well i can't quote your entire post, because of how i formatted it, but i will respond to it anyways.
the point is this - music imitates life, not the other way around.
Kids imitate musicians, look at all the Youtube vidoes sympathizing for Britney Spears. Music is art and it reflects life...but it is also a source of many people's identity. IF people see their family, friends listening to music, they will listen to it too and absorb their messages.
there have been womanizing, drug dealing, gang banging people long before rap music ever came around. and even if you censor all of that stuff, and ban it, and it is never made or heard again, it is still going to exist. rap music has no impact what so ever on the fact that all of that stuff exists and happens in the world.
the "problem" with rap music is not that it says "*****" and "****" and "*****" and "hoe", it's the fact that rap music talks about stuff that's already going on in the world, that people want to be blind to.
you can talk about how nelly degrades women in his music videos all you want. but you are a male, correct? have you ever gone to a strip club? have you ever viewed pornography? or a playboy magazine? or forget all of that even - have you ever seen an attractive woman, and thought to yourself about how she had nice breasts, or a nice ass, or nice legs?
So we should promote pornography and sexual degredation of black women in videos because "we're all men." You don't think that has any consequences on how black women are viewed in the media. Do you understand how that music video . Women at one of the female HBCU (either Clark Atlanta or Spelman) protested Nelly's visit and he was visiting on a charitable basis...because of that music video. Yes, you can notice a woman, find her features attractive....but there is a difference between Nelly's "Tip Drill", which is sexual exploitation, and Marvin Gaye's "Sexual Healing", which yes, he talks about sex but in the context of respecting the woman or wooing the woman.
the music that talks about that stuff is just speaking out on what REALLY goes on in the world. and because you are a guy, who likes women, half naked women, or fully naked women, or what have you, does not mean you are degrading women, and don't respect them. you CAN call a woman a hoe, and still respect women. because some women ARE hoes. and some women DON'T deserve that respect. but just because i think ONE woman is a hoe, doesn't mean that i think that all women are hoes, and that i don't respect women. trust me, what i see in music videos has no influence what so ever on how i treat women. a woman is a person, not an object, and while as a male, i may love all the physical things that come from women, i also know that they are more than just a piece of meat for my sexual enjoyment. and just because i listen to a rapper talk about a hoe in his song doesn't mean i'm all of a sudden going to fall into some trap where i start disrespecting women.
No, you should never called women "hoes". Period.
take out all the rap music in the world, and drug dealing will still exist. gang banging will still exist. abuse towards women will still exist. poverty will still exist. murder will still exist.
Of course those things will exist and have always existed. That is no excuse for lazy rappers to continue to promote the lifestyle in their music, which they do for corporate profit. Lot of these rappers don't even see the environment they live in anymore and continue to promote it, pretend that they live it, portray it like an actor. They create the image that this is what you should desire to be.
these things are a part of our world, whether we like it or not. but, instead of living in a bubble and pretending everything is fine and there are no problems in the world, rap artists talk about the world that they live in, and the world that they come from. and while yes, there is a sense of negativity in the lyrics of rap music, most of the negative comes from pure entertainment. but the real quest of these artists is to send a message that things DO need to change, and that while this is the way the world is, there needs to be another way. and that is why, yes, those songs from 2pac, or bone thugs, or whoever, are enough to balance out the negative songs by these artists. because these POSITIVE songs are what the artists are truly trying to say in their music.
just because you say you are black doesn't make you some kind of expert on the message behind rap music. you obviously DO just skim through it, and don't pay attention to the music, and the lyrics, and the message.
i'm not saying rap music has -no- influence. but it is also not some kind of venom, poisoning the minds of black youth. the truth lies somewhere in the middle. and that middle is that these things that rap music depicts would happen whether or not rap music spoke on these topics. rap music didn't make these things happen. what rap music does, is speak on subjects that actually exist in this world, subjects that these artists have experienced 1st hand in their own lives. this is what they know. so through their music, their art (and yes, it IS art, whether you like it or not), they express those experiences. artists of ALL eras speak out on their experiences, and what they know, and what they feel and believe. this is hip hop's version of that, and it is no more corrupting than anything else in entertainment. because while music and entertainment DOES have it's impact and influence, it is an influence that can easily be swayed by a little something called "parenting", something that people don't seem to understand the concept of anymore.
Whatever your percentages are makes no difference. It doesn't change the negative effects sent by the lyrics and images. and one kid lost is one too many! 
so, then black people that listen to rap will instinctively become exactly like the characters that rappers play?
About BET, you can see the obvious change in it's programming since Viacom bought it. It has become the black version of MTV, except slightly worse, if that's possible!
