Hugging?

[BillyZaned]

Okay... one thing that I just don't get, and has always made me feel a little "akward" is hugging.... now, I don't mean like hugging your dad, child, or sig. other, that's fine... it's this whole younger culture that seems to like to hug, or touch bodies as a gesture of "hello" or "goodbye".

Whatever happened to the handshake? Or a quick wave of "hello" with the hand?

Why is it, then when I see someone I know at a bar, they have to grab my hand, pull my in, but our chests together, and slap each other on the back? Or, when I meet a girl for the first time, when we say our goodbyes, we have to hug?

I got the wierdest looks the other night, when I met some of my friends "other" friends, and when I left, one of the girls tried to give me a hug, and I took a step back... everyone basically had this "what's his problem" look on their face... I even said "I'm not a hugger" to which she said "I am" and then pulled me in for a hug?

Maybe I'm just strange, but I just getted wierded out be this..... but hey, atleast the fist bump seems to be fading out.... lol...

 

[Metamorpho1977]

Get over your agoraphobia and give the girl a hug.

 

[david icke]

Yeah, i kind of know what you mean, i have shook someone's hand and then they have went in for a hug, and i have not entirely picked up on it and gave a half assed hug, not meaning any offence, not sure what kind of hug is required, a pat on the back with a little shoulder touching, or full on compression, lol. If you are not expecting it it can throw you off and you don't mean to offend anybody, but i can be an awkward walkward when appraoching for these kind of things a lot, esp when sober, when i would be drunk it would be no problem at all, lol, I'd hug, pat on the head, shake hands, give fives, and probably go overboard with the whole thing with someone who had only held the gents door open for me.
Oh well, i will try to remedy that.

 

[BillyZaned]

I think I'm more old schooled.... if I tried to give my dad a hug, he's probably punch me... lol...

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I'm okay with giving girls a hug, but not guys, that's just weird.

 

[POWdER-man]

Heh, I am the same way. For the most part I put up with it even though I dislike doing it. It's my personal space and I don't like anyone I don't really know to invade it. I dislike being touched, especially around the neck, by anyone I don't really know. Someone tried to massage me around the neck once from behind without me noticing her first and I almost took a swing at her as an instinct. I think in my personal situation it is about trust and comfort with that person.

Its unfortunate, but in those cases you just have to suck it up and go with it. Otherwise you are going to get people who feel you are rejecting/offending them.

 

[Downhere]

I think you weren't hugged enough as a child... Personally, I have no problem with hugs, what I do have a problem with are close talkers. Like in that one Seinfeld episode, where the guy is like an inch away from your face. Now that is an invasion of personal space.

 

[Downhere]

Edit - Double Post (Sorry)

 

[chamber-music]

I'm not really a hugger either. Atleast when I hug someone its someone I knew a little well.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm going to hug the crap out of you until you stop moving.

 

[chamber-music]

I think you weren't hugged enough as a child... Personally, I have no problem with hugs, what I do have a problem with are close talkers. Like in that one Seinfeld episode, where the guy is like an inch away from your face. Now that is an invasion of personal space.

I have a friend who does that. His a sprayer as well (he spits a little when he talks sometimes). Yeah getting in your face ans spraying your saliva is not cool

 

[Eggyman]

I love touching, hugging, and licking. A staple of my extremely twisted diet.

 

[BillyZaned]

yeah this guy at the gym, funnily enough, named Jim... is a close talker.....

one time, he's talking to me, and I'm slowly taking tinny steps back because I swear this guy is almost kissing me..... by the time the convo was over, we were about 8 feet back from where we started talking...

 

[Erzengel]

In general, I don't like being touched barring close friends and family. I don't like strangers touching me or getting into my personal space. Unless they are somewhat attractive, then I don't mind.

 

[Eggyman]

In general, I don't like being touched barring close friends and family. I don't like strangers touching me or getting into my personal space. Unless they are somewhat attractive, then I don't mind.

 

[david icke]

Something that makes it far easier is if the person/s say 'Let's hug/group hug', then you knw what's going on and can get into the hug. whereas if it's someone you don't really kinow, you are not used to their way and only go by your own, which for me has usually been a handshake, so if a hug is thrown in you are not sure if it's being initiated, and don't want to intrude on that person's space too much.
What will probably happen next time i see any person that i have half assed hugged and offended is that i will go in for a big hug next time and they will be going for the handshake that time, lol.
But, probably better to go in for a hug when you are not sure about personal space, than not to. What's the worst that could happen if you are wrong about the hug or intrude on personal space? they think you are going in for a homosexual feel up or that you are picking their pocket. Mainly talking about awkward ones with guys here, women are more huggy generally i find, so that is more expected, and of course more welcome lol.

 

[YoungE808]

yeah this guy at the gym, funnily enough, named Jim... is a close talker.....

one time, he's talking to me, and I'm slowly taking tinny steps back because I swear this guy is almost kissing me..... by the time the convo was over, we were about 8 feet back from where we started talking...

LMAO. Yeah I usually go for the standard handshake but find myself having to adjust quickly to the following hug, backslap, and then the actual handshaking part. Afterwards I usually think, did I really go through that just to say hi...?

 

[BillyZaned]

I don't mind the manly handshake though.... the hands grasped... wrist in other hand type.....

 

[Erzengel]

That brings us to one of my pet peeves.

Shake my hand like a man, not like you are going to kiss it.

 

[Watson]

But also don't try to break the other person's hand. That's the worst.

 

[BillyZaned]

But also don't try to break the other person's hand. That's the worst.

like my ****ing loser ass second cousin... this *******, who know owns a family business my great grandfather started, he did nothing to help it, is doing nothing to help it now, and is just sitting back, cashing the profits while my family legacy goes down the drain... god I want to ****ing kill him...

but nonetheless.... when I started there, he came up to me, and shook my hand as hard as he could... not wanting to do it back, since he's the boss, I just pulled it away, to which he laughed and walked away....

the last x-mas party before I quit... he comes up to me, shakes my hand, and tries to do it again, but this time I squeezed the hell out of his hand instead... he pulled it away this time in pain... I said "now you know how it feels" and walked away...

 

[SapphirePrima]

I don't like being hugged by people I only associate with. And then when people only half hug me and they initiated the hug. If you're going to hug me then go all the way. It makes it awkward.

 

[chamber-music]

Someone needs to write a hugging etiquette book

 

[Timstuff]

2x post

 

[Timstuff]

Gimme dat Christian side hug!