My life is pointless!

[spiderman2]

I don't know what I am supposed to do. I work a job I hate cant find a new job no matter how much I try yet other people try way less and get a new job. My boss wont movie me up and I cant stand her. Just stuck and fell hopeless and worthless. I need to movie up but I cant and I cant find a new job either. I just don't know what to do any more. I don't know why I am alive and what the point is for me to be alive any more. I guess I am just alive so I can streghts out all the time has all I do is work and streghts out. Fell like even god doesn't like me or something. I wish I was dead. My life has no purpose at all. I am 25 no GF never been out on a date only have a few friends. Fell like if I died right now no one outside of my family would even care. Life is just pointless and I should just end it now. I have nothing to live for and I just keep getting older and older and nothing ever changes. Yes I am only 25 but I fell much older because all my life is woreing about crap. What's the point any more!

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Well, I hope you cheer up and gain some perspective. You have problems, but they're pretty minor compared to other people I know. The stuff you're saying about 'wishing you were dead' is worrisome.

People who got their legs blown off in the Boston Marathon found reason to live. People who have lost their entire families in car accidents found reason to live. If they can do it, you can do it. The first step is not to wallow in self-pity, but start believing in yourself and addressing the problems with positive actions that'll change things for the better, instead of just dwelling on it.

 

[spiderman2]

Well, I hope you cheer up and gain some perspective. You have problems, but they're pretty minor compared to other people I know. The stuff you're saying about 'wishing you were dead' is worrisome.

People who got their legs blown off in the Boston Marathon found reason to live. People who have lost their entire families in car accidents found reason to live. If they can do it, you can do it. The first step is not to wallow in self-pity, but start believing in yourself and addressing the problems with positive actions that'll change things for the better, instead of just dwelling on it.

While I just have a lot of frustration that has been building up inside and I am only humorn so trying to hold ever thing in is really hard and I just wore about how am I going to ever support my self. Yes I am only 25 but I just fell like nothing is ever going to change. Just tried of putting effert in things with no results. Yes I am 25 but I am still at home and I fell like before I know it I am going to be 30,35, 40 ect and ever thing is still going to be the same. I don't want to became homeless. Its making me question god to witch I don't like and I fell like the only thing keeping me going is god but even then I fell like ever thing is making me question him and I hate to question god witch makes me fell bad to.

 

[BatmanVSuperman]

All life is pointless. You just have to find the things that you enjoy to get you through.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

While I just have a lot of frustration that has been building up inside and I am only humorn so trying to hold ever thing in is really hard and I just wore about how am I going to ever support my self. Yes I am only 25 but I just fell like nothing is ever going to change. Just tried of putting effert in things with no results. Yes I am 25 but I am still at home and I fell like before I know it I am going to be 30,35, 40 ect and ever thing is still going to be the same. I don't want to became homeless. Its making me question god to witch I don't like and I fell like the only thing keeping me going is god but even then I fell like ever thing is making me question him and I hate to question god witch makes me fell bad to.

I'm not going to validate your pity for you. Me comforting on a message-board will only make you feel better momentarily. Making REAL positive changes in your life will steer yourself in a positive direction for good. Don't like your job? Quit it, and look for something else. Don't like your job options? Do an online masters or certification course. Frustrated you're not getting dates? Work out, eat better, join a dating site, and perhaps lower your standards. Problems with your church and faith? Talk to a priest.

You say you've done everything, but I highly doubt it. I think you're scared of change but you also hate where you are in life. Well, time to choose; make some bold changes for the better, or continue on your current path. But people saying "there, there" in this thread won't make things better in the long run. It's up to YOU to enact positive change.

 

[Mad Ones]

All I can say is that things can stay the same for a long time but things can also drastically change in ways you'd never expect, for the better.

 

[Victarion]

Grit your teeth, dig in and change it. See a specialist or something. They can do more for you than we can.

 

[BatmanVSuperman]

Or for the worse. So get your favorite shows, favorite movies, favorite foods, and take time to escape our cheese like existence

 

[spiderman2]

I'm not going to validate your pity for you. Me comforting on a message-board will only make you feel better momentarily. Making REAL positive changes in your life will steer yourself in a positive direction for good. Don't like your job? Quit it, and look for something else. Don't like your job options? Do an online masters or certification course. Frustrated you're not getting dates? Work out, eat better, join a dating site, and perhaps lower your standards. Problems with your church and faith? Talk to a priest.

You say you've done everything, but I highly doubt it. I think you're scared of change but you also hate where you are in life. Well, time to choose; make some bold changes for the better, or continue on your current path. But people saying "there, there" in this thread won't make things better in the long run. It's up to YOU to enact positive change.

While I have spent a lot of time trying to find a new job but I just get the same crap over and over again about how we are not highering come back later. I don't even now where to appliy at any more and I am tried of trying
fell like all my time is spent on that with no results. When it comes to dating and standers I am just not good with people and with woman it is ever harder. I am a shy guy but I am trying to get out more so I can at least meat more people and I have tried online dating but like 99% don't respond and when they do its one message and then I don't hear back any more. I am trying to lose weight not just because of say woman but I have hart burn problems because I am around 30LBS over weight. It just fells like even the smallest things are never as easy has they should be. Ever thing has to be harder then it should be.

 

[BatmanVSuperman]

Eat healthy and with smaller meals, exercise. Change your life. Only you can.

 

[spiderman2]

All I can say is that things can stay the same for a long time but things can also drastically change in ways you'd never expect, for the better.

Can only hope just don't see much light and its like just when it looks like things might be starting to get better and I start to fell a little more hopefully then something happens just to disappoint me.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

While I have spent a lot of time trying to find a new job but I just get the same crap over and over again about how we are not highering come back later. I don't even now where to appliy at any more and I am tried of trying
fell like all my time is spent on that with no results.

Do a Masters. If you can't afford that, do an online Masters. If you can't afford that, take a certification course in your field. It will provide more job options in the long run.

When it comes to dating and standers I am just not good with people and with woman it is ever harder. I am a shy guy but I am trying to get out more so I can at least meat more people and I have tried online dating but like 99% don't respond and when they do its one message and then I don't hear back any more. I am trying to lose weight not just because of say woman but I have hart burn problems because I am around 30LBS over weight. It just fells like even the smallest things are never as easy has they should be. Ever thing has to be harder then it should be.

Dude, being 30lbs overweight is not a big deal. You could shed that in six months with a good diet and exercise. As for your shyness, see a shrink and get a prescription for anti-anxiety medication.

 

[BatmanVSuperman]

Prescription meds don't have to be part of the answer Once you are in a habit of being healthy in various ways, it makes you feel better and changes your mental outlook as well.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

That is also true.

Depends on the person though. Some have debilitating social anxiety. If it's mild, he should try to handle it without meds though.

 

[ThePreface]

Get out of your comfort zone until that becomes your comfort zone. And read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. F*** everybody else and what they think and what they're doing, because if you do that instead of worrying about your own business your entire life will pass you by without you getting to experience it. And women... they're complicated creatures. If you feel like one is starting to give you too much trouble move on to another one. And exercise until it becomes habitual. Exercise and a healthy diet does wonders for mental well being.

 

[spiderman2]

Do a Masters. If you can't afford that, do an online Masters. If you can't afford that, take a certification course in your field. It will provide more job options in the long run.


While I just am not sure what in the heck I would go to school for.


Dude, being 30lbs overweight is not a big deal. You could shed that in six months with a good diet and exercise. As for your shyness, see a shrink and get a prescription for anti-anxiety medication.

While I am not saying that being about 30lbs is the worst thing. Its just for my height I am not supposed to be more then like 180-185 and I am around 210 and a while back I was at 232 my hevist and then I got down to like 195 but then I gained some of it back and I got to like 215. My goal at the begging of the year was to get to lose 20lbs as I was at 213 so losing 20 would get me to 193 back to around what I was at before I gained some of it back. So far I have only lost like 2-3 lbs this year so I am like 211-210. When it comes to the shyness I am better then I was in high school. In my high school days I like never talked to any one at all. The thing is I am a shy guy also I just don't have a lot to say and I have creeped out one girl and I think I may have creeped out 2 other ones to so because of that I am really afraid about creeping girls out its like my worst fear.

 

[Six]

The point of life is to find out what the point of life is. Since you now know what the point of life is all about I guess it is kind of pointless. Better just give up.

Or get out there, man up and grab life by the balls and make it tap out in 13 seconds or even less.

Your choice.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

It's not the weight, it's body-fat. I'm 170 and look like crap, because I'm not working out and drinking too much beer these days. You could be 210 and be a muscle-bound beast like Chris Hemsworth.

 

[spiderman2]

That is also true.

Depends on the person though. Some have debilitating social anxiety. If it's mild, he should try to handle it without meds though.

I do have trouble with social anxiety but it is a lot worse around woman because I just don't know what to say and I care more when it comes to woman then I do with men. With men I don't care as much because I do at least have a few friends. With woman I care more because I don't have even one female friend and really I even wish I had some female friends but all my friends are guys.

 

[spiderman2]

It's not the weight, it's body-fat. I'm 170 and look like crap, because I'm not working out and drinking too much beer these days. You could be 210 and be a muscle-bound beast like Chris Hemsworth.

While I don't know what my body fat is or what average is but I don't look like chris hemsworth lol.

 

[Lilbaz]

Go east. Travel Asia and your view of the world will change. You don't even really need money (at least in western standards). You could easily survive on $5 a day.

Never focus on the problem, focus on the solution.

 

[Six]

While I don't know what my body fat is or what average is but I don't look like chris hemsworth lol.

None of us do. Ok maybe I do a little but everyone else here?

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

Life is hard. It has no intrinsic meaning. But it does have pleasure and values. Get a grip. I mean that in the most friendly way. Get. A. Grip. There are other people in the world living in far worse circumstances, and they don't have the luxury of venting on a forum, they are too busy scraping together the bare essentials to maintain life for themselves and their immediate family. Life can be overwhelming... Life can indeed be unfair... But there's no way around it. How you deal with it is what will decide your character. Take inspiration where you can find it. Try to learn to live with the paradox that you are both powerless and the most powerful thing in your universe. Your destiny is your own. It is also at the same time battered by an infinite number of things that you have no control over. Seek more than facts. Seek WISDOM. These moments of panic... they are natural. The Universe can go on without you... but it would be a different Universe.

Look up the proverb of the the Buddha and the 99 problems. That's my advice.

 

[Thundercrack85]

Everything you have said is fixable though. It will take some work, but it's nothing insurmountable.

Never let it drive you to the point of considering suicide. Life has its ups and downs, sometimes more down than not.

If you really feel this way, you should talk to someone serious in real life. Everyone needs guidance from time to time.

Don't throw your life away.

 

[spiderman2]

Everything you have said is fixable though. It will take some work, but it's nothing insurmountable.

Never let it drive you to the point of considering suicide. Life has its ups and downs, sometimes more down than not.

If you really feel this way, you should talk to someone serious in real life. Everyone needs guidance from time to time.

Don't throw your life away.

While I do get those thoughts are suicide some days are easier and some days are harder of course and today is one of those harder days. I fell that way because like I said I fell like all I do is wore and if I wasn't around I wouldn't have to fell like that so it fells like that would just be the easier way to not have to deal with these things. Just fells like all my life is down and down and down some more. No I am not going to end it but really the only thing that keeps me from doing that is god. If I didn't believe in god I don't think I would even be around any more. I think I would have already ended things it not for god even though I question him a lot and don't understand whey things have to be this hard.