, I was a round-the-clock binge drinker who had lost everything: health, youth, money, friends. Regardless of what anyone says, an alcoholic drinks because he can't help himself. Those who think that it's simply a choice you're making - whether to raise a glass to your mouth or not - are those who have no experience with the paralyzing, hypnotic hold that drinking has on someone who is genetically predisposed to alcoholism. Advice along the lines of "just choose not to do it" is utterly unhelpful, and frankly it's just a roundabout way for another person to pay himself a compliment. Avoid these people at all cost.

    The day I finally quit drinking was like so many others. I had finished vomiting, then had to sit on the toilet to do my business. What was left in the bowl was stool and a great deal of blood. This wasn't the first time that the toilet water was deep red. I laid down on the cold bathroom tile to get some relief from the pain and started to cry. I was a wasted shell, albeit a bloated one, and I wanted to die. I wasn't brave enough to kill myself, but I wanted my life to be over, nonetheless.

    As I lay there without any idea as to how on earth I was going to step off this express elevator to Hell, I decided out of the blue to ask God to help me. Now, understand, I had very little religious background and my faith was basically zero at that point. But yet - and I don't know where this came from - I asked God to help me. Truthfully, I had asked Him for help before, but I just hadn't listened. And that's why, for me, I received no guidance and no answer. This time I just remained still, not even realizing I was doing it. In the next second, I heard - very clearly - a voice that said "If you don't stop this, you will die." My eyes popped open and my ragged breathing stopped. I can't describe what it was like, except to state emphatically that this thing I heard in my head was utterly different than my own thoughts. It kept echoing, and I kept turning the phrase over in my head. What if I did die? Isn't that what I wanted? But no, it turned out that it wasn't at all what I wanted to do.

    I stood up and wiped my face, still thinking about what had just happened. Little did I know that I had begun, in that very moment, to heal. That was four years ago. In the ensuing days, months and years, I realized that the desire to drink had been completely removed from me. I mean gone. I don't know how it happened, but that experience was proof enough for me that God existed. Never before had organized religion or the Bible convinced me that God was real. In fact, they only confused and polluted everything about Him. Even now I can't define who/what God is. I'm not sure that anyone can. All I can tell you is that I called out, I listened, and He answered.

    So, that is my advice to you. I can't convince you to believe, and I wouldn't dream of telling you which religion to subscribe to or what to read. But I'll respectfully make this suggestion: ask God to help you, then listen and pay attention to what happens after that. I can't promise that the answer will be instantaneous, but leave your mind open to things that will happen that are specific and personal to YOU. And then leave room for Him to get in. It worked for me and changed my life. I truly hope it will do the same for you. Best of luck.
     
  18. Maximus One Eklypze Is Dead

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    While I agree with you about people saying "just choose not to do it" and I am in no way trying to trivialize or dismiss your experience in any way. It just sounds like you found that resolve and clarity within yourself to truly be honest and do what you had to do to survive. I've gotten sober, relapsed, quit, relapsed again and quit again. Every time I've done it, and it is ****ing hell EVERY single time, it's been due to my determination and willpower and desire to change. Every time I've ever relapsed it's been a result of a number of things building up over time until in a moment of weakness something breaks the camels back and I backslide back into old habits. Nothing about addiction or recovery is easy and people like us just have to have that one single moment of true honesty and clarity with ourselves and finally decide "Do I truly want to change or do I want to die?" Now, I know I've said I still drink and don't plan on stopping drinking anytime soon but as I've said, I'm the type of person who can have a bottle sitting in the fridge for a month without touching it. Regular people can drink and not have it be a problem and I feel that I am a strong enough person that if they can, I can too. When it really gets down to it it is about willpower and determination but it's also about surrender and realizing that if you keep doing what you do day in and day out you are going to die.
     
  19. chamber-music Infinity Ammo

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    I've been in social and work situations in which people have tried to peer preassure me in to drinking when I have not wanted to which was weird.

    I don't judge or care if people drink alcohol or not and when I've turned down drinks a few times the reaction I've gotten has verged from some people thinking your either hardcore religious, boring, pious, a light weight, ect all because I don't feel like drinking at that time.
     
  20. Maximus One Eklypze Is Dead

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    Oh yea, I've been through that countless times. I just straight up tell them "I don't want a ****ing drink. Get the hell over it or don't talk to me." It usually shuts them up pretty quick. I'm the kind of person who has to be in the mood to drink anyways. If I'm not in the mood then trying to pressure me into is simply futile. Wish I was like that when I was a teenager though lol
     
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    Well I got crazy stupid drunk last night off a fifth of jack daniels. Harrased a woman I don't even know through the phone, Threatened by cop reports over and over. Started a facebook page whcih I hate and sent me ex's my new number, ugh. I think I'm going to attend AA, today
     
  22. Midnyte_Sun Medianoche de Sol

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    Good luck man...glad you're not giving up.
     

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